HouseOfCards Posted April 2, 2008 Posted April 2, 2008 Originally posted this in "In Search Of...", figure it makes more sense here. So weird story, and it starts in about the worst place possible: Craigslist. One night a few weeks ago I got bored and frustrated with the lack of girls who I considered "my type" at my college, and so on our town's local Craigslist I posted a semi-rant called "Cool Girls Of *******, Please Come Out Of Hiding". Pretty much just said that I wanted someone to confirm to me that all the smart, music-obsessed, cute artsy-fartsy girls in my town weren't just hiding from society so that no guys could meet them. I made some comment saying that I know they exist because I see them at my favorite concerts, with boyfriend in hand. Anyway, I get a response to this post from a girl asking what type of bands I was referring to, since I didn't elaborate in my post. I told her some of the bands I listen to, and she said she shared some of them in common. She said she was out of town for a few weeks, but that once she got back in town, she'd be interested in sharing music with me. Since I'm always up for new music, I said sure. I figured she meant via AIM or something. Today I finally talk to her on AIM and she asked me if I wanted to instead meet at a local coffee shop to "make it easier" to exchange music. She acknowledged that it probably sounded creepy considering we met via Craigslist, and we laughed about it, but I obliged, and now I'm meeting her at a coffee shop to "trade music" in two days. Is this girl really only interested in meeting up to exchange music, or did she kind of use it as an excuse for a first date? I don't really know how these things work, I'm afraid...
D-Lish Posted April 2, 2008 Posted April 2, 2008 Craig's List is just another avenue of meeting someone. Yes, she has asked you out- probably to trade music and to see if the two of you click in person. You posted a rant about where all the cute girls are- and a girl responded. She wouldn't have responded in the first place if she didn't have intentions of getting to know you. You're a male, she's a female, you have similar interests. I see no harm in meeting her for a coffee and seeing if you're compatible.
Cov Posted April 2, 2008 Posted April 2, 2008 On the face of it, it sounds innocent doesn't it? Here's a few possibilities I've come up with; 1) She wants to meet up in person to exchange music on a platonic level. 2) She's taken a shine to you and wants to meet up with you to see how you two interact, to get a better overall picture of you. To me it seems like option two because these days with broadband you can transfer tens of music files to another person with relative ease. Just treat it as a meeting between two acquantainces rather than a first date and see where you head.
MalachiX Posted April 2, 2008 Posted April 2, 2008 On the face of it, it sounds innocent doesn't it? Here's a few possibilities I've come up with; 1) She wants to meet up in person to exchange music on a platonic level. 2) She's taken a shine to you and wants to meet up with you to see how you two interact, to get a better overall picture of you. 3) She's a serial killer looking for her next victim. 4) She's doing a story for Dateline on guys who try to meet under-age girls through Craig's List. 5) She's a dude.
xpaperxcutx Posted April 2, 2008 Posted April 2, 2008 3) She's a serial killer looking for her next victim. 4) She's doing a story for Dateline on guys who try to meet under-age girls through Craig's List. 5) She's a dude. MalachiX you're pretty pessimistic.... HouseOfCards, I think that she's definitely a bit curious about you and would like to meet you in person to get to know you better. The worse thing that could happen is you're not attracted to her at the meeting and you waste $4 on a cup of coffee. Anyways have a fun time.
Nevermind Posted April 2, 2008 Posted April 2, 2008 She did ask you to meet her, but not on a date. Follow Cov's advice: be casual and confident. If there's more then just go with the flow.
Author HouseOfCards Posted April 2, 2008 Author Posted April 2, 2008 3) She's a serial killer looking for her next victim. 4) She's doing a story for Dateline on guys who try to meet under-age girls through Craig's List. 5) She's a dude. She's not underage. In fact, she's a year older than I am as it turns out. And I did get to see her picture yesterday. I did not see a penis... but then again, I guess you never do until it's too late...
carhill Posted April 2, 2008 Posted April 2, 2008 I did not see a penis Care to share that picture? Seriously, back in the days of Match.com infancy (it was called matchmaker back then), I met a really beautiful and friendly woman and did a number of casual things with her. I remember taking her to the zoo one day and shooting some pictures (back when digital cameras were brand new) and later, when looking at them, and thinking about the vibe I was getting from her, I started to realize that she was likely a gender reassignment. Anyway, enjoy the "date". If you get on, ask her out on a proper one
Author HouseOfCards Posted April 4, 2008 Author Posted April 4, 2008 Alright, well it wasn't some big love connection, but it was still fun. Most of the talk was music-focused since we already knew that was the one big thing we had in common, but she's a senior and about to graduate, so I don't see anything major happening there. Nice girl though. Also, I gave it away on the first date, so she probably doesn't respect me anymore. That's right: we shared our music collections with each other. But some days, for me, getting a gigabyte worth of new music is just as great as sex. Not really, though.
carhill Posted April 4, 2008 Posted April 4, 2008 Help me out here, 'cause I'm old and stupid. You go out for coffee, share your music collection with a nice girl and don't see anything "major" happening because she's going to graduate college this year, but you're bored and frustrated by the lack of girls. So, having a little fun for a few months (until she graduates) with a nice girl who likes music is what, a bad thing? Color me
Cov Posted April 4, 2008 Posted April 4, 2008 He can still keep in contact with her when she graduates and how do you know nothing major will happen, HoC (Good Madina Lake song)? You've not even been on a date yet, there's no need to be pessimistic, sir. Just chill together and see what happens or ask her out on a date sometime, if she's interested she'll take you up on the offer. And if nothing comes of it, you got some new music and got to know one of the lovely girls.
Replicant Posted April 4, 2008 Posted April 4, 2008 Originally posted this in "In Search Of...", figure it makes more sense here. So weird story, and it starts in about the worst place possible: Craigslist. One night a few weeks ago I got bored and frustrated with the lack of girls who I considered "my type" at my college, and so on our town's local Craigslist I posted a semi-rant called "Cool Girls Of *******, Please Come Out Of Hiding". Pretty much just said that I wanted someone to confirm to me that all the smart, music-obsessed, cute artsy-fartsy girls in my town weren't just hiding from society so that no guys could meet them. I made some comment saying that I know they exist because I see them at my favorite concerts, with boyfriend in hand. Anyway, I get a response to this post from a girl asking what type of bands I was referring to, since I didn't elaborate in my post. I told her some of the bands I listen to, and she said she shared some of them in common. She said she was out of town for a few weeks, but that once she got back in town, she'd be interested in sharing music with me. Since I'm always up for new music, I said sure. I figured she meant via AIM or something. Today I finally talk to her on AIM and she asked me if I wanted to instead meet at a local coffee shop to "make it easier" to exchange music. She acknowledged that it probably sounded creepy considering we met via Craigslist, and we laughed about it, but I obliged, and now I'm meeting her at a coffee shop to "trade music" in two days. Is this girl really only interested in meeting up to exchange music, or did she kind of use it as an excuse for a first date? I don't really know how these things work, I'm afraid... I think there are plenty of ways in which she could have exchanged music with you online had she wanted to just get into your playlist. I would say this is a legit date so show up with that mindset. If instead she shows up with her laptop and flash memory i would say she's either trying to musically impress you or all about business. If you want this to go somewhere, just tell her you don't put out (the music) on the first date and schedule a second. If she's impressed at this point she will surely accept.
Replicant Posted April 5, 2008 Posted April 5, 2008 Unfortunately, he already "put out", so he's hosed Yeah i chimed in with that advice a little too late Giving up the music too fast follows the same rules as sex obviously, now she's lost all respect. I hope the OP at least had some kind of protection, who knows what viruses she was carrying
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