ShellyV Posted March 30, 2008 Posted March 30, 2008 I have been married for like an eternity to a man I no longer recognize over 20 years. I have been there for him through thick and thin. Two years ago he was hit by a car and almost died. I took care of him and he swore he would love me forever. Unfortunately he is a biker and he has become very chauvenistic. I am not trying to single out bikers or men in general. I am only speaking from my experience. What I want is help from the pain in my heart. We have been having problems because he is always in pain or over medicating himself. We began to grow apart because he had become unbearable to live with. Even our daughters couldn't stand to be around him. Well recently he went to hit my daughter and in the process assaulted me cause I intervened. Anyway he is going around telling his family lies and stating that I tried to hit his bad leg. I can't believe he would do this. I neglected myself and our children caring for him. He was in the hospital for a month and I was there for him everyday. I am devastated. Yesterday his own sister spoke to me in a harsh tone and said "get over yourself, go in there confront him and ask for a divorce and move on because he did." I asked her what that meant because to me she implied he already had someone else. She said he did. It turns out that he was already speaking to his lady friend since before our problems. We have not officially spoken to one another since Valentine's Day. It turns out that he has been talking to this woman since January 07, 2008. So here I am thinking I am the problem when he had already disrespected our home. My kids are devastated. I have to preapre myself to make the next step which is going to family court and filing for a separation. God my life is crazy. I am depressed and I have no apetite. I don't even know how I can get up and go to work. God is helping me through this. I am not looking for answers, I just want a place where I can express myself. I think it'll be beneficial to my sanity and emotional recovery of my so called life.
Nomad1 Posted March 30, 2008 Posted March 30, 2008 Hi Shelly, I am sorry to hear about your pain. You will deduce from the many similar posts to yours on LS that these kind of scenarios seem to always end up in the end of such relationships. Your husband sounds like an ungrateful and selfish man. His loss, your gain. Be strong for your daughters. Let him go and please do not take him back when he realises that the grass is not greener on the other side. Kick his ass to the curb where he belongs. You will get through this as long as you accept that it is over and that there is no going back. Take care Nomad1
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