Kamille Posted March 31, 2008 Posted March 31, 2008 It happens when he speaks my language, non-verbally as well as verbally. He anticipates what I'm thinking, reads my mind a bit, and then delivers, sometimes even knowing what I want before I know it myself. But he can't be cocky and arrogant about it. Either he can do it, or he can't. There is no faking this. I just swooned. I think the key to being successful and making lots of friends and eventually meeting that person you will want to share a part of your life with is to learn to be in the moment, whatever that moment is. Bottom line is, people are attracted to happy, relaxed and confident individuals.
Cov Posted March 31, 2008 Posted March 31, 2008 Women like a man who can dance, I know a bit of line dancing, put classic country on and I'll strut my stuff, that's impressed a few girls my age in the past.
Storyrider Posted March 31, 2008 Posted March 31, 2008 be in the moment, whatever that moment is. Great advice!
HeavenScent Posted March 31, 2008 Posted March 31, 2008 What makes me wet? A man that is confident of himself and knows how to use himself on me.
PinkKittyKat Posted March 31, 2008 Posted March 31, 2008 what kind of scent do you like? MHC genes? olfactory? what? When women say "scent" we aren't talking about colognes or soaps. It's the basic smell of a man and whether you love it or not. They've recently done studies that show women select attractiveness of a man's scent based on similarity of Major Histocompatability Complex alleles. Apparently it has something to do with selecting a mate that will provide any offspring with a diverse immune system. Look up Claus Wedekind. I found out about it only last year. But I have always loved the natural smell of some men, and hated others. My current bf drives me crazy(in that good way) and I love the smell of him, his armpits, his dirty t-shirts. On the other hand, I've dated guys who smelled..."weird" to me... and the passion died in a matter of months or less. As soon as I smelled them in their natural state. There's no "magic smell" for you I'm afraid.
Elemental Posted March 31, 2008 Posted March 31, 2008 what kind of scent do you like? MHC genes? olfactory? what? Major Histocompatibility Complex genes play a major role in how our immune systems function. In order to produce healthy children, those genes have to be dissimilar in father and mother, and men broadcast those genes in their scent. Women can pick that scent up if they're close enough, and it relaxes them in a way that makes them open to more than just conversation. You can't fake it. You can't even cover it up unless you shower constantly. If she says she thinks of you as a brother, it means you smell like a relative, not a potential mate. The Pill can scramble her nose, so if she loses interest once she starts taking it, there's a good chance you no longer smell right to her. Same if she loses interest once she goes off it. There's even a theory kicking around that some mystery infertility may be MHC-related. Women on The Pill tend to prefer men who smell like family, whose MHC genes are similar to hers, and she may not only lose interest in sex, she may be unable to conceive. Weirdly enough, you even broadcast it in your choice of cologne. Men with similar MHC genes tend to gravitate toward similar colognes. It's just what smells right on them. Chemistry is literal chemistry, genetic chemistry. The presence of it isn't necessarily a deal-maker, but it's absence is a deal-breaker--unless you've got something she wants badly enough for her to put up with compiling her grocery list while having sex, because there's not going to be much other excitement in it for her.
DanielMadr Posted March 31, 2008 Posted March 31, 2008 Major Histocompatibility Complex genes play a major role in how our immune systems function. In order to produce healthy children, those genes have to be dissimilar in father and mother, and men broadcast those genes in their scent. Women can pick that scent up if they're close enough, and it relaxes them in a way that makes them open to more than just conversation. You can't fake it. You can't even cover it up unless you shower constantly. If she says she thinks of you as a brother, it means you smell like a relative, not a potential mate. The Pill can scramble her nose, so if she loses interest once she starts taking it, there's a good chance you no longer smell right to her. Same if she loses interest once she goes off it. There's even a theory kicking around that some mystery infertility may be MHC-related. Women on The Pill tend to prefer men who smell like family, whose MHC genes are similar to hers, and she may not only lose interest in sex, she may be unable to conceive. Weirdly enough, you even broadcast it in your choice of cologne. Men with similar MHC genes tend to gravitate toward similar colognes. It's just what smells right on them. Chemistry is literal chemistry, genetic chemistry. The presence of it isn't necessarily a deal-maker, but it's absence is a deal-breaker--unless you've got something she wants badly enough for her to put up with compiling her grocery list while having sex, because there's not going to be much other excitement in it for her. Ooooops. I dislike vast numbers of colognes even the expensive ones. I drive girls in perfume departement crazy - most of their products smell to me like caribou piss. Navy Blue STR8 is my brand. I guess Im the special one then...makes me so much proud. The truth is I can smell everything. If I dont light a fag (cigarette) to tar up my nose I would suffocate in early morning subway train.
Author themessenger Posted March 31, 2008 Author Posted March 31, 2008 I think this is all well in good in theory but is not an exact science.
Elemental Posted March 31, 2008 Posted March 31, 2008 I think this is all well in good in theory but is not an exact science. It's the only real science available. Women aren't attracted to money, although some will have sex to get it. We also aren't attracted to power, although some will have sex to get to that, too. Women aren't attracted to the right moves, although those moves will push past weak personal boundaries. They might get a woman, but they won't keep her. We can be put off by poor social skills or other issues, but we're not necessarily attracted to the opposite. We're charmed by some things, but being charmed isn't the same as being attracted. Intelligence, for example, charms me, as does someone with a sufficient background in literature to trade quotes with me, but neither of those makes me wet. They just make me interested enough to get close enough to him to see if his scent is right. Ask a woman, any woman, if she'd be willing to sleep with a man whose smell she didn't like. Not street-person-level stinky, but how he smells about an hour after he's showered. Odds are good she'll actually wrinkle her nose in disgust. Again, I've dated a man who didn't smell right. He wasn't filthy or unwashed, he just didn't smell right. Great guy, but it didn't work out.
spookie Posted March 31, 2008 Posted March 31, 2008 Major Histocompatibility Complex genes play a major role in how our immune systems function. In order to produce healthy children, those genes have to be dissimilar in father and mother, and men broadcast those genes in their scent. Women can pick that scent up if they're close enough, and it relaxes them in a way that makes them open to more than just conversation. You can't fake it. You can't even cover it up unless you shower constantly. If she says she thinks of you as a brother, it means you smell like a relative, not a potential mate. The Pill can scramble her nose, so if she loses interest once she starts taking it, there's a good chance you no longer smell right to her. Same if she loses interest once she goes off it. There's even a theory kicking around that some mystery infertility may be MHC-related. Women on The Pill tend to prefer men who smell like family, whose MHC genes are similar to hers, and she may not only lose interest in sex, she may be unable to conceive. Weirdly enough, you even broadcast it in your choice of cologne. Men with similar MHC genes tend to gravitate toward similar colognes. It's just what smells right on them. Chemistry is literal chemistry, genetic chemistry. The presence of it isn't necessarily a deal-maker, but it's absence is a deal-breaker--unless you've got something she wants badly enough for her to put up with compiling her grocery list while having sex, because there's not going to be much other excitement in it for her. You know, I completely believe this...
DanielMadr Posted March 31, 2008 Posted March 31, 2008 It's the only real science available. Women aren't attracted to money, although some will have sex to get it. We also aren't attracted to power, although some will have sex to get to that, too. Women aren't attracted to the right moves, although those moves will push past weak personal boundaries. They might get a woman, but they won't keep her. We can be put off by poor social skills or other issues, but we're not necessarily attracted to the opposite. We're charmed by some things, but being charmed isn't the same as being attracted. Intelligence, for example, charms me, as does someone with a sufficient background in literature to trade quotes with me, but neither of those makes me wet. They just make me interested enough to get close enough to him to see if his scent is right. Ask a woman, any woman, if she'd be willing to sleep with a man whose smell she didn't like. Not street-person-level stinky, but how he smells about an hour after he's showered. Odds are good she'll actually wrinkle her nose in disgust. Again, I've dated a man who didn't smell right. He wasn't filthy or unwashed, he just didn't smell right. Great guy, but it didn't work out. But you have many guys who smell good to you or could if you met them. And them come the other things into play to decide between them as IQ, EQ, jap slapping skills, poonani caressing skills, charisma and other manly skills. And it will happen that you will favour not the best smelling of the good-smelling but someone just good-smelling with the chess skills or whatever.
Author themessenger Posted March 31, 2008 Author Posted March 31, 2008 It's the only real science available. Women aren't attracted to money, although some will have sex to get it. We also aren't attracted to power, although some will have sex to get to that, too. Women aren't attracted to the right moves, although those moves will push past weak personal boundaries. They might get a woman, but they won't keep her. We can be put off by poor social skills or other issues, but we're not necessarily attracted to the opposite. We're charmed by some things, but being charmed isn't the same as being attracted. Intelligence, for example, charms me, as does someone with a sufficient background in literature to trade quotes with me, but neither of those makes me wet. They just make me interested enough to get close enough to him to see if his scent is right. Ask a woman, any woman, if she'd be willing to sleep with a man whose smell she didn't like. Not street-person-level stinky, but how he smells about an hour after he's showered. Odds are good she'll actually wrinkle her nose in disgust. Again, I've dated a man who didn't smell right. He wasn't filthy or unwashed, he just didn't smell right. Great guy, but it didn't work out. OK elemental then we agree thait is not must body odor that is the issue it is the way the gusy skin smells an hour after a shower. What if you had a guy with a great physicue and dispostion but not your favorite sent? and A fat slob with a poor attitude that smelled perfect, which one you going with? no you can't say none of the above.
witabix Posted March 31, 2008 Posted March 31, 2008 I think this is all well in good in theory but is not an exact science. Definately, some women say a mans shoes are the first thing they notice!
Trialbyfire Posted March 31, 2008 Posted March 31, 2008 Women like a man who can dance, I know a bit of line dancing, put classic country on and I'll strut my stuff, that's impressed a few girls my age in the past. It's not the dancing, it's the lack of self-consciousness and being capable. Women do like a man who's capable and confident at any task he undertakes. For example, I like a man who is a confident and capable driver. None of this tentative floating from lane to lane or overly-aggressiveness, without knowing the limits of his own skills or the capabilities of the car he's driving. If he's capable and confident in his job, this is very interesting to listen to. If I can pick up an inkling of what he does, I know he knows what he's talking about and is a good communicator.
Elemental Posted March 31, 2008 Posted March 31, 2008 OK elemental then we agree thait is not must body odor that is the issue it is the way the gusy skin smells an hour after a shower. What if you had a guy with a great physicue and dispostion but not your favorite sent? and A fat slob with a poor attitude that smelled perfect, which one you going with? no you can't say none of the above. Yes, I can, because in real life, I have the option to walk away. I already know, from experience, that sexual relationships with men who don't smell right to me don't work no matter how otherwise wonderful they are. I also know that sexual relationships with men who smell right but have attitudes I don't like don't work, either. If the choice is between one or the other, I will pick none of the above. The option to be single is open to me in real life; I cannot be coerced into a relationship. Closing the third option off in a hypothetic situation doesn't really accomplish anything. Really, if you had to choose between a wonderful but hideously ugly woman and a super-hot b1tch, which would you pick? As this has no bearing at all on your actual life, I'm guessing you'd pick none of the above.
blind_otter Posted March 31, 2008 Posted March 31, 2008 Yes, I can, because in real life, I have the option to walk away. I already know, from experience, that sexual relationships with men who don't smell right to me don't work no matter how otherwise wonderful they are. I also know that sexual relationships with men who smell right but have attitudes I don't like don't work, either. If the choice is between one or the other, I will pick none of the above. I have to agree. I have ended things with men who didn't smell just right to me. When I was very young I had a vivid, recurring dream about being on a beach with a man whose face I did not see, but I put my face into the crook of his neck and knew the smell of him. Every man I've ever had a LTR with had that same smell, I can smell it in my nostrils right now.
sally4sara Posted March 31, 2008 Posted March 31, 2008 I like guys who have mastered a skilled trade. Carpentry, mechanics, culinary, etc. Even if they have a "more lofty" current occupation, they just come off more capable and confident than a paper pusher to me. They won't waste away in an insufferable employment situation and they tend to bounce back faster if they lose their job. I am also drawn in by men who are at ease in social situations where they might not know most of the people involved. Nothing is worse than taking a guy you just started dating to one of your friend's parties and having to babysit him because he doesn't know how to start conversation with people he doesn't know. Men who read are more interesting and intelligent. I don't require a guy to be a good dancer but he does have to be a good sport and at least try. A guy who can't dance well but is comfortable enough to cut loose is more fun. Being responsible with money is a big deal for me in a guy I am seeing. I am frugal and have trouble spending money on frivolous things. If my partner isn't the same we will have stupid arguments over money. I don't want a cheap guy; I am not cheap. I just don't respect anyone who needs so many material things and always goes for the status car, designer clothes, or newest toys. Splurge on an experience, not things. Save when possible and invest wisely so that when you are old you won't be eating cat food and your only memories won't be of the things you use to have instead of the things you experienced. It is important to me that they have a good relationship with their mother while still being able to say "no" to her. I find guys who hate their mother tend to have issues with women in general and guys who can't say "no" to their mother won't be able to say "no" to me either. I want to know for certain that if my partner says he agrees with me about something, he does actually agree with me rather than inwardly stewing over something he is too afraid to tell me he doesn't like. I also won't hang around for the guessing game. If I can't tell if a guy really loves and values me after dating for 6 months, I'm not going to waste my time going crazy with wonder. I will just move on.
dreamergrl Posted March 31, 2008 Posted March 31, 2008 I like guys who show REAL interest in me. They actually take the time to get to know me, ask me questions, and listen (not just pretend to list.. you know like when a guy asks you the same questions over and over) A guy who is open minded and accepts people for who they are!!! A guy that I can relate to and vice versa (share similar past experiences, similar goals and wants) Humor! Being able to just be goofy and laughing a lot! Physically - there's is nothing sexier then a great smile and deep eyes!
Author themessenger Posted March 31, 2008 Author Posted March 31, 2008 Yes, I can, because in real life, I have the option to walk away. OOps in my last reply to you my spelling was supposed to be musty body odor not must body odor. Anywyas geeze your no fun. Could have picked one of the two just for the fun of it. Lets pretend your a military prisioner and if you don't sleep with one of them it will mean your life.
PinkKittyKat Posted March 31, 2008 Posted March 31, 2008 OOps in my last reply to you my spelling was supposed to be musty body odor not must body odor. Anywyas geeze your no fun. Could have picked one of the two just for the fun of it. Lets pretend your a military prisioner and if you don't sleep with one of them it will mean your life. Musty or "must"? What on earth do you mean??? I'm assuming musty just means someone hasn't bathed in a bit... I like my men to wash. LOL My requirements for melting smells good(ie. liking the way he smells in his natural state without colognes) nice smile confident Make me melt but not required good dancer well dressed
PinkKittyKat Posted March 31, 2008 Posted March 31, 2008 Right I mean like a musty odor Well, if a man has an unpleasant musty scent I'm assuming that either means he doesn't shower, or that he just doesn't "smell right to me"... In regards to your "Hot guy with good attitude, but a bad scent" vs. "Fat slob with bad attitude but smells good", I'd probably end up going with the hot guy at first, but very QUICKLY losing interest. Like, probably before sex occured LOL. He needs to smell "sexy".
Elemental Posted March 31, 2008 Posted March 31, 2008 OOps in my last reply to you my spelling was supposed to be musty body odor not must body odor. Anywyas geeze your no fun. Could have picked one of the two just for the fun of it. Lets pretend your a military prisioner and if you don't sleep with one of them it will mean your life. I'll die then. I can't think which option is more revolting.
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