Replicant Posted April 5, 2008 Posted April 5, 2008 only a couple minor problems with that scenario. 1- I don't currently have his phone # or e-mail addy 2- I have a whopping $250 to last me till Thursday... and have to get some groceries at some point Maybe it's you whom has to be assertive here considering he's not so far, if you have a car just go pick him up and say you've got tickets (even if you don't) there's plenty of good places for a date around the ACC. As for tickets there, they will be cheap being the last game (get one scalped) and you should get good seats. Otherwise hold out for Marlies tickets at Richo Considering you've spent the money on tickets get him to make more dinner dates to carry you through the week or some groceries...he wont want to see his love interest starve!
Author SS49 Posted April 5, 2008 Author Posted April 5, 2008 Maybe it's you whom has to be assertive here considering he's not so far, if you have a car just go pick him up and say you've got tickets (even if you don't)umm... that sounds a lot more stalkerish than assertive to me. lol.... I was thinking something a bit more low key than 'tricking' him with the false hope of hockey tickets. He mentioned that when he's not playing hockey he usually hits the movies or a pub. So I was thinking I'd shoot him an e-mail or text (I can get his e-mail/phone # from his dad) later this week simply saying "Hey, miss seeing you at hockey, feel like catching a movie?" Hockey just ended this past Wednesday so I figure I should wait till at least a week goes by before doing this.
Advocate's Devilette Posted April 5, 2008 Posted April 5, 2008 Please don't do this. If he is interested, he will get your contact info. Anyway, isn't your email info on the list? He could do the same by contacting you. However, I have a hunch that he's not interested. He would have already asked you out and caught your attention before the end of the season if he were. umm... that sounds a lot more stalkerish than assertive to me. lol.... I was thinking something a bit more low key than 'tricking' him with the false hope of hockey tickets. He mentioned that when he's not playing hockey he usually hits the movies or a pub. So I was thinking I'd shoot him an e-mail or text (I can get his e-mail/phone # from his dad) later this week simply saying "Hey, miss seeing you at hockey, feel like catching a movie?" Hockey just ended this past Wednesday so I figure I should wait till at least a week goes by before doing this.
Author SS49 Posted April 5, 2008 Author Posted April 5, 2008 Weirdest thing.... all of Advocate's Devilette replies just showed up... I hate to say this, but he will ask for your phone number and ask you out if he is interested. Don't ask for his number - he has figured out you are into him with all the flirting. He would ask you out, or would have already, if he was interested in more than the hockey games.Can't really say that I believe that the flirting was all that noticeable, I wasn't acting any different last time I saw him than I had been any time before that. Also why would HE have to ask ME out? If he's interested I'm sure he would have been just as nervous as I was... Besides taking a chance and having him reject me is far better than wondering what if!! What's the point of living life if you're just going to wait for things to happen to you? I thought of something else. Is it possible he has a serious girlfriend? That is probably why he doesn't go out to the brunches and out with the other players - he is rushing home to someone special.I'm about 95% sure he's not in a relationship... The reason he doesn't go out to the brunches is cause he's not part of the team that goes out for brunch. (Wednesday is when I play with the guy I like, after that game most of the guys go out for beers. Neither of us go out because the game is late and we both work early in the morning, he also doesn't go because he gets a ride with his dad and 2 underage sisters!) Brunch on Sundays happens with an other team, but a lot of the guys that I play with on Sunday also play on Thursday, and Sunday brunch was my rebuttal to someone that mentioned I should just ask everyone out to do something to get to spend more time with him....
Replicant Posted April 5, 2008 Posted April 5, 2008 umm... that sounds a lot more stalkerish than assertive to me. lol.... I was thinking something a bit more low key than 'tricking' him with the false hope of hockey tickets. He mentioned that when he's not playing hockey he usually hits the movies or a pub. So I was thinking I'd shoot him an e-mail or text (I can get his e-mail/phone # from his dad) later this week simply saying "Hey, miss seeing you at hockey, feel like catching a movie?" Hockey just ended this past Wednesday so I figure I should wait till at least a week goes by before doing this. I know i was just joking! Seriously, my comment was more towards if you both like hockey it's a sure bet on a good place for a date. I'm not sure when the marlies season finishes up. And there's many good places along the lakeshore for dinner (especially during the summer) but of course there is no hockey then Anyways, assertive is what you will most likely have to be as he's not making the move to ask for your number. No need to wait really, just ask his dad as if you've got no means of crossing paths. Too much time left in between may prove to be counterproductive. In the sense maybe he thinks you are not interested afterall, based on him taking a passive approach to this.
Advocate's Devilette Posted April 5, 2008 Posted April 5, 2008 Considering you've spent the money on tickets get him to make more dinner dates to carry you through the week or some groceries...he wont want to see his love interest starve! Would you like to explain how you 'get him to make more dinner dates?' especially since it hasn't been established that he's even interested in her?
Author SS49 Posted April 5, 2008 Author Posted April 5, 2008 I know i was just joking! as was I about the stalker comment! lol... silly internet and it's inability to convey conjecture. anyway... I totally agree that I'll be the one that has to make the first move... just would like to get it across with out seeming like a needy, overzealous idiot is all
Advocate's Devilette Posted April 5, 2008 Posted April 5, 2008 You asked for advice and I gave it. You are refuting everyone who is giving their advice. You seem to have it all figured out. But I will tell you this again - if he was interested, he would have asked you out for a date. It also seems he has access to your email/phone or could easily get it if he really wants it. Men go after what they want. He didn't ask you out, so you just have to assume he's not interested in you off the hockey rink. Can you accept that and move on? That is really the best advice here.
Replicant Posted April 5, 2008 Posted April 5, 2008 YEs and seriously' date=' doing a gesture (an extravagant date with tickets to an expensive game) is trying to buy the guy into liking her. He's either interested in an off-rink dating situation or not. If he is, he'll ask her out. that's just how it is![/quote'] You are reading into it way too seriously. I get the understanding they know each other well through pick up hockey, and if things did work out and they did end up dating. Going to a hockey game would be an interest they both share, regarding expenses notice i mentioned another venue which also has cheaper tickets. And there is plenty of great restaurants around either location. Not a matter of one person buying the others interest. Just like every date does not have to be extravagant or low profile. This also follows whatever bias you would place on what is considered such and deemed expensive.
Replicant Posted April 5, 2008 Posted April 5, 2008 as was I about the stalker comment! lol... silly internet and it's inability to convey conjecture. anyway... I totally agree that I'll be the one that has to make the first move... just would like to get it across with out seeming like a needy, overzealous idiot is all I honestly think you gave him all the right cues in which he should have picked up on to ask you out. Maybe he wasn't as sharp as his skates that particular day who knows...It's his fault he let the clock run out and didn't take a shot while he had the chance! It doesn't make you look needy or overzealous, at least you'll know where you stand and not having to take all this thinking about it into OT.
Author SS49 Posted April 5, 2008 Author Posted April 5, 2008 I honestly think you gave him all the right cues in which he should have picked up on to ask you out. Maybe he wasn't as sharp as his skates that particular day who knows...It's his fault he let the clock run out and didn't take a shot while he had the chance! It doesn't make you look needy or overzealous, at least you'll know where you stand and not having to take all this thinking about it into OT. alright, so I get his e-mail/phone #.... what do I say? take a bold approach and tell him I wanted to ask him last week and bailed OR just ask him out? or i don't know something else entirely?
Advocate's Devilette Posted April 5, 2008 Posted April 5, 2008 alright, so I get his e-mail/phone #.... what do I say? take a bold approach and tell him I wanted to ask him last week and bailed OR just ask him out? or i don't know something else entirely? i guarantee if you make the first move, you will report back to us that he either 1. ignored your email or 2. rejected you. I'll bet money on it, personally.
Replicant Posted April 5, 2008 Posted April 5, 2008 alright, so I get his e-mail/phone #.... what do I say? take a bold approach and tell him I wanted to ask him last week and bailed OR just ask him out? or i don't know something else entirely? I would say get his phone number choosing between the two, give the dude a call and after some small talk cut to the chase and ask if he would like to... (Insert date activity here). No need to go into the past of how it did not happen last week for such and such a reason.. At this point it should scream that you are interested if he's been ultra oblivious or shy and passive.. Hoping he would maybe take this cue to settle on a time for the date and when to pick you up. If he's also interested i would think confidence would take over on his part and he will show it. (Not leaving it all on you.) If anything you'll see how he reacts to it, and most of all you will have your answer.
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