dmb05 Posted March 30, 2008 Posted March 30, 2008 Well guys it'll have been 2 months this week since my ex of 2.5 years left me. 2 weeks after, she got another bf who I really dont see fitting her. Her parents don't like him very much and they all want her to be back with me. Today at church, she kept looking at me while I was drumming and she just looked mad or sad the whole time. So, when I got back to school, I of course do something stupid and take her off my ignore list on facebook and look at her profile. Her status is "I'm waiting patiently on life to get better. My heart is turning to ice and I feel numb." This of course has my brain racking now wondering if it's halfway meant about me. I dont' think it is and I'm trying not to worry about it. She "acts" happy and her and her new guy both say they love each other, but I've just been wondering if it's all fake. I was VERY good to her and she knows it. I hadn't really wanted her back, but in a way I do because I loved her so much. She contacted me Wednesday saying she saw my mom and asked me if I had a good time at church. I had previously told her not to contact me in any way unless she wanted to really work stuff out. I think I'm just really overanalyzing things. Oh well, back to hanging out with friends and trying not to worry!!!
Prosecco Posted March 30, 2008 Posted March 30, 2008 Block her on facebook/ remove her from your friend list. My ex tried to help by limiting his profile - it wasn't enough. I removed him as a friend, and he put a picture up of an actor for his profile pic - so when he posted on mutual friends' walls... I didn't have to see him looking as gorgeous as he is.
Author dmb05 Posted March 30, 2008 Author Posted March 30, 2008 I've had her blocked for a while now. I just removed her long enough to look at her status and it made me wonder. I've put her back on the block list though.
Prosecco Posted March 30, 2008 Posted March 30, 2008 How can you see her profile if she's not a friend? (Maybe I'm odd - in that everyone I know has really high privacy settings.) If she's a blocked friend - remove her, so you have to friend request before you can see her again. If she's just too foolish to lock her profile down and anyone can see it... then.... it's blocking and will power I'm afraid. Oh - and keep up the no- contact.
Author dmb05 Posted March 30, 2008 Author Posted March 30, 2008 She's on the same network as me and I can see her full profile somehow. I first just removed her from my friend list, but I finally blocked her to help me quit looking at her profile every 2 or 3 days. I hadn't looked at it for a while until today and of course she had that kind of status that jus makes me wonder.
NeanderthalSSoldier Posted March 30, 2008 Posted March 30, 2008 Your problem is you're wanting. You want things to remain as you want. You want the simple life. You want to dictate what she does and who she does it with. You're addicted to the drama of it. She didn't just get a boyfriend 2 weeks after she dumped you. She had him long before she dropped the bomb you still clutch to. And yes, it was stupid to look at her Facebook. You knew what would happen but did it anyway. You dig the drama. Admit it then let it go. I have a friend who has these Laws he abides by, they're called his Karmic Laws and one in particular may help you here: Karmic Law # 16 - Don't internalize an ending relationship. The best and healthiest way to recover from a breakup is to first admit that the relationship is over then continue being the best you you can be. Regret nothing. Instead, frame the breakup as a learning experience of which you'll take to your next relationship. Harbor no ill feelings for yourself then learn to love yourself for who you are.
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