blackwidow290 Posted March 31, 2008 Posted March 31, 2008 my ex and I were dating about a year and a half ago. The relationship was very intense, there was puremagic from day one. However, he was very insecure. He'd get jealous about me sounding like I had more fun with my female friends or he'd wonder if he wasnt good enough (i'd met his parents, he hadnt met mine.. it was too early for me). His insecurity and distrust made Me insecure.. so I ended up trying to break up with him.. we both cried. We didnt break up...but I just started to push him away after that, not answering his calls, and when we met.. we could hardly communicate. We both just turned sarcastic... we deeply cared about each other but we just didnt know how to express it.. He broke up with me, we had a long talk about it and I decided that we wouldnt talk for at least two months.. he said that his intention had been to be friends, to take it slowly, and work it out... I didnt agree to that (I was too sad).. after a few days, we started talking on msn.. and we had a long, horrible fight saying that worst things we could think of. Very immature... I know. I was telling him that i cared, but he was tired of my hot and cold behaviour. Now, it really sounds like its all my fault.. but it does take two to screw up. He was very needy in the relationship.. he'd never trust me, for no reason.. despite the fact that initially i was devoted to him! He even once asked me if i wanted him for his money.. and that just deeply hurt me. He was also clinically depressed.. so he had other problems to deal with. I send him a text a month afterwards wishing him the best in life and thanking him for the good moments. To get my closure. He called me a few times during that day and just hung up every single time. Now, after all this time.. he added me on facebook. I wrote him a lengthy, honest msg saying that pretty much this is his last chance to make things ok with me, or ill forever turn my back. He replied thanking me for it. In it, he says that he regrets the way he ended the relationship with me. everyone deserves closure, especially me. He's changed a lot, been through many things, that have made him who he is today.. by the end he suggests meeting up for coffee. I reply showing that im happy things are cool, but that ive already gotten closure.. everything is good. I mention that i dont want to open up old wounds. if he still needs to talk to me and meet im ok with it. he replies saying that we should hold off meeting.. since we've just started talking again. i reply agreeing also.. i also write a little about what im doing with my life now. he replies and tells me what he's doing with his.. and casually mentions an event he's going to that night and if i want to come, its open to all. i reply thanking him for mentioning it.. but that it wasnt really my thing and that i had plans so another time (i did).. he says cool, he wanted to make sure i wasnt uncomfortable.... i also send him a msg to make sure im not bothering (cos my msg-s are lengthy.. his too) and he replies saying 'you arent'. thats it so far. what could he want from me? why does he want to meet eventually????
Lovable Posted April 1, 2008 Posted April 1, 2008 I think he still cares about you, and may want you back.. I mean, he's trying pretty hard. And he wants to see you.
Author blackwidow290 Posted April 1, 2008 Author Posted April 1, 2008 oh thanks for taking out ur bitterness on me. I tried my very best with this guy. If he was sad, down.. I was there to cheer him up. If he needed reassurance.. I gave it to him.. but it was never good enough! I felt I wasnt good enough so I just stopped communicating effectively. I never cheated on him. I was solely insecure but he was the one that decided to end things, Omar. Before we broke up, I told him not to go.. we even slept together (my first time) and after that Ive never seen him again. He broke up with me by phone a few weeks later. He never cared to be there for me.. cos I was scared as much as he was!
vivrantflo Posted April 1, 2008 Posted April 1, 2008 Your ex is trying to get back with you.. he cares about you, and you're making it very hard for him.. why?? If you care about him, and want to try again, then tell him, and go for it.. if not, tell him it's over and leave him alone. "so I ended up trying to break up with him.. we both cried. We didnt break up...but I just started to push him away after that, not answering his calls, and when we met.. we could hardly communicate" Why would you torture the guy like that?? I resent women that play these silly games. "He broke up with me, we had a long talk about it and I decided that we wouldnt talk for at least two months.. he said that his intention had been to be friends, to take it slowly, and work it out... I didnt agree to that (I was too sad).." He broke up with you, cause you forced his hand. If my woman was ignoring my calls and pushing me away, I'd end it too.. So not agreeing to work things out cause you were "sad" is lame... YOU initiated the break up! Jeez, you don't sound interested in him anymore.. if that's the case, please be up front, and let him know that.. so he can move on with his life.. the guy is trying so hard to get you back, and you're asking us what he wants from you?? Are you serious? If you want him back, let him know, and go for it... and we'll all wish you luck.. if you don't want him, just come right out and tell him..
0hpenelope Posted April 1, 2008 Posted April 1, 2008 Second chances like that are rare. Good luck with things.
Author blackwidow290 Posted April 1, 2008 Author Posted April 1, 2008 thank you for the replies everyone. they really have me thinkign and considering the other side. vibrant flo, i should have explained this better. he broke up with me already.. even though i was askign him not to.. that i cared, but once i accepted the break up on the phone.. he completely changed and said he wanted to work things out.. after he had just been telling me that he wanted nothing to do with me...and i should move on to other guys.
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