Crying every day since I moved back into the house.

[jeffrey_e]

Its been awhile since I've written in this group. I was doing very well but since the stbex moved out into her own appartment and I've moved back into the house all these emotions came back.

 

After 3 months on a friends couch I moved back into the house. The soon to be ex has moved out. 27 years of marriage gone. Just like that. No fight. She realized she no longer feels that way towards me and gets an Attorney. True she has an emotional illness but this is how she feels.

 

I've had moments of crying every day. Why am I so scared? What can I do to help myself. I have a therapist and friends but I still feel this way.

 

One friend said I was now going through acceptance. What do you think?

 

Your comments are welcome.

 

Thank You all.

 

Jeffrey

[sumdude]

You're grieving the loss of your marriage, waht was and what could have been. It takes time and what you're feeling is normal... not that it helps all that much to know that... but it helps. I'm just over a year out... still have some bad days but on the whole it keeps improving over time. This may be the hardest thing you'll ever go through in life. On the list of life's greates stressors are death of spouse and divorce.. seems like divorce just leaves you hanging because there is no 'closure' so you just keep living.

 

The stages of greif aren't so clear cut...

 

shock/denial

anger

bargaining

depression

acceptance

 

You bounce between them all, sometimes in one day. Sounds like you're hitting some depression. Just know you're not alone, a lot of us here have been there and still are going through it.

[john30]

Its been awhile since I've written in this group. I was doing very well but since the stbex moved out into her own appartment and I've moved back into the house all these emotions came back.

 

After 3 months on a friends couch I moved back into the house. The soon to be ex has moved out. 27 years of marriage gone. Just like that. No fight. She realized she no longer feels that way towards me and gets an Attorney. True she has an emotional illness but this is how she feels.

 

 

I've had moments of crying every day. Why am I so scared? What can I do to help myself. I have a therapist and friends but I still feel this way.

 

One friend said I was now going through acceptance. What do you think?

 

Your comments are welcome.

 

Thank You all.

 

Jeffrey

 

Sorry for your pain Jeff.

 

I don't think it helps living in the place you shared with your wife. I am still living in our home (wife left 7 weeks ago) I still keep finding things that bring it all flooding back, like tins of food that she had bought and I know that sounds silly but it does bring it all back.

 

Recently, I went round our home and threw everything that reminds me of her away, or hid it well so I can't find it.

 

I know how hard this is Jeff, but I'm sure it will improve if we just stick with it.

 

Good luck,

 

John.

[milena35]

See if they have this group around where you live, it really helped me by seeing how many people were going through the same thing. I started to see them beginning of March and by the end I was not as angry, I am still angry but already thinking of forgiving my spouse. Be strong and realize that there is a reason why these things happen all the time.

 

milena