Robbed Posted April 3, 2008 Posted April 3, 2008 Hi, I;m new to the community, but I'm very unknowing of how women give signs that they like a guy. I've worked at my employer for around 5 years, and have been knowing a wonderful girl (who I thought was married) for at least 3 years. The first time I saw her I was blown away (as most silly guys are). Anyway she used to call on me to assist with moving things around in her office, and I came to establish a friendly-working relationship. A year later she moved to another part of the company and was promoted. Now don't get me wrong, I honor my employers policies on dating in the work place, and have not found myself involved otherwise with anyone. But anyway long story short, this girl is beautiful. Long pretty black hair, a beautiful smile and just sweet. The area I work in has equipment that most of our employees can purchase, they donate quite a bit during the course of the year, and this girl has been communicating with me directly to purchase a few things. Well, help me out here. There was one part of our company that I was working in, helping someone else and she walked in. I had no idea she was coming, but when I saw her, just out of impluse I went over because I hadn't seen her since she was promoted. I hugged her, and I'm not so sure I was supposed to do that, but she didn't object. And mind you, I'm not so kind of psycho, I'm just an open guy, friendly. After we embraced she sais "they told me you were over here"...and I'm like "Whattt???" (to myself). Anyway, I didn't think anything of it, but I was wondering...what did that mean? Ok, another incidence, where she came to my work area and purchased one of the products that we sell/donate and she was so happy to see me. We hugged, but nothing more. We chatted a while before I had to leave. Later the next time she called she said out of her own mouth "You know we should catch lunch sometimes, there's a few places on site"..."just anytime." Ok I'm thinking, she just said that right? Oh my word. And you see as a guy, I guess the thing is to just play it off as if she didn't say that...right? help me out here. Am I just stupid or what. Yes I want to get lunch with her, but she seems so professional, but I like her. Enough.... I need a woman who understand what I saying to respond to this. If you're in your late thirty's or in you forties help me out. And if you're not bitter with someone your response is welcomed. Thanks:rolleyes:
whichwayisup Posted April 3, 2008 Posted April 3, 2008 I have to ask though, is she married? You implied you thought she was, but never really confirmed it. Also, is there a policy at your place of employment that says no employees are allowed to date eachother? Or is it just most don't seem to date eachother at work. If she is single, ask her out but don't do it at work. The worst thing that could happen is, she tells you no. The best thing that could happen is, she will say yes. Though she did mention lunch... Is she friendly, touchy feely with everyone? If so, then I can see your confusion about this and not be sure if she likes you or is just being a buddy...If she isn't affectionate with most, then she could be interested in you. Again, it all depends on whether or not she is married. If she's married, hands off and move on.
Author Robbed Posted April 4, 2008 Author Posted April 4, 2008 (edited) Thanks whichwayisup, I appreciate the kind response. No she's not married, and that only affection she's shown has been with a hug (each time I see her). You know, I've made a couple of unannounced appearances while delivering equipment to her part of the building, and she just lights up like a Christmas tree. I'm thinking that if I'm not too pushy with the email or the visits she's ok with me. Oh there's another thing (which is not really important) but we're not of the same ethnicity's. The most important thing is, I think she likes me (I think). I just don't want to be too presumptuous, you know? Girls don't like that at all and I've been out there to understand. And don't get me wrong, I'm not going gah,gah...but I have always wanted a girl from her culture to take interest in a guy like me. I'm pretty easy going, have a great job, even tempered, tall, carmel brown and very loving. Just want to share my love and time with someone who enjoys nice things. Good background, no crazy stuff unless it's just fun kind-of crazy. You know what I mean? Whichwayisup, she is so beautiful...gezzzz. Sweet, sweet girl but I'm not sure what she thinks of me. How can I find out? (indirectly). Got any ideas? Edited April 4, 2008 by Robbed
carhill Posted April 4, 2008 Posted April 4, 2008 Um, not a woman, but often sound like one Go to lunch, see how it goes and, if you feel a positive vibe from her, ask her to join you at xxx (think of this beforehand). Don't be ambiguous. Specify. Tell her you'd love for her to join you. If she declines, smile and thank her for lunch and leave it at that. Women sometimes need to digest things. If she's interested, she'll be in touch. She knows where to find you
Author Robbed Posted April 4, 2008 Author Posted April 4, 2008 Gotcha, thanks carhill. I'll keep that in mind for sure.
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