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Should I ask my boyfriend to move in?


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And does he make an effort for you? Are you getting what you want? A one-sided relationship will eventually create resentment in you, and a sense of entitlement in him.

 

I get what i want when I ask for it but that's rarely ever...I don't want/need much...I'm not demanding at all. I'd much rather give than receive.

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This kind of worries me. You say he broke it off, but is hesitant to move in with you, and he still talks to her?

 

Well I didn't ask him if he wanted to yet...yes he still talks to her but in all fairness I talk to some of my exes too. I mean really how can ya not?

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I get what i want when I ask for it but that's rarely ever...I don't want/need much...I'm not demanding at all. I'd much rather give than receive.

 

So he doesn't offer much all on his own? You always have to ask?

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So he doesn't offer much all on his own? You always have to ask?

 

No...he does...but I'm not big on being handed stuff. if I want something, I'd rather just get it myself.

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Keep in mind that the general rule is that the first six months of a relationship are usually infatuation. I believe in this wholeheartedly. It's only been three months for you, so I think it's way to soon. When the infatuation wears off, then make your decision.

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I don't recommend moving in together unless you are married. Why give up your space, the ability to be alone when you want to, and force yourself to compromise on every little thing from dishes to laundry to bill paying and who cleans the bathroom when you don't have to?

 

What would you possibly get out of moving him into your house that you don't have living apart?

 

I agree 3 months is soon, but I disagree not moving in till married.

 

It was living with my ex fiance that showed us that we weren't able to live together. Sometimes you don't see the things that make the difference when you live apart.

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I agree 3 months is soon, but I disagree not moving in till married.

 

It was living with my ex fiance that showed us that we weren't able to live together. Sometimes you don't see the things that make the difference when you live apart.

 

While you are right...I feel it would be better that if the relationship were to fail, to let it fail as a baby then when we are engaged or married. It's a lot easier physically and emotionally to break it off now in the beginning than to have to get a divorce or call off a wedding later on.

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