Glamourbella Posted April 1, 2008 Posted April 1, 2008 This situation with this new guy I am dating is really confusing me. First of all, he is 55, and I am 25, I usually date older men. I have JUST started dating him, so I am just trying to get some of this stuff cleared up for the future. Off the bat, we had a very powerful connection, both emotional and physical. On our first date, he looked at me very sweetly, and said " I like you", yesterday, he told me " I like you more and more every time I meet you" and he tells me that he has never met anyone like me. Here's the tricky part. He said to me " I'm not ready for a girlfriend, that could change..." Now, I don't expect to be his girlfriend right away, I mean we have just gone on a few dates, but I am just trying to figure out what he is saying... This man has never been married, and his longest relationship was 2 years when he was younger...
Jilly Bean Posted April 1, 2008 Posted April 1, 2008 GB - if a man is 55 and his longest relationship was 2 years, when he tells you he isn't ready for a gf, he means it. But, he probably means he won't be ready EVER. If you are seeking something more substantial, I say look elsewhere.
xpaperxcutx Posted April 1, 2008 Posted April 1, 2008 Wow... 55.... and still single? Most likely want to stay a bachelor for the rest of his life... kinda like Hugh Hefner? Rather date than having to pay alimony? Sounds like he prefers to have flings than a serious relationship, just don't be too invested.
Advocate's Devilette Posted April 1, 2008 Posted April 1, 2008 OMG, he won't even be able to keep a woodie for very long at his age. You don't want this guy unless you are going for his money. Then here, here. But is being married to a rich man worth having to sleep with a geriatric?
AriaIncognito Posted April 1, 2008 Posted April 1, 2008 Sounds similar to the one I met recently. He's 50 and never been married. I suppose it's possible that you can make it to 50 without marriage but it seems unlikely. I've not asked him how long his longest R was. Didn't really get into that kinda talking yet. I'd be curious to know but, just haven't really felt the need to get into that when I'm not seeking anything serious with him as of yet. If he says he's not ready or not looking, believe him. Dont go into something thinking you can change them. That's no way to start a relationship (or be in one, or anything). Accept, or don't. I'd think at 25, you'd not be looking for anything too serious from this guy, correct?
Morgenstern Posted April 1, 2008 Posted April 1, 2008 If I had said that, i would have probably been testing to see her reaction to the prospect of a relationship. That also means I would be interested in one. Then again, I am less than half this mans age so what he means may be different.
LucreziaBorgia Posted April 1, 2008 Posted April 1, 2008 Here's the tricky part. He said to me " I'm not ready for a girlfriend, that could change..." When you posted this, I immediately thought of George Clooney. Sounds like he is the kind of guy who dates and enjoys dating, but avoids commitment and sees no real use for it in his life. He may have been saying this so that you'll stick around for a while without him having to make any promises about it. My guess is that you aren't the only girl he is dating, either.
DanielMadr Posted April 1, 2008 Posted April 1, 2008 lucky sonawabich. He is telling you that he cant promise you marriage and kids. He doesnt want to give you any false hopes of this kind.
jerbear Posted April 1, 2008 Posted April 1, 2008 lucky sonawabich. I agree... 55 and 25... He is saying "gimme honey but go home afterwards" Even Hef had a kid.
DanielMadr Posted April 1, 2008 Posted April 1, 2008 I agree... 55 and 25... He is saying "gimme honey but go home afterwards" Even Hef had a kid. He probably doesnt want to produce orphants like Hef. PlayBoy rant: Hef is creep. The magazine is cr*p. When there is a babe, she is so retouched she looks like an alien - those white shining eyes and teeth. Not talking about boulders on skinny chest.
Nuguy12 Posted April 1, 2008 Posted April 1, 2008 Here's the tricky part. He said to me " I'm not ready for a girlfriend, that could change..." ... THis will sound bizarre but trust me on this.I know exactly what he is saying.I am almost this guys age so I should be able to get at what he is REALLY saying to you. Here goes : He " I like you ." Means ( "I like you ') He, " I really like you ." Means ( "I really like you .") He, " Im not ready for a girlfriend, that could change." Means, ( what he said) Men are really confusing aren't they ?
Skies Posted April 6, 2008 Posted April 6, 2008 Sorry honey but I always think that this type of person is selfish....not willing to take at least a little bit reponsibility, face the reality and take you to his heart. Not worth your heart really. Move on. We have all been to the "I am not ready"...
thehappycynic Posted April 6, 2008 Posted April 6, 2008 I think he's saying exactly what he said. I also think he's seeing other people.
FormerNiceGuy Posted April 6, 2008 Posted April 6, 2008 On our first date, he looked at me very sweetly, and said " I like you", yesterday, he told me " I like you more and more every time I meet you" and he tells me that he has never met anyone like me. he's smooth.
NotMyselfNEmore Posted April 6, 2008 Posted April 6, 2008 He doesn't want to tell you that he's seeing other people because if he tells you that, he will lose you and that... is something a player doesn't want to do. he's 55 and you are 25... he's looking for self esteem. It makes him feel good to be with such a young piece of skin. Yeah... sorry to say it but its all about soft skin, good smell and a pretty face. He is seeing other people. Don't put your heart into this anyway because while it does sounds like a great thing to pursue there are no guarantees that he is NOT a player or that he is too old to play games. Most likely, if he hasn't had a real relationship longer than 2 years.... he likes the pursuit more than the stability. And I have to say.... I'm actually talking from experience.
mental_traveller Posted April 7, 2008 Posted April 7, 2008 He means he isn't the settling down type, and doesn't want a serious relationship. In other words, you can have a fling or FWB thing with this guy, but no more. It's very unlikely he would ever want to be serious with you.
Balthazar Posted April 7, 2008 Posted April 7, 2008 If you like the guy, just date him and takes things as they come. After a few more dates, you will have a lot more data to base your judgments on. Relax and enjoy your time together, at his age he should know how to show a girl a good time, Cheers
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