mortensorchid Posted April 3, 2008 Posted April 3, 2008 I'm 33 years old. I see now how better suited I am to face disappointments than I was in my teens and twenties. Just recently I had this situation. I met this guy on line a while back, we chatted for a bit. He seemed like a "nice guy", but he was a little less preppy and edgy than me. He said though that he was willing to see what life on "the wild side" was like for me, as my whole social scene is very rock n' roll and partying while his is about sports and working out. So I was careful to bring him out to places but not overwhelm him with a roomful of people I know and not him. We were going to go out last weekend. He was actually very punctual about responding to emails or phone calls, but I didn't hear from him. I was going to introduce him to my friends (or at least a few of them) that night. I called him that night before I was going to go out, and he said "Oh I'm sorry, I screwed up and I'm out with my one friend at this bar across town." That wasn't true, I realized, he knew exactly what he was doing and wasn't interested in meeting my friends because he felt like he wouldn't fit in. So, I just left it at that. He said he'd call me, and he hasn't called or contacted me since. Oh well, life goes on. But, I am happier now that I am better able to deal with these things than I was in my twenties. He's a dumb jock and it's his loss.
I am who I am Posted April 3, 2008 Posted April 3, 2008 (edited) Sounds like you two were just not a good match. Maybe he was into YOU, but not your friends. Maybe he wasn't into "the wild side". he knew exactly what he was doing and wasn't interested in meeting my friends because he felt like he wouldn't fit in. Doesn't matter. What does, however, is this He's a dumb jock and it's his loss.Wow! Really? While I give you props on the self-confidence, this comment comes off as someone that actually cares about said "dumb jock". I respect that you are confident and secure within yourself, but that last line screams... I AM NOT CONFIDENT OR SECURE! You are a woman! A SINGLE woman! go out there and date! Date many men at once (though, I wouldn't recommend sleeping with all of them). Go Have FUN! When you find the right guy... you will want noone but him... so ditch the other phone numbers that keep calling you. Remember... you are a woman! Then remember.... not all guys will find you to be a great catch.... just like you don't find all men to be. Edited April 3, 2008 by I am who I am
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