usababe Posted April 2, 2008 Posted April 2, 2008 I met this guy 5 months ago (he's 23 and I'm 25) we live in the same small town and go out in the same places. He's a pretty decent guy I know all his family and friends. One night we got chatting to eachother and one thing led to another and we ended up making out. We swoped numbers and went on one date but after he told me he didn't want a relationship with anyone at the moment but that he really liked me. He kept texting me after almost every day just chatting and he would stare at me when I was dancing and I always caught him looking at me across the bar. I felt like there was something deeper than he was admitting there, I tried to move on but ended up meeting him out again and again and kissing him a few more times. Everytime he would be really affectionate and tell me how much he likes me etc. Then he started kissing other girls but always would just be a once off, he would still come up and chat to me and text me during the week. Anyway I was out this weekend and after a few drinks his friend came onto me, and I kissed him back. Ever since my guy has been texting me non stop for 3 days saying how upset he is about it. I know I shouldn't have kissed his friend of all people but he hasn't treated me very well but he's making me feel very bad now. Why is he so upset and anxious to talk to me if he doesn't care about me? did I just hurt his pride or does he have feelings he's not admitting?
HeavenScent Posted April 2, 2008 Posted April 2, 2008 Why is he so upset and anxious to talk to me if he doesn't care about me? did I just hurt his pride or does he have feelings he's not admitting? He's the type of guy that it's ok for him to whatever he wants but it's not ok for you to do it. Doesn't matter if you guys are not exclusive. He might be very upset for the fact that you kissed his friend. Were the girls he kissed, your friends? No? If you want something serious and long term, he's not worth pursuing. He sounds like total nutcase that is not sure of what he wants.
vivrantflo Posted April 2, 2008 Posted April 2, 2008 I Wouldnt go as far as to call the guy a "nutcase".. but he's young and lacks some maturity. He's upset cause you made out with his buddy.. Anyway, he's young, and doesnt appear ready to settle down. Move on if you're looking for a serious relationship... and try to avoid making out with friends of the men you're interested in.
HeavenScent Posted April 2, 2008 Posted April 2, 2008 I Wouldnt go as far as to call the guy a "nutcase".. but he's young and lacks some maturity. You wouldn't... but I would
Citizen Erased Posted April 2, 2008 Posted April 2, 2008 This is going nowhere. You need to let him, and the drama, go.
dreamergrl Posted April 2, 2008 Posted April 2, 2008 I agree you need to move on - as he obviously does not want a serious relationship. Sounds like he just wants to have "fun" right now. As far as being upset about kissing his friend - it's either that he was kissing his friend that upset him, or he wants to be able to play the field, but doesn't feel its okay for the girls he's seeing to do the same. I'm curious as to if he'd be just as upset if you had kissed someone that isn't his friend.
Legend Posted April 2, 2008 Posted April 2, 2008 can you say MISTAKE??? Don't ever kiss your bf's friend. you've just ruined your relationship, and when he finds out (and of course he will) the guy you kissed will ultimately have to choose you or his buddy, generally we pick our buddies:cool:
dreamergrl Posted April 2, 2008 Posted April 2, 2008 can you say MISTAKE??? Don't ever kiss your bf's friend. you've just ruined your relationship, and when he finds out (and of course he will) the guy you kissed will ultimately have to choose you or his buddy, generally we pick our buddies:cool: He's not her bf tho - and there is no relationship. He's kissing on other girls, doesn't want a relationship...
Author usababe Posted April 2, 2008 Author Posted April 2, 2008 I agree you need to move on - as he obviously does not want a serious relationship. Sounds like he just wants to have "fun" right now. As far as being upset about kissing his friend - it's either that he was kissing his friend that upset him, or he wants to be able to play the field, but doesn't feel its okay for the girls he's seeing to do the same. I'm curious as to if he'd be just as upset if you had kissed someone that isn't his friend. He says he wouldn't have been upset if it was someone else but I don't know. It's all a bit weird because he text me today and told me his friend actually likes me and then text me later to tell me he likes me too but now it's all messed up cause of his friend.
dreamergrl Posted April 3, 2008 Posted April 3, 2008 He says he wouldn't have been upset if it was someone else but I don't know. It's all a bit weird because he text me today and told me his friend actually likes me and then text me later to tell me he likes me too but now it's all messed up cause of his friend. I personally would have told him that he had the chance but he made his choice in what he wants.
IrishCarBomb Posted April 3, 2008 Posted April 3, 2008 This guy is a child. If you expect anything mature from him, do not get involved. However, for some juicy drama, stick around.
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