ifallelsefalls Posted April 2, 2008 Posted April 2, 2008 Hi Im new to this forum but my friend suggested it. I have been seeing this guy for a month or so. At first things were great until he started talking about his past relationships. He told me that he thinks that he will never find a good girl becuz hes been cheated on so many times. After he started talking about his past relationships his outlook on girls did a 360. He always makes comments about how they are this or that. He never tells me specifically that Im that way, but he doesnt imply that Im not either. Is this what I can expect it to stay like?
sedona Posted April 2, 2008 Posted April 2, 2008 Yup, probably. Listen to what he says. He's telling you what he's like. Believe him.
Author ifallelsefalls Posted April 2, 2008 Author Posted April 2, 2008 What is the point of dating someone, treated them a certain way then resorting to crude remarks? If its how he feels about girls why even date. I just dont understand.
peace_pipe Posted April 2, 2008 Posted April 2, 2008 What is the point of dating someone, treated them a certain way then resorting to crude remarks? If its how he feels about girls why even date. I just dont understand. Because he refuses to give up! Truth is, a lot of men and women are worthless in relationships. So he's just stating reality really. I don't think he believes ALL girls are bad. He's just not naive. he obviously has some hope left for women ore he wouldn't be dating, unless he's just an axe murderer.
peace_pipe Posted April 2, 2008 Posted April 2, 2008 (edited) Hi Im new to this forum but my friend suggested it. I have been seeing this guy for a month or so. At first things were great until he started talking about his past relationships. He told me that he thinks that he will never find a good girl becuz hes been cheated on so many times. After he started talking about his past relationships his outlook on girls did a 360. He always makes comments about how they are this or that. He never tells me specifically that Im that way, but he doesnt imply that Im not either. Is this what I can expect it to stay like? This guy kind of sounds like me, a bit pessimistic and a bit realistic. I don't know how extreme he gets. I have a bad opinion of dating overall, but that doesn't necessarily have to be a reflection of you. My advice: Show him how cool a girl can be. Be the opposite of the behavior that has hurt him in the past. Do it time and time again, he will turn around if you're consistent enough. If that doesn't change his attitude, nothing ever will. My current / ex girlfriend used to tell me how messed up it was that I had such a pessimistic point of view. Then I explained to her some of the stuff I've been put through. And she was like "I would never do that to you." And then 4 months later she apologized for doing just that. Edited April 2, 2008 by peace_pipe
dreamergrl Posted April 2, 2008 Posted April 2, 2008 I think it truly depends on how far he takes it and how often he says things. A lot of people tend to have a downward outlook after a bad experience, but at the same time, if he's being rude to you, or you find it offensive, I'd move on. I do my best to treat a new relationship as just that - not as if they are my ex and deserve to take the hit for my anger (if there is anger).
Legend Posted April 2, 2008 Posted April 2, 2008 it doesn't sound like it will get much better. he's got issues he's got to deal with before dating anyone else. move on... next!
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