notgoodatthis Posted April 1, 2008 Posted April 1, 2008 Hi, I've been in this dating game for years. I am 39 and I have my share of dating experiences as well as observations from others dating experiences. First of all, a man should never take advice from a woman on what women want because what women say they want and what they actually respond to are entirely different things. All too often men are advised to be a sweethart and be sensitive and all that BS. Then they wonder why the girl they thought they had chemistry loses interests, cheats, or dumps him for someone else. 99% of the time, the new guy isn't a sweethart but he treats her the way she has grown accustomed to. Nice guys are boring and no challenge. Women want challenge, I promise you. If a guy wants advice on women, talk to other guys, even gay guys can help. Actually, gay guys are a great source of advice. Do not ask other women because they will give you the "chick flick" version of what you they want. How many romantic comedies (chick flicks) have you seen where guy chases girl, girl resists guy, guy stalks girl, girl finally falls for guy? What you dont see is what happens a couple of months down the road where girl cheats on guy or dumps guy for someone with more confidence and charm. Those are key words because women often mistake jerk behavior with confidence and charm. The sad reality is that nice guys don't get laid and jerks do. Jerks don't even have to be good looking or successful. This transends to all ages, women do not out grow this.
HeavenScent Posted April 1, 2008 Posted April 1, 2008 If a guy wants advice on women, talk to other guys, even gay guys can help. Actually, gay guys are a great source of advice. Do not ask other women because they will give you the "chick flick" version of what you they want. How many romantic comedies (chick flicks) have you seen where guy chases girl, girl resists guy, guy stalks girl, girl finally falls for guy? What you dont see is what happens a couple of months down the road where girl cheats on guy or dumps guy for someone with more confidence and charm. Those are key words because women often mistake jerk behavior with confidence and charm. My goodness. Poor thing. You must have been forced to watch too many chic flicks!!
dreamergrl Posted April 1, 2008 Posted April 1, 2008 Hi, I've been in this dating game for years. I am 39 and I have my share of dating experiences as well as observations from others dating experiences. First of all, a man should never take advice from a woman on what women want because what women say they want and what they actually respond to are entirely different things. All too often men are advised to be a sweethart and be sensitive and all that BS. Then they wonder why the girl they thought they had chemistry loses interests, cheats, or dumps him for someone else. 99% of the time, the new guy isn't a sweethart but he treats her the way she has grown accustomed to. Nice guys are boring and no challenge. Women want challenge, I promise you. If a guy wants advice on women, talk to other guys, even gay guys can help. Actually, gay guys are a great source of advice. Do not ask other women because they will give you the "chick flick" version of what you they want. How many romantic comedies (chick flicks) have you seen where guy chases girl, girl resists guy, guy stalks girl, girl finally falls for guy? What you dont see is what happens a couple of months down the road where girl cheats on guy or dumps guy for someone with more confidence and charm. Those are key words because women often mistake jerk behavior with confidence and charm. The sad reality is that nice guys don't get laid and jerks do. Jerks don't even have to be good looking or successful. This transends to all ages, women do not out grow this. Hey if my nice guy was ready for sex, he'd be getting it! These "all women are this way" threads are growing old. Pickle anyone?
HeavenScent Posted April 1, 2008 Posted April 1, 2008 Hey if my nice guy was ready for sex, he'd be getting it! These "all women are this way" threads are growing old. Pickle anyone? No old pickle for me!
NuTuDating Posted April 1, 2008 Posted April 1, 2008 Yeah, but as soon as it calms down, some girl starts complaining about her boyfriend not telling her he loves her, another girl complaining because her guy won't drop everything he's doing when she breaks a nail, etc.... There's still a lot of truth to this, and the evidence is all around this board.
HeavenScent Posted April 1, 2008 Posted April 1, 2008 Yeah, but as soon as it calms down, some girl starts complaining about her boyfriend not telling her he loves her, another girl complaining because her guy won't drop everything he's doing when she breaks a nail, etc.... There's still a lot of truth to this, and the evidence is all around this board. Oh that reminds me! I better go do my nails and then get a guy to do things for me. Then I might just come back and start a thread. Thanks man for reminding me!
dreamergrl Posted April 1, 2008 Posted April 1, 2008 Yeah, but as soon as it calms down, some girl starts complaining about her boyfriend not telling her he loves her, another girl complaining because her guy won't drop everything he's doing when she breaks a nail, etc.... There's still a lot of truth to this, and the evidence is all around this board. Oooh kinda like the evidence that there's men who rather b*tch about all women, place them in one group, and claim to know it all - but don't do anything productive to get a healthy relationship?? Do you see hundreds of posts from women men bashing? No. It's time to figure out what you're doing wrong instead of blaming the entire female race in every flippin' thread.
Pyro Posted April 1, 2008 Posted April 1, 2008 Dude, take this stuff back to the other message board. Not every woman acts the same. Just because you may have had some bad luck in the past doesn't mean that they are all bad.
dreamergrl Posted April 1, 2008 Posted April 1, 2008 Oh that reminds me! I better go do my nails and then get a guy to do things for me. Then I might just come back and start a thread. Thanks man for reminding me! Don't forget to go nag a man about it!
Pyro Posted April 1, 2008 Posted April 1, 2008 It's time to figure out what you're doing wrong instead of blaming the entire female race in every flippin' thread. Exactly and the same can be said for the men bashers of the world.
dreamergrl Posted April 1, 2008 Posted April 1, 2008 Blah blah blah. Not this sh*teousness again. Ooooh yes this sh*t again... didn't you realize that this type of thread hadn't been posted today yet?
HeavenScent Posted April 1, 2008 Posted April 1, 2008 Maybe they need to take a pickle and shove it up..... As I was saying, not women are all the same but hey, in goes one ear and out the other. I think they are going to keep on preaching until the cats grow horns. They have all the time in the world anyway since they don't have any chicks to bed or bag or whatever it is that they use.
NuTuDating Posted April 1, 2008 Posted April 1, 2008 Oooh kinda like the evidence that there's men who rather b*tch about all women, place them in one group, and claim to know it all - but don't do anything productive to get a healthy relationship?? Who's blaming the entire race (actually sex)? And how do you know what you're doing wrong when women are so bipolar about this? I don't think I'm doing anything wrong in my current relationship. Do you see hundreds of posts from women men bashing? No. Actually, there are plenty of posts with women complaining about their "men". Who's bashing? Just pointing out the obvious. It's time to figure out what you're doing wrong instead of blaming the entire female race in every flippin' thread. What makes you think I'm doing something wrong?
dreamergrl Posted April 1, 2008 Posted April 1, 2008 Maybe they need to take a pickle and shove it up..... As I was saying, not women are all the same but hey, in goes one ear and out the other. I think they are going to keep on preaching until the cats grow horns. They have all the time in the world anyway since they don't have any chicks to bed or bag or whatever it is that they use. God knows if we started a thread like this about men.....
HeavenScent Posted April 1, 2008 Posted April 1, 2008 Ooooh yes this sh*t again... didn't you realize that this type of thread hadn't been posted today yet? They have a quota per member. One new member signs up a day with a new thread - along the same lines of this one.
Pyro Posted April 1, 2008 Posted April 1, 2008 Maybe they need to take a pickle and shove it up..... As I was saying, not women are all the same but hey, in goes one ear and out the other. I think they are going to keep on preaching until the cats grow horns. They have all the time in the world anyway since they don't have any chicks to bed or bag or whatever it is that they use. IMO, they are bored of everyone over there agreeing with what they are saying, so that is why they came over here. They want to argue here and bring people over to their message board so they can argue with them there as well and create some excitement in their lives.
dreamergrl Posted April 1, 2008 Posted April 1, 2008 Who's blaming the entire race (actually sex)? And how do you know what you're doing wrong when women are so bipolar about this? I don't think I'm doing anything wrong in my current relationship. I said entire female race. When you group women into one category, that would be placing blame on all of them. Actually, there are plenty of posts with women complaining about their "men". Who's bashing? Just pointing out the obvious. There are women seeking advice about yes THEIR men - not saying all men are egotistical, self centered, abusive, blah blah blah What makes you think I'm doing something wrong? Because every day you complain about women cheating on you, using you ect ect ect. You say you should become a jerk to better your chances, blah blah blah - everytime there's a female bashing thread you chime in. You OBVIOUSLY have much resentment for females - but if you ever want a healthy relationship - you need to let go of that. Not all women are bad. Get over it.
j_hunt_12 Posted April 1, 2008 Posted April 1, 2008 Yeah all girls are not like that much this but all at least have a part of it in them. I myself chose the nicest, most conservative (extremely extremely conservative), innocent (and attractive) girl I could find. She is the last one you would expect to have to follow the "guy rules" from, but even with her I find myself noticing that she treats me a lot better whenever I stand up for something or fight with her (and win)...... ohh well, such is life... Good rule of thumb: make sure the girl is ALWAYS a little more clingy than yourself... This is an REALLY old argument and really gets on my nerves though because, believe or not, many times guy are the sucker type and still have good, successful, non-cheating relationships. They have just been happily married so long you don't notice them... And you know what? I have seen a lot more jerks get cheated on than nice guys... just my observations. you just notice it more when the nice guy gets cheated on because you actually feel sorry for him. peace
Author notgoodatthis Posted April 1, 2008 Author Posted April 1, 2008 Of course, there are exceptions but how many of you female respondants are currently with a nice guy? What attracted you to him?
NuTuDating Posted April 1, 2008 Posted April 1, 2008 God knows if we started a thread like this about men..... Like this one: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t148738/ or this one: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t148692/
NuTuDating Posted April 1, 2008 Posted April 1, 2008 Of course, there are exceptions but how many of you female respondants are currently with a nice guy? What attracted you to him? Exactly. They say not all girls aren't the same, which is obvious, but the posts don't exactly inspire much hope that there are that many decent women out there.
Pyro Posted April 1, 2008 Posted April 1, 2008 Like this one: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t148738/ or this one: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t148692/ Those aren't men bashing threads.
dreamergrl Posted April 1, 2008 Posted April 1, 2008 Of course, there are exceptions but how many of you female respondants are currently with a nice guy? What attracted you to him? I am with a nice guy thank you very much. I was attracted to him because he was easy to be with, wasn't treating me as I was below him, he's respectful to me, among many other things. The only thing that makes him unattractive to me is that he centers everything around me - and I don't like that. I don't like making all the choices for us. LIke I've stressed so much - IT'S ALL ABOUT BALANCE.
dreamergrl Posted April 1, 2008 Posted April 1, 2008 Like this one: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t148738/ or this one: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t148692/ Hmmm where do you find the bashing in these?
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