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Why am I so particularly attracted to guys in law enforcement?


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I've dated 2 deputy sheriffs, 2 city PD guys, an MP, and a K9 explosive handler. I've met several other guys in law enforcement, but never really got to the "dating" stage (but was ridiculously attracted to them).

 

I've never dated so many guys from within the same general profession. Why do you think that is? I want to be protected? I have daddy issues? I like aggressive control freaks? What do you think?

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You like men who carry their sticks outside their pants?

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It's the attraction of the badge and gun. Power. Law and Order, if you will ;)

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SG I thought you were a lawyer?

 

perhaps you're attracted to men who are aggressive and power driven,

one's who can "read you your rights"?

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Why am I so particularly attracted to guys in law enforcement?

 

 

Because guys in other professions can't get the real handcuffs :p

 

You will out grow this phase SG.. One of my many sisters did the same thing until she got it out of her system...well.. then one of my other sisters married one... a cop that is..

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Me, too, Star! Dated an airforce pilot, police officer and a firefighter. My current boyfriend isn't military, but everything thinks he is because he carries himself that way (I thought so, too.)

 

For me, it's because I like action-oriented men who respond quickly, if not first in a situation, and who are smart in a mechanical kind of way. Someone who can handle a car, weapons, an F-16, stuff like that....because I am so the opposite of that. I'm mechanically challenged.

 

But, I am a take-charge, action-oriented woman who is intuitive and smart in a different way. I can see relationships between things quickly. I think the two kinds of personalities work well together.

 

That said, a guy like I'm describing better be warm and sensitive to me, too. No macho guys who are in the profession because they are control freaks with authority issuses.

 

Give me good guy with a good heart who wants to serve, and who has capable, manly hands....:love:

 

What do YOU like about these guys?

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I've dated 2 deputy sheriffs, 2 city PD guys, an MP, and a K9 explosive handler. I've met several other guys in law enforcement, but never really got to the "dating" stage (but was ridiculously attracted to them).

 

 

Take a peek at evolution psych and the attraction of strong men who lead, protect and privide will be revealed. These men offer an increased chance of survivall for women and their offspring.

 

This is why women are drawn to confident guys who take charge and tolerate no BS..

 

It is this simple . .Men with power,status, money = survival for women and children.

40 years of feminist propaganda isn't gonna make a dent in a million years of evolution.

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I've dated 2 deputy sheriffs, 2 city PD guys, an MP, and a K9 explosive handler. I've met several other guys in law enforcement, but never really got to the "dating" stage (but was ridiculously attracted to them).

 

That's six plus "several" failed or non-relationships. Don't know why you do it, and I'm not sure it's going to buy you much to figure it out. But it's probably time for a change.

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No, you like to date men who make a LOT less than you do so you can have that feeling of being superior to them. I noticed you do enjoy that feeling, like when you were rubbing it in how bad of a skiier that habitually late guy was.

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That's six plus "several" failed or non-relationships. Don't know why you do it, and I'm not sure it's going to buy you much to figure it out. But it's probably time for a change.

 

Only two of the six ended it with me. I ended the rest. All for very different reasons, too.

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I've never dated so many guys from within the same general profession. Why do you think that is? I want to be protected? I have daddy issues? I like aggressive control freaks? What do you think?

 

 

I never pursue someone from the same general profession. For me I didn't want someone who did the same thing as me and had a similar life.

 

Protected? Maybe, one of my ex's got pulled over by an officer and he pulled the aggressive officer (bad cop?) routine once. He said he was authorized to detain etc... I said sure but you also need to have a reason for detention. Last I checked the Constitution and Miranda rules still apply. Even said to him we can do it his way but if nothing comes out of it (e.g. charges) then "my turn."

 

Daddy issues, could be; police officers do have uniforms, authority to detain, handcuffs, and a general good "people skill" minus the one I've encountered. :lmao:

 

I think it is biological and personality based. As an example, I suggest visiting Harvard Square at night in Boston. I think deep down inside you like the take charge, authority figure.

 

Harvard Square has a few interesting dominatrix by night and she is a art history student by day. Her pet is law student by day and pet at night. You'll get my idea.

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Its a manly proffesion.

 

Some say that these guys are there to cure their complexes, it may be true in some cases but in the end of day, at least they cure. And Im pretty sure most of the guys are there because they are manly, especially with psycho tests, which deselect those with issues.

 

Why it doesnt work in long term SG? What holds you back?

 

You have daddy issues when you date 30 year older guy or when you date an alcoholic and your father was one too. LawEnforcement is not daddy issue.

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Men in law enforcement like to be in control and show off their masculinity. Maybe you are just attracted to that type of personality. I don't think it has to do with daddy issues, maybe just a preference. I am really attracted to athletes and always have been. Some of the men I've gone out with were more concerned with weight lifting then with me however. I have goen out with a few "law enforcement men" as wel, and that didn't work out real well, because therapists and cops see the world quite differently. I don't think an addictions specialist and hardened cop would work too well lol. Maybe because you are a lawyer, you are attracted to masculine men who excert control. Similar to a lawyers profession, cops have the same mentality behind what they do. Maybe it's just that you think about things in the same manner.

 

You can break the cycle if that's what you want, don't go out with men who are in the law enforcement profession. IMO though, even if they aren't in law enforcement you could run into the same sort of man. They don't have to be a cop to be all manly and controlling.

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Men in law enforcement like to be in control and show off their masculinity.

 

Generalization?

 

When you want to gain respect of a criminal or macho trouble maker you have to show off masculinity and be in control.

 

I seriously doubt that SG went for those immature of many cops.

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