SS49 Posted March 30, 2008 Posted March 30, 2008 So there is this guy that I like, we play pick-up hockey together once a week. There is some mild flirting going on, we joke around a lot, and have a good time on the ice and in the dressing room. We've never interacted outside the hockey rink though. Next week is the last week of hockey for this year, after which I won't see him again until next October. I really would like this not to be the case, and have entertained thoughts of asking him for his number or if he wanted to go out sometime BUT his dad and 2 younger sisters also play with us and we're there with a bunch of guys so it's pretty daunting to ask him with all those people around, and we're never really alone... any advice??
latefragment Posted March 30, 2008 Posted March 30, 2008 That is so cool! I am a girl too and I used to play a lot of pick up hockey, mostly roller hockey, but some ice, and it's crazy being the only girl on the ice sometimes, huh? Anyway, I think you should just slip him your number on a piece of paper at the end of one of the games. What do you think? Subtle, gets the point across, and you don't have to be caught stammering in front of his family and other guys. What do you think?!
motive2002 Posted March 30, 2008 Posted March 30, 2008 There is some mild flirting going on, we joke around a lot, and have a good time on the ice and in the dressing room. In the dressing room? Anyway, if it's going to be the last chance you see him for a while, might as well ask. There's no harm in seeing if he's interested in talking/seeing one another outside of your hockey games.
Author SS49 Posted March 31, 2008 Author Posted March 31, 2008 latefragment - I can't foresee a situation where me slipping him a piece of paper won't attract a boat load of attention from the guys in the dressing room. At which point I might as well just out right ask him for his number. Which might be what I end up doing..... I can't see any other way of going about it. motive2002 - Yes, the dressing room, we're all adults we all get changed in the same dressing room, it's not a big deal. You obviously didn't read the post very well, the whole reason of it was me asking for a way to ask him without being too obvious with the rest of the guys on the team - whom I play with on another team and I will be seeing weekly throughout the summer.
latefragment Posted March 31, 2008 Posted March 31, 2008 is there a group email list? you can do that too... asking him in front of everyone may be your only option then...
Author SS49 Posted March 31, 2008 Author Posted March 31, 2008 (edited) There is a group e-mail list but he's not on it. His dad is so I could potentially send him an e-mail asking for his son's e-mail or phone #. He's a pretty cool guy so I'm sure he won't make too much out of it. That's probably what I'll do if nothing comes out of Wednesday (which is the last game). I have no idea what I would say in the e-mail to Matt (which is the guy I like) and in-person is so much better, so here's hoping Wednesday turns out good. If there are any more suggestions I'll gladly take them. Edited March 31, 2008 by SS49
KidEternity Posted March 31, 2008 Posted March 31, 2008 Can you not just take him to the side and ask for it no? Also if it is the last game of the season, surely you could just invite everyone out to socialise, grab some Pizza, or a beer or something, then make your move there? Emailing sounds like a good idea though
Author SS49 Posted March 31, 2008 Author Posted March 31, 2008 There isn't really anywhere to take him aside to. We're on the ice for 1.5 hours with no whistles or stoppages in play. Everyone goes out for beers after each game, but he never goes.. nor do I, the game is late and we both work early in the morning. And doing a general get together some other time wouldn't make to much sense, since I see and go out for Sunday brunch with most of the others guys after our game. (I play pick up on Wed. and in a Co-ed league on Sundays)
Author SS49 Posted April 3, 2008 Author Posted April 3, 2008 *sigh*... I chickened out:( We ended up playing defense together, so we got to chat a bunch on the bench, but I just couldn't seem to ask him if he wanted to hang out, outside of hockey. I was definitely getting mixed signals, there was lots of smiling, joking, and poking fun but every time I tried to steer the convo towards us hanging out we either had to go out on the ice, or it ended up going in an other direction. So now I've got 2 choices: 1) wait a couple weeks and ask his dad for his e-mail addy. OR 2) wait till next fall and see what happens then.... What do you guys think?
latefragment Posted April 3, 2008 Posted April 3, 2008 ask his dad for the address. That is my vote. In the fall, who knows?! Only thing is: Can you handle it if he rejects you but you still want to play pickup hockey next fall? If I were you, the answer would be YES it's worth it. Because even if he does reject you (which I DO NOT think he will) by the fall you might not even be playing in that league, or maybe you will be seeing someone, or you will be sufficiently over it so that you won't care.
Author SS49 Posted April 3, 2008 Author Posted April 3, 2008 I'm definitely not worried about being rejected and then playing with him next fall, I'll play no matter what happens. Now the questions becomes do I contact his dad with in the next couple of days and shoot off an 'I was too chicken to ask you on wednesday but...' type e-mail? or give it some time and pull a 'really miss seeing you at hockey, wanna hang out some time...' e-mail? I'm a little afraid of being rejected and definitely not as confident as you are that he'll say yes, but nothing is ever gained for standing on the sidelines, right?
latefragment Posted April 3, 2008 Posted April 3, 2008 don't go the "I was too chicken to ask for your number" route, it might scare him. Just say, hey, let's hang out sometime. I guess hockey season is over in canada now or you could say something like, "want to go catch the [insert name of team] game sometime" or something like that. Like , 'It was fun playing hockey with you, let's hang out again'. You don't have to insinuate that you're interested because he'll get it. What do you think?!
Author SS49 Posted April 3, 2008 Author Posted April 3, 2008 the season isn't over quite yet, but going to see the leafs is way out of either of our price ranges, tickets to a game around here are ridiculously expensive. So unless some free tickets magically land in my lap that's not happening:p You think just sending out an e-mail that says 'wanna hang out sometime' is enough? I'm not really much for being subtle... Why do you think just coming out and telling him the truth about yesterday would scare him?
mortensorchid Posted April 3, 2008 Posted April 3, 2008 Ask if you could have some alone time to chat or to talk on the phone sometime if you are intimidated by the presence of others.
Author SS49 Posted April 3, 2008 Author Posted April 3, 2008 Ask if you could have some alone time to chat or to talk on the phone sometime if you are intimidated by the presence of others. there is no longer any 'others' in the picture!
Advocate's Devilette Posted April 5, 2008 Posted April 5, 2008 I hate to say this, but he will ask for your phone number and ask you out if he is interested. Don't ask for his number - he has figured out you are into him with all the flirting. He would ask you out, or would have already, if he was interested in more than the hockey games. My advice is to not "make a move." If he doesn't "make a move" he doesn't want it to go further than the hockey rink with you.
Replicant Posted April 5, 2008 Posted April 5, 2008 the season isn't over quite yet, but going to see the leafs is way out of either of our price ranges, tickets to a game around here are ridiculously expensive. So unless some free tickets magically land in my lap that's not happening:p Come on now, if you're going to see a quality NHL team like our leafs you're going to have to pay those kind of prices, it's not like Western Canada where all you have to show is a little interest at the door and they'll let you inside! Besides tickets should be on a clearance sale at the ACC for today's final game considering we decided to take a break from the playoffs this year
Advocate's Devilette Posted April 5, 2008 Posted April 5, 2008 YEs and seriously, doing a gesture (an extravagant date with tickets to an expensive game) is trying to buy the guy into liking her. He's either interested in an off-rink dating situation or not. If he is, he'll ask her out. that's just how it is! Come on now, if you're going to see a quality NHL team like our leafs you're going to have to pay those kind of prices, it's not like Western Canada where all you have to show is a little interest at the door and they'll let you inside! Besides tickets should be on a clearance sale at the ACC for today's final game considering we decided to take a break from the playoffs this year
Advocate's Devilette Posted April 5, 2008 Posted April 5, 2008 I thought of something else. Is it possible he has a serious girlfriend? That is probably why he doesn't go out to the brunches and out with the other players - he is rushing home to someone special. Let this one go. It is fun to have a crush on someone but taking it to reality - if he is intrigued, he will find your number somehow and call. If not, you know you are only a hockey buddy to him.
Author SS49 Posted April 5, 2008 Author Posted April 5, 2008 we decided to take a break from the playoffs this year and the year before that, and the year before that.... poor leafs not good enough to make the playoffs, yet too stupid to tank the last half of the season for a quality draft pick!
Replicant Posted April 5, 2008 Posted April 5, 2008 and the year before that, and the year before that.... poor leafs not good enough to make the playoffs, yet too stupid to tank the last half of the season for a quality draft pick! Yeah it is pretty bad when you start saying that the 'rink beer' was better than the game you just went to watch Getting a quality draft pick would not only offset the rest of the team, but also increase ticket prices also to pay their salary and for the 'Stanley cup champions' hats they print up every year in hopes of winning But hey you've still got a few hours to get the tickets, considering the focus will be off making the playoff's you have plenty of time to focus on the date and hopefully get yourself a two minute minor for cross checking
Advocate's Devilette Posted April 5, 2008 Posted April 5, 2008 What if she paid all that money for tickets and 1. the guy couldn't go and 2. turns out the guy never was into her in the first place and doesn't want to go with her? Yeah it is pretty bad when you start saying that the 'rink beer' was better than the game you just went to watch Getting a quality draft pick would not only offset the rest of the team, but also increase ticket prices also to pay their salary and for the 'Stanley cup champions' hats they print up every year in hopes of winning But hey you've still got a few hours to get the tickets, considering the focus will be off making the playoff's you have plenty of time to focus on the date and hopefully get yourself a two minute minor for cross checking
Author SS49 Posted April 5, 2008 Author Posted April 5, 2008 But hey you've still got a few hours to get the tickets, considering the focus will be off making the playoff's you have plenty of time to focus on the date and hopefully get yourself a two minute minor for cross checking only a couple minor problems with that scenario. 1- I don't currently have his phone # or e-mail addy 2- I have a whopping $250 to last me till Thursday... and have to get some groceries at some point
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