Kman21 Posted April 1, 2008 Posted April 1, 2008 Hey every afternoon when I come home from school I start to think about the times me and my gf had, sure I feel better than before but I am just thinking of the times we had together, sometimes I just want to lay down in bed and think about those times, I know its bad to do that, but I cant help it. any comments or advice?
wareagle Posted April 1, 2008 Posted April 1, 2008 I do it everyday son! I'm so tired and mentally wore out from trying to figure things out. I try and keep myself busy but there isn't much motivation. I know it's over but I don't think I have accepted it yet. She keeps mind F***in me about once a week.
Chinook Posted April 2, 2008 Posted April 2, 2008 It's normal to just 'think' about those things and times you had. You're processing the break-up (haven't read the backstory but since we're in the break-up section I'm gonna assume it's that). It's normal to play images and conversations over and think about what was. Sir Roger Bannister once said 'life can only move forwards, even if it only makes sense looking back' (he ran the first four minute mile back in 1954). He's right and what you're doing, or what your brain is doing is trying to make sense of things, trying to learn from it. We can't learn for the future without processing the past. People say 'move on' all the time... you'll move on when your brain is done processing... it takes as long as it takes. The only time it's a real issue is when you move backwards in the healing process and that only usually happens with contacting the other person... it makes you think 'what if' or 'maybe'. Gradually without contact, thoughts and pain dwindles with time.
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