datingmum Posted April 3, 2008 Posted April 3, 2008 Just curious, what's your relationship history in brief?
Author TheFonz Posted April 3, 2008 Author Posted April 3, 2008 Just curious, what's your relationship history in brief? Well aren't we the nosy one ?
redfathom Posted April 3, 2008 Posted April 3, 2008 There are a lot of posts so this may have been said, but it's my opinion that some men prefer porn to real women because they (women whose job it is to make men feel like they are da bomb) don't talk back. They won't judge you or tell you you're small, you're not as good as the last guy, etc. So really you want a women who will think you're king because maybe you are a little insecure and can't take real world criticism.
Author TheFonz Posted April 3, 2008 Author Posted April 3, 2008 There are a lot of posts so this may have been said, but it's my opinion that some men prefer porn to real women because they (women whose job it is to make men feel like they are da bomb) don't talk back. They won't judge you or tell you you're small, you're not as good as the last guy, etc. So really you want a women who will think you're king because maybe you are a little insecure and can't take real world criticism. I can take criticism if it has a purpose. If it's just intended to be negativity then I don't care for it too much. Example, if I told my girl she was getting fat that woulkd be constructive criticism. But if I told her she never does anything right or she stupid, etc. that would have no useful purpose. How can someone or something make you feel good and if can't also make you feel bad?
datingmum Posted April 3, 2008 Posted April 3, 2008 Yes, in fact, I am!!! Go on then, spill it... 3 word summary of each will do
sally4sara Posted April 3, 2008 Posted April 3, 2008 I would conclude that she's not a good catch, what else is there to conclude? If you don't give a person areason to complain, then they won't complain. Unless they're just a complainer. That is a relative statement. Too often, what is a good reason to complain is determined to be trivial nagging the person hearing it. I would imagine many times with someone who has your views, there is a woman eating her feelings instead of being at ease about bringing up the issue. How would you like to have something troubling you enough to take to your SO just to have her tell you you're being dumb and you have no reason to feel that way?
whichwayisup Posted April 3, 2008 Posted April 3, 2008 I haven't read anything on this thread except the 1st post. What do women think of what I do? My way of doing things is as follows. I want a girl who is young and hot who will act like a pornstar/stripper on day1. After that and in the down time whenever she's not behaving in the role as my personal pornstar, I just want her to be agreeable and not nag, judge, or demand anything other than mutual company. In other words, just enjoy and value my company when she's not acting like a pornstar. And if she agrees to see me when I want to see her and does the preceding, then we have a relationship. What's wrong with doing things that way? So basically you want a woman to do what you want, when you want and not complain about it. YOu want her to be your slave, not only in the bedroom, but in the kitchen as well. You'll never have to compromise or do anything for her because GOD put her on Earth just for you. Well, I hope when you're older and more mature, you have a daughter. Enough said. If you can't figure out what I'm getting at, then ask, but I do hope you're a smart fella and can figure it out on your own. Good luck though in trying to find a woman who will do what you request of her..
Author TheFonz Posted April 3, 2008 Author Posted April 3, 2008 I haven't read anything on this thread except the 1st post. That was your first mistake.
redfathom Posted April 3, 2008 Posted April 3, 2008 I think people in relationships do give each other constructive criticism, because they care about what happens to the other person. Thus they also help each other grow. So do you want a women who will help you become a better person (how ever you see that) or do you want a girl who will give you sex, tell you you're the best she ever had, when maybe it sucked for her and she could give you some pointers if you wanted her to. What role would you play for her? The funny thing is you call her enjoying your company a role, like she is required to ACT like she enjoys your company. My question is, how would you know if she actually enjoyed your company? I guess if she stopped hanging with you that would be hint #1.
whichwayisup Posted April 3, 2008 Posted April 3, 2008 No, it wasn't a mistake because what I posted about had to do with your original opening post in this thread. I'm sure most of this thread has many side topics and other views that have opened up a big discussion. Anyway, care to comment on my thoughts? Have you thought about one day in the future, if you DO have a daughter how you would like a man to treat her? Or are you OK with a guy looking at your daughter like a piece of meat, showing her no real love, honestly and respect?
Lauriebell82 Posted April 3, 2008 Posted April 3, 2008 That was your first mistake. I don't think you have said anything that would give us any different opinion you since the first post.
Author TheFonz Posted April 3, 2008 Author Posted April 3, 2008 Anyway, care to comment on my thoughts? Your thoughts sound like a broken record in this thread, so I've already responded to your thoughts in this thread. If I had a daughter that's exactly how I want her relationship to be. The piece of meat theory is just a figament of your imagination.
DanielMadr Posted April 3, 2008 Posted April 3, 2008 Men nag too, they just don't see it as nagging. I guarantee the OP would get pissed off is this fanstasy didn't do his bidding...what would happen then? MEN! Of course men are pain in the azz too. Its not the point. You see all threads about How should men be in order for girls to live happily ever after. And now FonZ gives his How should women be in order for Him to live happily ever after. He is deliberately looking only on one side of the coin. He doesnt want to discuss what he has to do for her too. It is silly and provocative but maybe an eye opener for some - how can you demand from your SO to cherish you, if you dont cherish him. Man is not happy just because she is with him. She needs to move her azz a little. What I see in most relationships missing is that women dont praise their partners. For their strongness, support, help , love, character, decisiness, hot body............. you know what I mean. Lot of girls - not all - but unpleasantly many - are, well, spoiled, its all about them. They dont even know how to compliment guy - the very thing they rant about, how she is not complimented enough or in right way. Have you seen a thread "How to compliment a guy to make him feel more loved?". Few girls(women) asked that question but it is certainly not the mainstream. Not that I miss compliments.... no personal agenda here.
Author TheFonz Posted April 3, 2008 Author Posted April 3, 2008 I don't think you have said anything that would give us any different opinion you since the first post. I don't think anyone could say anything that would get through your set-in-stone opinion .
whichwayisup Posted April 3, 2008 Posted April 3, 2008 If I had a daughter that's exactly how I want her relationship to be. So you want your daughter to be the "porn star" in her relationship, do everything for her man and please him, be there for his every waking need 24/7. How sad... The piece of meat theory is just a figament of your imagination. LOL!
Author TheFonz Posted April 3, 2008 Author Posted April 3, 2008 Of course men are pain in the azz too. Its not the point. You see all threads about How should men be in order for girls to live happily ever after. And now FonZ gives his How should women be in order for Him to live happily ever after. He is deliberately looking only on one side of the coin. He doesnt want to discuss what he has to do for her too. It is silly and provocative but maybe an eye opener for some - how can you demand from your SO to cherish you, if you dont cherish him. Man is not happy just because she is with him. She needs to move her azz a little. What I see in most relationships missing is that women dont praise their partners. For their strongness, support, help , love, character, decisiness, hot body............. you know what I mean. Lot of girls - not all - but unpleasantly many - are, well, spoiled, its all about them. They dont even know how to compliment guy - the very thing they rant about, how she is not complimented enough or in right way. Have you seen a thread "How to compliment a guy to make him feel more loved?". Few girls(women) asked that question but it is certainly not the mainstream. Not that I miss compliments.... no personal agenda here. Yes this is exactly what I'm saying. Some people just don't like how I'm saying it on top of not liking the message, so they have zero tolerance to it and a closed mind.
Author TheFonz Posted April 3, 2008 Author Posted April 3, 2008 So you want your daughter to be the "porn star" in her relationship, do everything for her man and please him, be there for his every waking need 24/7. How sad... LOL! And I think it's said that you think anyone should want their daughter to be in a relationship with a man that has no backbone or principles and where there's constant strife and bickering about nonsense.
whichwayisup Posted April 3, 2008 Posted April 3, 2008 so they have zero tolerance to it and a closed mind. As do you. You have zero tolerance for what anyone else says and you DO have a closed mind. You live your so called "dating" life by a 'bible'.
datingmum Posted April 3, 2008 Posted April 3, 2008 Okay, okay. Maybe people are jumping up a down, reading into the OPs words what isn't there. I, for one, highly value sex. sex. sex. sex. Now, I'm of the 'I'm very dirty, but only with one guy' variety, so I don't have a raft of men floating behind me in my past. But I think it'd be great if me and my special someone had porn star sex everyday! In fact, I did in both my serious relationships! Even in turmoil! I also value being able to have a beer and laugh with the guys. In fact, I am inevitably the only girl ever invited to secret bad trips and out to the pub/club and even 'hunting' with the men. It is also a pre-requisite for me to be in a relationship where the first two points above are in place as a 'core'. I.e. great sex and friendship. It is when someone starts disrespecting my friendship, i.e. taking advantage by not advancing the relationship in a mutually satisfactory way or breaking promises, or generally being a jerk/grump/whatever that I'd turn into a nag! So, i haven't read everything on here, but am I missing the point of the fury?
Author TheFonz Posted April 3, 2008 Author Posted April 3, 2008 As do you. You have zero tolerance for what anyone else says and you DO have a closed mind. You live your so called "dating" life by a 'bible'. It's not by a Bible it's by what feels right and makes me happy personally.
whichwayisup Posted April 3, 2008 Posted April 3, 2008 And I think it's said that you think anyone should want their daughter to be in a relationship with a man that has no backbone or principles and where there's constant strife and bickering about nonsense. Talk about taking things to the extreme! I am shocked that you wouldn't want to see your daughter with someone who would love her, adore her, respect her, and together they'd grow as a couple, compromise with eachother, have fun and laugh together. It seems all you're focussed on is the MAN getting ALL his needs met and screw what the woman wants. Geez, what type of crap are you brainwashed by?
redfathom Posted April 3, 2008 Posted April 3, 2008 So you don't want her to complain, only compliment you. What if you got a hair cut and it was awful, would you want her to tell you to go back and have it redone, or tell you how incredibly handsme you are , even if she was lying? I do think people need to be more polite to their SO's I always tell my H "thank you" when he does something for me, even if it's just taking out the trash. I also tell him how handsome he looks. But I also tell him if he morning breath or something in his teeth. I am sure he appreicates those things too.
whichwayisup Posted April 3, 2008 Posted April 3, 2008 It's not by a Bible it's by what feels right and makes me happy personally. Then why is it so important that you joined LS to try to convince people that "your way" is the right way? You asked for opinions, asked what women thought and you got some.
Author TheFonz Posted April 3, 2008 Author Posted April 3, 2008 So, i haven't read everything on here, but am I missing the point of the fury? Probably but it's easy to do when the fury has no real point . I basically agree with your post. What's funny is, whether most women admit or not, most of them want and are having pornstar sex, but if a guy suys that's what he wants too, then those same people say, "no way Jose". So let me just say I don't want to have sex with my girl, and now they're all going to come and say, "good luck having a relationship without great sex!" :laugh:
Author TheFonz Posted April 3, 2008 Author Posted April 3, 2008 Then why is it so important that you joined LS to try to convince people that "your way" is the right way? You asked for opinions, asked what women thought and you got some. I'm not trying to convince anyone of anything. I'm just responding to people trying to convince me I'm wrong.
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