vulcan Posted March 31, 2008 Posted March 31, 2008 Ok so I go 6 days NC with the ex she first calls me to ask if she could borrow some stuff for a speech she had to do. I called her back that night we talk all is cool. Next day she calls me and tells me she is sick. She then tells me somewhere in the convosation about a guy shs hung out with and she didn't want to be there blah blah blah. The thing is I also nitoced when ipicked her up a single rose in her vase from someone I suppose and I saw her phone with some text messages from this guy named Ryan someone she works with. the text messages were like Oh I had a nice time last night ect. Well what i don't get is why did she tell me about the other guy and how she didn't want to really hang out with him but not tell me about this Ryan dude?? Anyways back to the 2 days I spent with her. So I pick her up because she was sick. We came back to my place (she lived with me for almost a year) anyways we get back here I put her to bed got her food took care of her completley. While she was here I didn't bring up the relationship or problems ect. We actualy had a very nice time together just hanging out watching movies and eating. There were some things that were said and done that I don't get or how I should take them. She hugged me a few times said she really appreciated me taking such good care of her. She also mentioned she was really deppressed living here and stressed out. She also said at one time that she doesn't know why she was so bitchy to me. She also cuddled up with me (no kissing) but cuddled up with me the entire time she was here. Also, on sat we got to flirting around with each other and one thing lead to the next. We went shopping sat night and had a wonderful time she acted so cool and sweet. So now Sunday morning we get up after staying up late sat night and she has to go home cause she had homework to catch up on. So I drop her off she hugs me and says I really appreciate you taking care of me and you are such a great guy. I replied no problem then she says Im not even joking thank you you are the greatest guy. I say again no problem I get in my truck and tell her take it easy and drive off that was at 3pm today now its 10:30pm and I haven't heard from her at all. So I'am wondering what does this all mean? what could she be thinking? What do I do? NC again? tell her anything what?
motive2002 Posted March 31, 2008 Posted March 31, 2008 Yours in an interesting predicament. It's tough to end a relationship and then be out there on your own again. I hate to speculate on this stuff, but it sounds like she was kinda using you. The dating world is scary, whereas you are a place of comfort and familiarity. I've had this BS happen to me before. Using the ex as a security blanket for when things seem rough. You get the phone call from out of nowhere and she wants to talk, or cuddle or whatever. She wants to return to a safe place where she will feel loved... At some point you have to take a stand and tell her that you aren't in a relationship anymore, and that type of behavior isn't appropriate, or just simply make yourself unavailable. You have your self respect to consider here. Again, I'm going out on a limb here.. but this is what this scenario reads like.
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