Kindle Posted March 30, 2008 Posted March 30, 2008 Around 6 months ago i found the most amazing man online. For a couple of months i refused to admit to myself how much i liked him as he had a girlfreind. Then as time passed, i had a feeling he felt the same about me so i told him how i felt and he said that if he wasnt already attached then he would be interested. Since then my feelings have honestly spiralled out of control, however much ive tried not to let them. He never does anything to encourage me, i know he likes me, i know im his freind, he's admitted hes attracted to me, and he would be lying if he hadnt thought about us being together, but thats all. We met playing an online game, however we are in different parts of the world. We probably spend a couple of hours a day playing, and sometimes his girlfreind plays too, although not often ( once or twice a month ) and it has to be said i hate it when she does. I know hes attached, i know that although he's not 100% happy he has no intentions of leaving her, I've never spoken to him verbally in real life and ive no idea what he looks like, apart from a vague description, this 'relationship' has never ventured outside the game, and despite knowing all this im still head over heels for him. I feel like this 'relationship' is destroying my life. My every waking thought seems to revolve around him, what hes doing, when i will see him online next. When our time playing is up, i cry, i would quite happily spend all day with him if i could...im trying so hard to push these feelings aside, to ignore them and ive told myself a million times that there isnt any point in having these feelings as nothing is ever going to come of them but its not working... I dont know what to do - has anyone else been in this sort of situation ?
JosieMcCoy Posted March 30, 2008 Posted March 30, 2008 Wow! You are pretty suave if you have the hots for a taken man. Get your own man and leave him alone! Drop the game and move on... Cheers!
carhill Posted March 30, 2008 Posted March 30, 2008 (edited) Push away from online gaming Seriously, this is just a fantasy. When he buys a plane ticket and you pick him up at the airport, then it's reality. I did this many years ago (an extended stay in the FSU) and found things exactly the opposite of what I expected. The "fantasy" ladies were not anything what I was looking for and the real ones I met without any prior contact other than being ICQ friends were simply amazing. If you want to become friends and romantically interested with people in other areas of the world, be prepared to travel. I've been doing it for a number of years and enjoy the cultures and friends I've made greatly. I married a local lady. PS...if you are sharing intimate details of your life with someone, more than you would with a platonic friend, then it's an EA (I call it an emotional attachment) Edited March 30, 2008 by carhill
Lookingforward Posted March 30, 2008 Posted March 30, 2008 Kindle, what type of online games do you share with him? There's a difference between say a site where you play online games with maybe a chat window and PMs like pogo, and a full blown 3D virtual reality with avatars etc etc. like WOW or SL There isn't really a "relationship" there from what I can see, he's already said he's not interested, so it's on your side not his. He has a g/f, you don't say what your relationship status is.
Author Kindle Posted March 30, 2008 Author Posted March 30, 2008 Thanks for all the replies so far Kindle, what type of online games do you share with him? There's a difference between say a site where you play online games with maybe a chat window and PMs like pogo, and a full blown 3D virtual reality with avatars etc etc. like WOW or SL There isn't really a "relationship" there from what I can see, he's already said he's not interested, so it's on your side not his. He has a g/f, you don't say what your relationship status is. It's WoW we both play, we are in the same guild. Perhaps i didnt make myself very clear in my first post - the problem is with me, not him, im emotionally attached to him. I cant stop feeling this way about him even though i have tried. Before WoW i played Everquest ( always been a gamer ! ), i was single then, played with a lot of men, some attached and some not and had some very close freinds, but i never felt this way about any of them.. I honestly dont think its a case of im lonely, im perfectly happy being single, i have been for a few years now by choice. Just this one guy has really got under my skin, and i need some advice on what to do as i know im in a hopeless situation, i just dont know how to deal with it.
Lookingforward Posted March 30, 2008 Posted March 30, 2008 It's WoW we both play, we are in the same guild. Perhaps i didnt make myself very clear in my first post - the problem is with me, not him, im emotionally attached to him. I cant stop feeling this way about him even though i have tried. Have you thought about joining another guild/server ? I realise you have a lot invested in your current one, but it may be for the best. It seems you have fallen for the fantasy "him". You haven't even spoken to him RL, you don't KNOW this guy, much as you may think you do. Best advice is to remove yourself before you cause yourself more heartache yearning after something that isn't REAL.
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