Groovy Posted April 2, 2008 Posted April 2, 2008 OK, so I have not been here for a while. I met a really great guy and it's been a few months. My issue is this, he works 80 hours a week or more. He owns several properties and I am an hourly office worker. Initially I liked the fact his life was his job but he was suggesting I look for another position to raise my income and I know he meant well, but it just made me feel mismatched due to ambition. My job is to pay the bills, unlike him it is not my identity. I have a lot to offer him, the fact I am a homeowner, no kids (and we both want them), etc but I'm no lawyer or doctor or have any desire to be so. Has anyone else dated someone with a totally different level of ambition where it worked out OK? I'm passionate about many things in life but my job is not one of them.
Advocate's Devilette Posted April 2, 2008 Posted April 2, 2008 Maybe you are reading too much into his comment. He may see that you struggle financially (not saying that you do), and was simply giving a suggestion about earning more money. Or...it could be that you two have different core values regarding careers and he is the type that needs to be with someone with a more "prestigious" career. (Again, I am not saying your job is not impressive at all or making judgments like that.) That said, I am female and I would not date an office worker unless it was more of a professional level job. It has nothing to do with income, just that I work in a professional field and it would be difficult for me to find a lot in common with someone who doesn't.
Green Posted April 2, 2008 Posted April 2, 2008 doesnt sound like its going to work, you usualy have to date some one at your ambition level
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