GreenGold Posted July 16, 2003 Posted July 16, 2003 Hey I am very confused as to whether or not I should contact my ex. I was the one to break it off. It happened three days ago. I just want her to know that I am here for her if she wants to chat or needs anything. I am not sure if this will give her false hope that we will get back together again, though, I think that she knows that it is final. Should I wait for her to call me? Should I give her space? Should I reach out to her in an email or the like to let her know that she can contact me if she wants? thanks
michiganmale27 Posted July 16, 2003 Posted July 16, 2003 Even though it sounds like a nice gesture, in all honesty I would cut off all contact with this girl. I was dumped by my ex, and was doing GREAT, until contacted last week. All it does is just rekindles the sadness you felt when the relationship broke off. Furthermore it made me angry, and I treated the girl I was dating now like S@!% when we went out this past weekend because I was so angered by the contact. Let her deal with her stages of grief on her own terms. If she wants to talk to you, she will contact you. Otherwise to save the sanity of the two of you, it might be best to just cut off all ties. I found out that when I stopped contact with Ms. X that the pain I was feeling went away after a few days. The old saying out of sight out of mind is so true. Good Luck!
brunette4u Posted July 16, 2003 Posted July 16, 2003 From past experience,I think you should contact her. It is hard enough to be broken up with, and if you just let her know that youarethinking about her, but in no way to get back together, then that would be ok. I think it shows maturity and respect... but,then again, why did you break up? This could tell a lot, too.
mich81 Posted July 16, 2003 Posted July 16, 2003 My advice is... if you really care about this girl, give her some space. I'm going throught this right now, my ex wants to "be there" for me but it just makes it that much harder to move on. You obviously broke up for a reason, so let it go and move on, don't make it any harder on yourself or her. Just my opinion
pink_is_cool_15 Posted July 10, 2004 Posted July 10, 2004 Calling her would be very wrong as she will probably get fulse hope. But you do need to let her know that your still here for her and everything. Maybe you should write her a letter saying your realtionship was great blah blah and let her know your still wanting to have a friendship with her and your still there for her but do not do it through phone call...
jw32802 Posted July 10, 2004 Posted July 10, 2004 why do you want to contact her/ are you having regrets? does she WANT you back and does she call YOU?
pink_is_cool_15 Posted July 10, 2004 Posted July 10, 2004 actually i agree with what jw32802 said aswell good point!!
pink_is_cool_15 Posted July 10, 2004 Posted July 10, 2004 You asked why does he want to contact her is he having regrets i never thought of that, its r good one
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