Lucky555 Posted April 1, 2008 Posted April 1, 2008 How do u know if the guy you are interested wants a relationship? What are the types of questions that he will ask you? I have had no luck finding one of these guys. I usually start out causal with them and it never progresses relationship wise...such as calling when they say they will, nice dinner dates, the whole 9 yards. Usually i get a couple good dates and the rest end up sucky or they just don't try any more and things terminate.
Chinook Posted April 1, 2008 Posted April 1, 2008 Jees, I'm so glad I don't date. This is why. People are fickle basically, they do what they want to. The only real way to know if someone wants a relationship is to ask them. Whether they want a relationship with you, is another matter entirely and imho, you can't know that until you've known someone a little while.... so if things are petering out early on, they're not wanting a relationship with you. That's not anything that you're doing or saying, it's something personal within them. Like I said, people are fickle. That's why I don't date anymore. I don't need other people's drama
TheFonz Posted April 1, 2008 Posted April 1, 2008 Usually i get a couple good dates and the rest end up sucky or they just don't try any more and things terminate. Why do you need banquet dinners? Anyway maybe with the ones that didn't give you "sucky" dates and who stopped contact you, maybe contact them?
TheFonz Posted April 1, 2008 Posted April 1, 2008 Jees, I'm so glad I don't date. This is why. People are fickle basically, they do what they want to. The only real way to know if someone wants a relationship is to ask them. Yeah would that you could just ask, "Will you be my BF/GF?", And get straight answer in return.
Chinook Posted April 1, 2008 Posted April 1, 2008 Yeah would that you could just ask, "Will you be my BF/GF?", And get straight answer in return.That's the problem with this world we live in, too many people are afraid to ask for what they want from someone. Even more depressing is they can't deal with not getting what they want... which is what prompts the issue of not getting a straight answer. My theory is, if someone is interested in you, you won't need to ask... they'll be ensuring you know about it.
TheFonz Posted April 1, 2008 Posted April 1, 2008 That's the problem with this world we live in, too many people are afraid to ask for what they want from someone. Even more depressing is they can't deal with not getting what they want... which is what prompts the issue of not getting a straight answer. My theory is, if someone is interested in you, you won't need to ask... they'll be ensuring you know about it. Except from reading on here women says it's advantageous to play hard to get and not have sex. So how's a guy suppose to know he really has a GF unless they have sex and continue to have sex .
Author Lucky555 Posted April 1, 2008 Author Posted April 1, 2008 yeah i guess i should just date more..some of the relationships that i could have had are the guys that i didn't want to be with due to them being someone totally different than i thought they were. Asking i suppose you all are right .however are there any indicators?
dreamergrl Posted April 1, 2008 Posted April 1, 2008 Except from reading on here women says it's advantageous to play hard to get and not have sex. So how's a guy suppose to know he really has a GF unless they have sex and continue to have sex . Hey I'm the one asking for sex and I'm the women!
Nuguy12 Posted April 1, 2008 Posted April 1, 2008 (edited) How do u know if the guy you are interested wants a relationship? What are the types of questions that he will ask you? I have had no luck finding one of these guys. I usually start out causal with them and it never progresses relationship wise...such as calling when they say they will, nice dinner dates, the whole 9 yards. Usually i get a couple good dates and the rest end up sucky or they just don't try any more and things terminate. A guy will let you know that he wants a relationship by his behavior. He will consistently show you signs of high interest in how he ACTS . However not all men want to be in relationships with modern western women. Why ? Ask them. Im just telling you waht my buds are telling me. Perhaps a more pertinent question for you gals is "How do I GET a relationship with a great guy?" Answer," BE a great woman " ..that means that you need to live a life which INCREASES your real value to prospecting men. Edited April 1, 2008 by Nuguy12
Chinook Posted April 1, 2008 Posted April 1, 2008 Answer," BE a great woman " ..that means that you need to live a life which INCREASES your real value to prospecting men. Um, I don't agree with that. You can BE a great woman, doesn't mean a guy is going to be interested in you. Take me... I'm not particularly stunningly beautiful... but I'm not displeasing to the eye either (so I'm told), I have a really well paid job ($4000 a month), I'm mortgage free at 37 yrs old, I have a lovely car which is paid for (you're getting the I can pay my way and am not looking for a breadwinner thing right..?), I'm not too busy that I can't socialise, but I also have my own interests (running, triathlon etc). Do I meet guys...? Nope. When I do... are any remotely interested..? Nope. Like I said, people are fickle. When a guy IS interested, he'll let you know. You won't need indicators to know whether he's wanting to stay in a relationship.
Author Lucky555 Posted April 2, 2008 Author Posted April 2, 2008 A lot of various perspectives here. I wish relationships were not so difficult. It seems like a lot of men that are near 30 are the only ones who want relationships too. I am young and i have noticed younger guys are very promiscuous and most don't even take care of their health. I guess keeping my eyes open is about all i can do.
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