vulcan Posted March 31, 2008 Posted March 31, 2008 Ok so after spending a wonderfull weekend together. She was sick i took care of her ( I know I shouldn't have done anything but I just couldn't help it she seemed so sick and a mess) Anyways she said I was a great guy and she really appreciated me taking care of her. Well today I e-mailed her to see how she was doing. this is the conversation: me: Hey, Saw you jump on line last night a few times, I sent you an Im didn't know if you got them or not. Anyways just wanted to see how you are doing. Are you feeling 100% better now? her: Oh, sorry I wasnt paying attention to my internet stuff last night. I am feeling a lot better thank you ME:- thats cool so did you get all caught up homework wise? how is your day going HER:- ummm not quite caught up on homework, at least school will be simple tonight, speech class but i dont have to give a speech yet. umm day is going OK ME:- Also wanted to say I realy enjoyed spending time with you this weekend. Even though you were sick and I had to play doctor it was nice to just hang out and do nothing. Well, we did manage some shopping so it was cool :-) HER:- thank you, I really enjoyed you taking care of me, you were so sweet ME:- I must admit I felt a bit sad dropping you off back at home[/FONT] HER:- (no reply) ]ME- Ok hey, I know your at work and stuff so Im outaa here. I have to get ready and what not so hope you have a good day and all that So thats where it all stands now. So back to NC???? should I completely ignore her at this time even if she calls or do I continue being the friend and by being friends with her building up through friendship and then back to a relationship I don't want to screw anything up so any help is appreciated
iwish Posted March 31, 2008 Posted March 31, 2008 Hey, i'm going through something similar.. i went out with my ex saturday night and we ended up spending the night together and i felt that all was good again.. It turns out today that she is just being cold again.. now we both just have to play it cool.. go NC for a while at least for a day or two and then go from there.. that's my plan anyway (i hope i can do it!) good luck
Prosecco Posted March 31, 2008 Posted March 31, 2008 You wont be friends for a while. Seriously - learn to live without her before you try to be friends... And you'll never be genuine friends if your end goal is a relationship.
datingmum Posted March 31, 2008 Posted March 31, 2008 It's good you didn't demand an answer Vulcan at the end there. You just gave her a nice time and that's it. Leave it at that for the moment. The last thing you want to do is get all needy on her, k? Plus, in my womanly world. I don't say "you were so sweet" to an ex i know is still hung up on me. I'd say "thank you very much, that was very kind" Semantic difference but important to me. Ride it out, let it simmer.
youngbuckkk Posted March 31, 2008 Posted March 31, 2008 Vulcan, why do you continue to post yet ignore the advice people give you? The girl is 18 while you are twice her age, she basically told you off because she is young and wants to be young. You can't force her to grow up and want a LTR when she is still a child. Move on man.
datingmum Posted March 31, 2008 Posted March 31, 2008 aaaaaaaaaah. thanks youngbukkk. didn't realise that was the case.... how's you?
youngbuckkk Posted March 31, 2008 Posted March 31, 2008 I'm great. Being single had given me the biggest epifany, that it's such a huge world out there, and I've been missing way too much of it. Gotta come back here though and try preach to all those bein sad lol. Life is too short to be sad.
xpaperxcutx Posted April 1, 2008 Posted April 1, 2008 OP, just because you spend the weekend with her doesn't necessary means that she wants to be friends and would end up back in a relationship with you. I'm sure she appreciated you caring for her but in the long run you're just trying to please her to get back into her life. She knows that you're trying to squirm back into her life,and she's annoyed. At the beginning of the IMs she was just being friendly and didn't want to come off as a b*t*h telling you off, but because you started dropping hints that you enjoyed spending time with her and la-di-da, etc, she ignored. Seriously get over her and initiate NC.
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