karlkhan Posted March 31, 2008 Posted March 31, 2008 (edited) Until two years ago I was married and had the joy of two children (twins I was with my partner for 6 years before I got married, then it all went terribly wrong. Alcohol, verbal and physical abuseIn the end I met someone in one of our offices. We hit it of immediately.As we SMS'ed and emailed each other we finally had a night of passion and talked like old time friends. I took the courage to leave my wife as I suffered belittlement and pain being in that relationship, but I sorely miss my twin girls. In January 2008 it was two years that I have endured this new relationship. Like me, she was a parent and going through her own marital issues and worries. I learnt through out the years that she did have One affair lasting 10 years (Had sex 4 times in that space) and three other quick flings (sex only) through her 20 years of marriage. She got married at the age of 18 and regrets her choice, but has been loyal in minding her husband. He lives in the UK and her in Ireland; they have a son of 7 years old. In the past year more and more discussions between her and her spouse relating to her being in love with another man have come up. She has denied this always and has told me that she is waiting for some financial stability in her and regular time with her husband for their child. Being a suspicious person, I questioned her past and her wanting to spend her life with me. She left the UK to come back to Ireland in her words, "to be with me". From anyone I have ever met, she is the most caring and kind person to be around. But I just feel so frustrated that we still have to hide and meet secretly. I have met with her mother and sister but not her father. But still feel like I'm the bit on the side. Due to flight schedule changes she is planning more and more time back in the UK to bring her son to see his father, but I have moved to her area to spend time to grow with her Apart from the mind blowing love making, she is my friend, partner and companion in life. If we were to end, I have contemplated suicide as without my children in my life and such a true friend I don't feel like I can go on. I have spent hours on forums looking at the general percentage of failed relationships outside marriage; I just hope this isn't one of them. [Any stories that can relate to this would help Edited March 31, 2008 by karlkhan
child_of_isis Posted April 1, 2008 Posted April 1, 2008 Serial cheater. Hopefully you prepare yourself for it. I learnt through out the years that she did have One affair lasting 10 years (Had sex 4 times in that space) and three other quick flings (sex only) through her 20 years of marriage.
Owl Posted April 1, 2008 Posted April 1, 2008 Unfortunately, the outlook for you is pretty bleak. She's been cheating the majority of the time in her 20 year long marriage...and still hasn't left her husband. She's not looking for someone to replace her H...she's looking for someone to supplement that relationship. Serial cheaters tend to continue that pattern for as long as they can get away with it. Experience has taught her that she can get away with it...
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