lost with love Posted April 3, 2008 Posted April 3, 2008 Hey all! I've been viewing these forums for some time now, but I never felt the need to post until now. I have not had much experience in the relationship department as I have only been with one girl. Lately I have been really confused about this girl that I like (we are both 20 year old college students) and I would love to receive some advice. We met a few months ago and stayed in contact pretty much through IM's and texting. We've only hung out 2 or 3 times, and each time she seemed very interested and told me that she wants to continue seeing me. However, her schedule is VERY busy and she hardly has any time to ever meet up (she works two jobs besides going to school). I think I've made it pretty clear to her that I like her. Recently she told me online that she wants to hang out really bad, but that school and work makes it hard for her. She even said "I want to kiss you already", and that she wanted me to kiss her each time we hung out (ya, I wussed out on making the first move lol). The reason why I'm confused is because we have made several plans in the past to hang out but she either had something else come up or she would say that she's too tired, doesn't feel good, etc... If she really is interested wouldn't she find the time to actually see me? Also, she never seems to initiate contact with me either. I seem to be the one to always send the first text/IM and I really don't want to seem desperate. I'm just not 100% sure that she's interested in me. However, I really like her and I think about her a lot. I can't stop thinking about how she said that she wants to kiss me... I've been pondering over showing up to her house randomly one night and just laying one on her when she opens the door. I know that it's a risk but I figure it would definitely show me where I stand depending on how she take it. Anyone think that this is a bad idea? Any other suggestions or advice on how I should handle the situation? Thanks!
tanbark813 Posted April 3, 2008 Posted April 3, 2008 The reason why I'm confused is because we have made several plans in the past to hang out but she either had something else come up or she would say that she's too tired, doesn't feel good, etc... If she really is interested wouldn't she find the time to actually see me? Yes. But her saying she wants to kiss you is a good sign. Also, she never seems to initiate contact with me either. I seem to be the one to always send the first text/IM and I really don't want to seem desperate. Make definite plans the next time you talk to her. If she declines or agrees but then flakes then pull back a little. Don't contact her for a while. Let her do some initiation. If she's genuinely interested she'll make the effort to contact you. Actions speak louder than words. I've been pondering over showing up to her house randomly one night and just laying one on her when she opens the door. ... Anyone think that this is a bad idea? YES, it's a bad idea. Don't show up unannounced. Any other suggestions or advice on how I should handle the situation? See above about making definite plans. And if you do manage to meet up with her, kiss her for f**k's sake. Good luck, bro.
xpaperxcutx Posted April 3, 2008 Posted April 3, 2008 Well I would find it creepy getting a kiss from a guy I haven't even been on a date with... But from what you've written, she's interested but is too busy to make any definite plans with you. Is there any chance for you to make a definite date plan with her? If you really like her, then at least have the decency to take her out on an official date first before you actually plant one on her. Don't come on too strong but ask her out and be firm on the specific time and date so she would not back out of it. Make sure that she's not busy on that day so she wouldn't come up with an excuse.
Author lost with love Posted April 3, 2008 Author Posted April 3, 2008 Thanks for the replies! We have been on a date already where we went out for dinner then saw a movie. We have also met up another time at this bar/club and had a great time. She said that she wanted to continue seeing me on both occassions. Also, what do you mean by "definite" plans? I guess it means to specify a certain time or knowing exactly what we would do? Like I said, we have made multiple plans to meet up but we only specified the day and not the exact time or what we would do
tanbark813 Posted April 3, 2008 Posted April 3, 2008 Also, what do you mean by "definite" plans? I guess it means to specify a certain time or knowing exactly what we would do? Yes. Have a date, time, and activity in mind to suggest to her.
xpaperxcutx Posted April 3, 2008 Posted April 3, 2008 Also, what do you mean by "definite" plans? I guess it means to specify a certain time or knowing exactly what we would do? Like I said, we have made multiple plans to meet up but we only specified the day and not the exact time or what we would do What Tanbark said. I also like to add that you should set up the date when she's actually free and wouldn't back out at the last minute.
Author lost with love Posted April 3, 2008 Author Posted April 3, 2008 Thanks guys, great help so far!
DanielMadr Posted April 3, 2008 Posted April 3, 2008 Major tease. You are a Target On Girls Shooting Range. They practice there their seducing skills. Eye-lash wink, hug, kiss are their weapons of practice. Anyone can seduce a guy with sex or real love. Dont get angry at her. Just turn tables on her. Let her know you are not interested that much - withdraw attention. You will show her she has to walk the walk. At least you will help to educate another teasing spoiled little girl.
DanielMadr Posted April 3, 2008 Posted April 3, 2008 Yes. But her saying she wants to kiss you is a good sign. It means jack shayt, brother. Why she said that? It made him happy, slobbering puppy, didnt it? She is the player. She Plays with food she doesnt want to eat. Only thing he can do is not to be so happy to be played with or eaten at all. Only possible tactic how to get AW is to go back, go back....she starts panicking and starts to run towards you and then you suddenly stops and she runs on your dick. But who on earth would do this for an AW in the first place? Only a player who gets exactly the same ego boost or fun out of playing.
tanbark813 Posted April 3, 2008 Posted April 3, 2008 It means jack shayt, brother. Why she said that? It made him happy, slobbering puppy, didnt it? She may have said it to toy with him but it also may have been flirty encouragement. Afterall they have been on a couple dates and he has yet to kiss her.
DanielMadr Posted April 3, 2008 Posted April 3, 2008 She may have said it to toy with him but it also may have been flirty encouragement. Afterall they have been on a couple dates and he has yet to kiss her. She may be serial dater (similar to serial killer) Its always best to prepare for the worst and hope for the best. As opposed to: Prepare (act like) she loves him already and have dark thoughts (doubts) in mind.
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