Nuguy12 Posted April 2, 2008 Posted April 2, 2008 My point is that real life is not like this at all. It can be a short term fantasy, but when you wake up next to that pornstar every morning, you will find that the basis for your relationship had better be a deep friendship and complete interest in her as a person. You described a fantasy sex life, but marriages that work have friendship and communication as the foundation...not sex. IMO, your description of the perfect relationship leaves out what she wants. Your description speaks only of what you want. Entering any relationship specifically as a means of fulfilling only your needs will end in failure. You should walk into a relationship with the idea that not only you will get what you want, but you will do everything to fulfill her needs. If you desire a pornstar, do you fit the description of a pornstar? Can you last for hours while she plays the sex kitten? IMO though you will find that women look for more than just porn sex. Yes, many like sex, but they want it as an intimate connection to their man. They feel that connection much more though through communication of feelings (not a very macho idea, but it is reality). many women need an emotional connection to enjoy a sexual connection. A great LTR will have as its basis friendship and commitment. Basing it on what you want may last for awhile, but I am guessing that in a few months (if even that long), the woman will realize that what SHE wants is not being met. Then you will be looking for a new pornstar. THis guy gives excellent advice for WOMEN . Switch his wisdom around girls and apply it to improving your relationship with that guy in your life.
Walk Posted April 2, 2008 Posted April 2, 2008 So if I were just like this perfect women you described, and could meet all your requirements (which I do!), what do I get in return? :bunny: My twin sis wants to know if you have a brother?
Author TheFonz Posted April 2, 2008 Author Posted April 2, 2008 My point is that real life is not like this at all. It can be a short term fantasy, but when you wake up next to that pornstar every morning, you will find that the basis for your relationship had better be a deep friendship and complete interest in her as a person. She's not a pornstar, she's like my personal pornstar. She is my friend and I am interested in her as a person. I don't see where your point is? You described a fantasy sex life, but marriages that work have friendship and communication as the foundation...not sex. Who said there was no communication and friendship? IMO, your description of the perfect relationship leaves out what she wants. Like what? If she wants drama, strife, or to play games, then she the wrong girl for me and I'm the wrong guy. Your description speaks only of what you want. Entering any relationship specifically as a means of fulfilling only your needs will end in failure. Why do you assume I'm not fulfilling her needs? She's happy and I'm happy, and that makes us both happy. What needs aren't being fulfilled, you haven't mentioned one? OK maybe you are going to go into more detail: You should walk into a relationship with the idea that not only you will get what you want, but you will do everything to fulfill her needs. If you desire a pornstar, do you fit the description of a pornstar? Can you last for hours while she plays the sex kitten? IMO though you will find that women look for more than just porn sex. Yes, many like sex, but they want it as an intimate connection to their man. I think yours and my definition of "porn sex" differs. To me it meant be physically but very much intimate. They feel that connection much more though through communication of feelings (not a very macho idea, but it is reality). many women need an emotional connection to enjoy a sexual connection. Not sure I'm agree with you that talking about my feelings and her feelings creates a better connection. She can talk about her feeling all she wants as long as she not nagging or blaming and that's fine. A great LTR will have as its basis friendship and commitment. Basing it on what you want may last for awhile, but I am guessing that in a few months (if even that long), the woman will realize that what SHE wants is not being met. Then you will be looking for a new pornstar. Eh, that could happen no matter how you go about dating.
Author TheFonz Posted April 2, 2008 Author Posted April 2, 2008 I totally agree.. that's the way to go!!! Only thing.. be more 'subtile' don't tell her like your post.. get a naive, dumb girl.. and she won't know you're playing her.. Good luck with a smart one though... Looks like you're my type of girl .
Lizzie60 Posted April 2, 2008 Posted April 2, 2008 Looks like you're my type of girl . hahaha.. I don't think so... it would be the other way around.. dude..
Author TheFonz Posted April 2, 2008 Author Posted April 2, 2008 So if I were just like this perfect women you described, and could meet all your requirements (which I do!), what do I get in return? :bunny: My twin sis wants to know if you have a brother? You get my company and everything that goes along with it. the same as I get. I actually do have a brother and few available male friends too. Although none of them re as cool as me .
Author TheFonz Posted April 2, 2008 Author Posted April 2, 2008 I think the best way to find what you're looking for is to cruise down aisle 3 at your local XXX store. There are several of these types of girls on the second shelf right beside their inflatable sheep counterparts. If you want a living, breathing version, you'll have to pry her off the arm of Hugh Heffner. Another word of advice: if you find a girl who meets your criteria, you might want to consider double bagging it... OK when I said my "personal pornstar" that doesn't automatically make her a "dirty" ho or an actual pornstar. You just seem to have such low expectations for what kind of woman you can get. Don't you think you're better than Hugh Heffner? He's like 80 and has 3 girls at the same time.
Trimmer Posted April 2, 2008 Posted April 2, 2008 Does every thread someone posts on here have to have the "correct" reason? I just wanted to see how many cool chicks are on here. Heck, I don't know we might want to date? What's wrong with that ? Nothing - I wanted to know what you do and whether it works. Does every thread by a DJ on here have to dodge the question of whether it actually works or not? Yes Fonz, what does women's approval or otherwise have to do with your life. Most men care too much BUT the smart ones could care less. Yeah, man. All this clamoring you're doing to get women's approval is kind of an AFC move, isn't it? Looks like you're my type of girl . You do know that Lizzie's a dude, right?
Author TheFonz Posted April 2, 2008 Author Posted April 2, 2008 Mail order bride would be your best bet. Are you implying that foreign women are more desirable? OK I refuseto respond to any replies that are just negativity.
Enema Posted April 2, 2008 Posted April 2, 2008 I'm saying that the type of woman that signs up to a mail-order bride agency are grateful for whatever they get. So, they show their gratitude by doing what you requested in the OP.
JamesM Posted April 2, 2008 Posted April 2, 2008 Nothing - I wanted to know what you do and whether it works. Does every thread by a DJ on here have to dodge the question of whether it actually works or not? I know it is interesting. He starts out with a description of what he wants, and then when pressed he starts saying that he will be everything she wants, too. TheFonz, your original post said nothing regarding communication and meeting her needs. Your post simply stated what you wanted and expected every day. It speaks of selfishness, While I am giving you the benefit of the doubt that you are serious, you do seem to have the DJ mentality which is a short term solution but not a long term one. As a guy who has been married for 18 years and as a guy who had a few longterm relationships, then I think I still have a clue what does work. I think you should use the "Be a Friend" Bible rather than the Don Juan Bible. You do know that Lizzie's a dude, right? Love it! And I know she...oops, he...will get a kick out of it, too. And Lizzie is not exactly fond of long term relationships, either. Don't you think you're better than Hugh Heffner? He's like 80 and has 3 girls at the same time. Yes, but every few years they are different ones. Are you looking for Hugh Hefner success or a long term marriage with your best friend and lover?
JamesM Posted April 2, 2008 Posted April 2, 2008 hehehe... look .. the new 'me'.. You are my kind of girl!
Crestfallen_KH Posted April 2, 2008 Posted April 2, 2008 I just wanted to see how many cool chicks are on here. Heck, I don't know we might want to date? What's wrong with that ? I LOVE April Fool's Day!
Author TheFonz Posted April 2, 2008 Author Posted April 2, 2008 You are my kind of girl! Still think he's my kind of "girl" just not attractive enough to date .
Advocate's Devilette Posted April 2, 2008 Posted April 2, 2008 Are you trying to say that men have not evolved past basic animal instinct and are in fact simple in what they want out of a relationship, just sex to fulfill the most base desires? You have basically dissed men here, and are basically saying that the main appeal of women to men is their vaginas.
johan Posted April 2, 2008 Posted April 2, 2008 My way of doing things is as follows. I want a girl who is young and hot who will act like a pornstar/stripper on day1. After that and in the down time whenever she's not behaving in the role as my personal pornstar, I just want her to be agreeable and not nag, judge, or demand anything other than mutual company. In other words, just enjoy and value my company when she's not acting like a pornstar. And if she agrees to see me when I want to see her and does the preceding, then we have a relationship. What's wrong with doing things that way? Nothing is wrong with it. It probably won't work, but when that starts to bother you then you'll either adjust or you'll go without. You have to realize there aren't any women worth being with who would sign up to act that way. The easiest way to see it is to imagine acting so passive yourself. You would never want to act like that, unless you were so desperate and depressed that you actually believed it would make people be nice to you. I'm sure you already knew everything that I posted. It's common sense. Unless you have a serious social disorder, I have to assume your real reason for posting this was to stir things up.
dreamergrl Posted April 2, 2008 Posted April 2, 2008 Are you implying that foreign women are more desirable? OK I refuseto respond to any replies that are just negativity. Fonz... why don't you just take Angelina away so I can have Brad :love:
sally4sara Posted April 2, 2008 Posted April 2, 2008 Like what? If she wants drama, strife, or to play games, then she the wrong girl for me and I'm the wrong guy. Why do you assume I'm not fulfilling her needs? She's happy and I'm happy, and that makes us both happy. What needs aren't being fulfilled, you haven't mentioned one? I need more clarification on your definition of "games". And I don't know if a your personal pornstar can fulfill your needs while still pursuing her education, career, other goals etc. Also relationships do require an amount of sacrifice. I am in a new city as part of my sacrifice. I am glad to do it but it was not my first choice. I have a 10 year old son. It is not my BF's bio child, but he treats him like his own and puts in as much effort as I in raising him. I get no complaints out of him, but I'm sure he could think of better things to do on a nice day than pull soccer duty. These are sacrifices we make for each other to ensure we are both happy. Being happy keeps the interest going for our pornstar moments.
Advocate's Devilette Posted April 2, 2008 Posted April 2, 2008 Basically all you are describing is an FWB, it's not rocket science or anything novel.
Author TheFonz Posted April 2, 2008 Author Posted April 2, 2008 I need more clarification on your definition of "games". And I don't know if a your personal pornstar can fulfill your needs while still pursuing her education, career, other goals etc. Why not she can take the time to do whatever she needs to do? Also relationships do require an amount of sacrifice. Why? I am in a new city as part of my sacrifice. I am glad to do it but it was not my first choice. I have a 10 year old son. It is not my BF's bio child, but he treats him like his own and puts in as much effort as I in raising him. I get no complaints out of him, but I'm sure he could think of better things to do on a nice day than pull soccer duty. Well I date locally and none of them have kids. But hey if she wants to move to me or if I decide to move, that's cool. If I know she has a kid going in I'd be fine with doing stuff with him as long as she doesn't use him as an excuse to avoid doing what I want her to. These are sacrifices we make for each other to ensure we are both happy. Being happy keeps the interest going for our pornstar moments. Why does being happy have to mean sacrificing? It doesn't.
Nevermind Posted April 2, 2008 Posted April 2, 2008 Quote: Also relationships do require an amount of sacrifice. Why? Whenever there is a situation where she wants A and you want B, you have two options: either chose C or one person sacrifices. C, however, is not always available. So very often people in a relationship find that they need to give up on something for the greater good (= being with the other person). This is not always as serious as it sounds. It might just be something simple like watching that chick flick in the cinema, because she really wants to see it, instead of the latest action movie. It might be her going to the steakhouse with you even though she isn't a big fan of meat. And it can be bigger, like moving to another city because that's the only way to stay together.
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