utan2 Posted April 1, 2008 Posted April 1, 2008 Not sure if this is the right section but I read over a few for 15 mins and landed here. Let me know if it's incorrect and I will edit it. First off: I'm sixteen, she's seventeen. My girlfriend was molested in January by a guy her friend knew, and she had just met that day. She told me he bothered her but lied to me about what happened for two months, claiming he only tried to kiss her. She said she was high and he was drunk at the time. I don't know what to do. She refuses to let me take any form of action and won't let me tell anyone else or talk about it with her anymore. I told her I did not like that friend (the one who introduced him to her) because she's a bad influence and does drugs. She got really mad at me and told me I don't know her. She also recently told me that in February while we were dating she was hanging out with different guy who she says hurt her by trying to hook up with her, but she claims nothing sexual happened. She didn't tell me because she thought I'd be mad that she went to his house. I don't know what to think because that's what she told me about the first instance as well. I know she's really hurt from being molested, and as a result she says she's having trouble trusting me. I want to help her, but she's making it hard and I don't want her to hate me for not listening to her. She also hasn't told anyone else (including her friend in the wrong crowd), just me. Some additional information is that I recently told her about a medical situation I was having for a few months that I never told anyone else about (I was ****ting blood). Anwyay, I told you that to tell you this: In order to help me, she ignored me until I sought medical advice. I was really upset about that and eventually did. I'm not sure that's the best way to handle this type of situation though. Any advice would be great because I've never dealt with this type of situation.
dreamergrl Posted April 1, 2008 Posted April 1, 2008 First - this needs to be reported. Second - she's going to need some help to recover from this. I would encourage her to speak to an adult about it. I know it must be hard - but if someone is walking around doing that to people - it needs to be stopped, she may not be the first or last.
Author utan2 Posted April 1, 2008 Author Posted April 1, 2008 Yeah, I agree she should tell someone but I don't know how to get through to her.
dreamergrl Posted April 1, 2008 Posted April 1, 2008 To be honest - I think if she doesn't - someone that knows should.
Author utan2 Posted April 1, 2008 Author Posted April 1, 2008 Thanks, I will get her to tell me who he is. I don't know her friend or the guy. I'm not involved with that crowd and they go to a different school.
dreamergrl Posted April 1, 2008 Posted April 1, 2008 DO NOT take matters into your hands though. Should you find out who he is - tell the appropriate person (school counselor, teacher) so they can act accordingly
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