new relationship

[all4love]

Hi guys

I have just moved on and entered a relationship.I was here on loveshack with the ID kitkat289 and used to post when I was in the worst phase of my life...my past relationship which had ended but I couldnt accept for around 5months.

 

My bf hid a lot of things and while I was feeling that things are going to change in 2-3 weeks as there was a chance of him getting a job in my city soon,my life turned upside down.I had not contacted him for 2 weeks and when we finally talked he disclosed about his new gf (again LDR) as he could see I was still hoping and he just had to show me the clear picture otherwise all this while,he had been hoping that our relationship would get better and told me he still loved me...so it was all very shattering for me and I finally stopped calling him after that news.

 

The New Relationship- My present bf was my ex's classmate but they werent friends.I started chatting with him about an year ago when both of us were committed to our partners.I was really impressed by him since the very start as he was funny,cute and kind of very different...he was so frank that it kind of scared me at times but I found it cute.I used to wonder how lucky his gf is for having him.He always showered his gf with a lot of surprises even though she is studying in a different country and they hardly used to meet but I could see how much he was giving in their relationship and all those qualities in him really made an impact especially that he sang to his gf and can play guitar soo well.

My ex used to get sooo jealous whenever I mentioned his name because this guy's a lil fanous too.

 

Our break-ups- It was in July when he told me that his gf had dumped him and whenever we talked we felt how similar our situations were,how similarly we were treated by our partners and its kind of funny that after few days I also got dumped for no reason at all.My ex was always looking for other girls to date on all the sites that he could and that was happening from past 4-5months but I never took it that seriously.

 

How we got close-Well both of us were sailing through the same boat and that really brought us very close.I dont know why but I could not see him in such pain,it felt like I could feel it in me since it was the same pain I had been experiencing and at times we spoke the same words at the same time....

Then there was a time when I was too much occupied in trying and trying to work on things and making my broken relationship work...there was nobody I wished to talk to and slowly I also stopped talking to this friend of mine.

 

Starting talking again-We had not talked for about a month and on New Year (when I heard about my ex's new gf and finally cut him off from my life), I came online and apologised.He was reacting differently because he was hurt and also couldnt trust me as a friend.But then things got as good as they were earlier in no time.

 

He used to wait for me to come online and used to entertain me with his silly jokes,stupid poetry and stuff.It was great fun and with him by my side I felt like I was still alive.I had had a real tough time trying to get my heart and mind on track from the horrible past and wanted my friend to start living and forget about his ex gf.It always felt bad whenever he told me how much he was missing her blah blah.He truly loved that girl but unlike me he just controlled his emotions and never ever called her up on her request and didnt try too much to make things work since he believed she would come back if his love was true...

 

He proposed to me-In feb he used to send me offlines while I was away and would keep waiting for me to come..that was surprising but I never felt he was feeling that way for me and I always suppressed the lil crush I had on him.he started giving me hints playfully and then finally when we met he properly proposed to me and told me how much he wanted to propose to me during nov when I stopped all contact with him.Those three days we spent in March were awesome! So much that he missed his flight and called me back to the airport..

 

It feels great to have such a loyal,cute person as my guy but somehow this condition that "we'll not be too serious" is not sitting well with me and I dont know for some reason my heart tells me though Iam in love with him but may be this is early to enter a relationship

 

how not to be too serious..

 

one thing more is that though my heart was broken like anything in the past I still believe in love and cannot accept any conditions like that.I told him that one cannot control his feelings and I could get too serious for him in the future and blah blah.He told me whatever will happen ,will happen for good and said that we should just go with the flow.

 

Another thing is that I would never want my relationship or myself to value any lesser...and if we should restrict something because of some fear then I feel both of us should take some time healing,really getting over with our past and then think of something.

 

Please give your suggestions guys!

 

Pls dont tell me this is all fine and nothing to worry about because few days ago he asked me if i was gettin very serious about him.I said no it was ok,nothing to worry about but he said that his gut feeling was telling him that I was.It kind of pinched me though I wasnt too senti on him.It sounded like I have to stay within a boundary and still tell him those 3 words every day.I do not get this thing.Pls tell me how should I deal with it.

Edited April 1, 2008 by all4love

[all4love]

Please help me out people...I really need to know what is it that iam going through.should I go ahead while both of us still reallyyy need to get over our past relationships.

[j_hunt_12]

Someone will post soon... it's just so long and I really have to get my act together and get in the mood to read something that long... peace... good luck for the time being...

[TMichaels]

I do not get this thing.

 

I don't either. Your post is all over the place and I don't understand what your issues are.

 

Sorry,

 

TMichaels

Edited April 2, 2008 by TMichaels