AriaIncognito Posted March 31, 2008 Posted March 31, 2008 I was thinking about this and I'm curious to hear other peoples experiences. Do you feel that age has anything to do with how much physicality there is and when it begins? For example, I've noticed men in my age ranges (30s) will usually kiss by the 2nd-3rd date, meaning a proper kiss not a peck on the lips. With someone older, I've noticed it seems to be slower going. Is this the same as others experiences, or have you never noticed a difference in the people you've dated? Just curious.
Author AriaIncognito Posted March 31, 2008 Author Posted March 31, 2008 then again people above say 45 may tend to be a little old fashioned Yeah I'm talking like 45+. I dont know many 45+ers to ask hehe.
Lizzie60 Posted March 31, 2008 Posted March 31, 2008 Hum.. I had a 50+ once.. and he wasn't moving too fast.. but after he took.. Robaxacet... he was moving waayyy faster..
Author AriaIncognito Posted March 31, 2008 Author Posted March 31, 2008 Hum.. I had a 50+ once.. and he wasn't moving too fast.. but after he took.. Robaxacet... he was moving waayyy faster.. Hahaha. I'm not referring to sexual relations, I'm talking more like the easy stuff. Kissing, hugging, 1st base, any base really LOL
Lizzie60 Posted March 31, 2008 Posted March 31, 2008 Hahaha. I'm not referring to sexual relations, I'm talking more like the easy stuff. Kissing, hugging, 1st base, any base really LOL I know.. I was being silly.. I'm in a silly mode today.. As far as I'm concerned.. I am the one who moves really fast.. so I didn't get a chance to see which ones are the slowest..
melodymatters Posted March 31, 2008 Posted March 31, 2008 Well thank GOD, says THIS 40 yr old ! It seems 20's are into hooking up, 30's , it's a 50/50 proposition, and let a man ripen to 40 plus, and he's actually looking for...GASP...a friend, a companion, someone funny and smart who has something to offer besides silicone in her tits and impressing his PUA friends !
Lizzie60 Posted March 31, 2008 Posted March 31, 2008 Well thank GOD, says THIS 40 yr old ! It seems 20's are into hooking up, 30's , it's a 50/50 proposition, and let a man ripen to 40 plus, and he's actually looking for...GASP...a friend, a companion, someone funny and smart who has something to offer besides silicone in her tits and impressing his PUA friends ! What is PUA?
Author AriaIncognito Posted March 31, 2008 Author Posted March 31, 2008 Well thank GOD, says THIS 40 yr old ! It seems 20's are into hooking up, 30's , it's a 50/50 proposition, and let a man ripen to 40 plus, and he's actually looking for...GASP...a friend, a companion, someone funny and smart who has something to offer besides silicone in her tits and impressing his PUA friends ! I agree that it's good that they might be looking for less superficial things, though I can neither confirm nor deny that statement. But, once they know they've got someone who meets that criteria, how long should they wait until they finally make some moves? Days? Weeks? Months? 10 dates? 100 dates? lol
NuTuDating Posted March 31, 2008 Posted March 31, 2008 My experience has been that the older women tend to want to rush toward marriage and skip the sexual. Just my experience with women in their early 30's.
jerbear Posted March 31, 2008 Posted March 31, 2008 30's huh!? hey I'm in your age range! I'm not slow! Well the 1st date is not the first meeting in my book, it is like after the 2nd or 3rd meeting. i.e. ball game, dinner, movie, dancing. The official 2nd date. usually a kiss, 3rd date a BJ or a sleep over. Then it is sex all day everyday. okay on the weekends at least. Granted I've even gotten a homerun on the "first swing" so it can move slow and fast.
witabix Posted April 1, 2008 Posted April 1, 2008 It all depends the situation, nothing to do with age, I am 45+2+1/2.
Trialbyfire Posted April 1, 2008 Posted April 1, 2008 I find that in my thirties, men are moving way too fast for my taste and sense of comfort. As a friend of mine says, I move like I'm still in 1995. I guess that means that I would beat a turtle, for the slowest trophy award.
lovestruck818 Posted April 1, 2008 Posted April 1, 2008 I don't think it necessarily has to do with age, but moreso the guy's mindset. I think if they are extremely serious about starting a new relationship, they will be very cautious and slow during its course. My boyfriend and I are both 26, and we have been together 3 months. We seem to be both in the mindset of that we odn't want to have to do the dating thing anymore and that we want this to hopefully be our last relationship. Not saying that's a guarantee we're going to get married, but we are both in the mindset that we seriously want to settle down. Our relationship is progressing pretty slowly...but that can be a good thing b/c it helps the love build stronger. It has been 3 months and I am starting to feel like I am finally "falling for him. I have been with many guys in the past who rushed things...they obviously were not in the same mindset as me. If you want someone to stick around, let the love grow, take your time.
Lookingforward Posted April 1, 2008 Posted April 1, 2008 I find it doesn't matter what their age is, it's usually the MALES that want to move too fast emotionally. I mean come on, you love me already on our 3rd date ? puhlease
lovestruck818 Posted April 1, 2008 Posted April 1, 2008 I find it doesn't matter what their age is, it's usually the MALES that want to move too fast emotionally. I mean come on, you love me already on our 3rd date ? puhlease Yes!!!! I have gotten that too...what is up with that? Lol, I kicked that guy to the curb as soon as he said it. Freaky.
NuTuDating Posted April 1, 2008 Posted April 1, 2008 I find it doesn't matter what their age is, it's usually the MALES that want to move too fast emotionally. I mean come on, you love me already on our 3rd date ? puhlease This may be true, but females have the innate ability to move forward, very rapidly, with no emotions at all. The last two serious relationships I've been in within the past two years have both started talking about marriage after the first couple of months. One was looking at rings within a matter of two months.
lovestruck818 Posted April 1, 2008 Posted April 1, 2008 This may be true, but females have the innate ability to move forward, very rapidly, with no emotions at all. The last two serious relationships I've been in within the past two years have both started talking about marriage after the first couple of months. One was looking at rings within a matter of two months. My boyfriend has already mentioned marriage more than once...and we have only been together 3 months. It's not a matter of if at this pt, it's a matter of one. Guys are def. the ones who get attached more quickly. I like to letme feelings develop b/c I feel they are more real and genuine that way.
NuTuDating Posted April 1, 2008 Posted April 1, 2008 My boyfriend has already mentioned marriage more than once...and we have only been together 3 months. It's not a matter of if at this pt, it's a matter of one. Guys are def. the ones who get attached more quickly. I like to letme feelings develop b/c I feel they are more real and genuine that way. People get attached for different reasons. What I was saying is that girls seem to have the ability to go through with a marriage before their attached.
Replicant Posted April 1, 2008 Posted April 1, 2008 I don't think it necessarily has to do with age, but moreso the guy's mindset. I think if they are extremely serious about starting a new relationship, they will be very cautious and slow during its course. I think you are on the right track, where as it deals with both peoples mindsets in regards to their personal pace (or agendas). Talk is rubbish in this aspect, the actions is what many people will pick up on and respond to especially early on. If one person wants to fast forward and the other person frame by frame, this is bound to cause some level of contention with how things progress (or if they progress at all). If two people sync from the get go there wont be the need to filter every aspect of the relationships natural progression.
Author AriaIncognito Posted April 1, 2008 Author Posted April 1, 2008 I think you are on the right track, where as it deals with both peoples mindsets in regards to their personal pace (or agendas). Talk is rubbish in this aspect, the actions is what many people will pick up on and respond to especially early on. If one person wants to fast forward and the other person frame by frame, this is bound to cause some level of contention with how things progress (or if they progress at all). If two people sync from the get go there wont be the need to filter every aspect of the relationships natural progression. I'd tend to agree. Usually in my past relationships, it was just natural. Gives me cause for benig wary when it doesn't seem natural, however I suppose it's always possible for two people to catch up to eachother, depending on the situation, so I wouldn't necessarily rule it out for anyone based on ages/speed alone, unless either were unhappy due to the speed.
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