Carmen87 Posted March 31, 2008 Posted March 31, 2008 I am only 21 years old but have been in 2 long term, serious relationships so far. I am currently involved in a serious relationship that has been official for 3 months and unofficial a month previous to that. My boyfriend is 22, and has also been involved in 2 serious long term relationships, as well as 3 shorter ones. Recently, we had the discussion of what our futures hold. This is normal considering he is about to graduate in May and I have just 2 short years left of college. He told me that he plans on maybe returning to school for 2 more years to get a bachelors in Electrical Engineering Technology. He would then like to travel around a bit and become established. He also said he doesn't want to settle down and have a family until he is near 30. I let it be known I planned to graduate, and return to my hometown where I could practice with my degree and help out on my family dairy farm. I also mentioned I would like to be married by time I turn 25. Later, we were at a get together and I got drunk. I stupidly told my boyfriend that I just see our relationship as just for fun now, as we obviously want different things in the future. I also told him I didn't intend on sticking around for much longer as I needed someone who wanted what I did. He put me to bed and didn't say much. The next morning, he started a discussion with me. He said that he was deeply hurt by what I said the previous night. He said he loves and he that he fell hard for me. That he has never before felt for anyone what he does for me. He said even though scares him to say slightly, he would follow me anywhere and would give me what I want. Apparently, he means he would marry me once we were both done school. He is just worried he won't be able to give me everything I have ever wanted, and end up having nothing. Now, I guess I am just worried. I realize we are young. I don't want him to be saying things like this to me unless he truly means it, but would guys say this is they didnt? Is it possible to know who you want to be with for the rest of your life so soon?
carhill Posted March 31, 2008 Posted March 31, 2008 Have the conversation in another year. You're both young and your R time is short. Things aren't always as they seem.
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