ria305 Posted March 30, 2008 Posted March 30, 2008 Hello all! To say that I am hurt would be an understatement. My boyfriend and I have been together for a little over a year. About two months ago I woke up with what I thought was an insect bite on my chest. Come to find out, I tested positive for HSV type 2 through a viral culture that was performed on the sore. Our worlds were turned inside out since we were convinced at that point that we were both infected. Furthermore, I was also convinced that i contracted it from him because I had been tested months before we got together and tested negative. He was devastated not only because he thought he had it but to know that he may have infected me. It get's uglier; just this week he went to the doctor to get tested and he tested negative, which means a number of things: I did not get it from him even thougth i tested negative in the past (Confusing) and that I am now in a relationship where I have an STD and my partner doesn't (Complicated). Also, after of over a year of having unprotected sex with him he never caught it (Miracle?). To make a long story short I will say he's been supportive and he wants us to stay together, he tells me "We are going to get through this" however, he told me that we should no longer have sex until we know we are going to get married. He says this for two reasons: The main reason is because he feels that God spared him and he took this as a sign that he should remain celibate until marriage. Secondly, because if our relationship does not last he doesn't want to put himself at risk. I am so confused by this. I feel terrible. I am scared. He wants to be with me but doesn't want to have sex?? I am scared that he may cheat with someone else that may not be infected. I am not sure if I should believe the celibacy thing or is an excuse. I just keep having these thoughts that he is going to start having sex with other people... Please help!
Lizzie60 Posted March 30, 2008 Posted March 30, 2008 Humm... maybe the test were wrong.. If I were you I would go for more tests (to another doctor/lab).. just to see..
Jilly Bean Posted March 30, 2008 Posted March 30, 2008 If would DEFINITELY get the test redone. It doesn't add up. Plus, I never heard of a herpes sore manifesting on ones chest...
Tony T Posted March 30, 2008 Posted March 30, 2008 Did you hear the doctor tell him he tested negative? There's something really wrong with this picture. I just don't know what it is. Who got what when from who??????????? These questions need to be answered. If you tested negative and weren't screwing around and he tested negative (if true) this is a medical miracle. Genital herpes is as contagious as they come. Worry later about him cheating on you in the future. Right now, sort through this mess. Talk to a doctor to see just how this could have happened and what the two of you can do to continue a healthy sex life. Like Jilly Bean said, it's weird that this could manifest itself on your chest. Maybe you don't have a virus down there. Look into this and DON'T BE AFRAID TO ASK YOUR DOCTOR QUESTIONS!!!
Star Gazer Posted March 30, 2008 Posted March 30, 2008 You can actually have a negative blood test result but still be a carrier - a false negative. The only way to 100% confirm a diagnosis is through a culture of an open sore. "The test will give a negative result in 15% of people who really are infected with HSV (this is a false negative result)." http://www.stdservices.on.net/std/herpes/serology.htm
Lizzie60 Posted March 30, 2008 Posted March 30, 2008 You can actually have a negative blood test result but still be a carrier - a false negative. The only way to 100% confirm a diagnosis is through a culture of an open sore. "The test will give a negative result in 15% of people who really are infected with HSV (this is a false negative result)." http://www.stdservices.on.net/std/herpes/serology.htm Ha-hem... she said it was taken from her sore.. I tested positive for HSV type 2 through a viral culture that was performed on the sore.
Star Gazer Posted March 30, 2008 Posted March 30, 2008 Ha-hem... she said it was taken from her sore.. Ha hem. False-negative, Lizzie. I'm referring to her BF.
Lizzie60 Posted March 30, 2008 Posted March 30, 2008 Ha hem. False-negative, Lizzie. I'm referring to her BF. Oh.. it's hard to say when it's not specified.. you started the post with 'YOU',... I don't think she can read your mind.. (neither can I)..
Nevermind Posted March 30, 2008 Posted March 30, 2008 There is a possibility of getting herpes really early in life, even as a child. Many people do not realize they are a carrier until it breaks out. As long as you have had no infections the risk of your boyfriend catching it would be significantly slimmer. He might have been plain lucky. But to answer all of this the two of you will have to get a second test. This is normal procedure, so don't worry about asking the doctor or another.
StartingOver07 Posted March 30, 2008 Posted March 30, 2008 Are you sure the sore on your chest wasn't shingles, which typically manifests on the trunk and is a reactivation of the chicken pox virus (herpes zoster)? Shingles can be triggered from a number of things, including stress, but it is not an STD.
norajane Posted March 30, 2008 Posted March 30, 2008 HSV 2? How is it possible for a genital herpes to appear on your chest? That doesn't make sense. I'd get retested if I were you.
xpaperxcutx Posted March 30, 2008 Posted March 30, 2008 I agree with the other posters, it's best that you get retested. Both Type 1 and 2 Herpes are contracted through physical (sexual) contact. Especially if you were sexually active with your bf, it's most likely he was infected as well. Unless he was false negative like SG has mentioned. Also for the record, your bf sudden proposal for celibacy is selfserving than anything else. It's justifiable that he has a right to protect himself from contracting the disease from you, but he should have been a bit more considerate in approaching the matter when discussing it with you. The main reason is because he feels that God spared him and he took this as a sign that he should remain celibate until marriage. Secondly, because if our relationship does not last he doesn't want to put himself at risk am so confused by this. I feel terrible. I am scared. He wants to be with me but doesn't want to have sex?? [QOUTE] God could've spared you too, the results might've been a mistake, why does he not see that you're more the victim than anything else? And unless he's really religious I question why he wants celibacy in the first place? Is it just to not have sex in general or just not with you? And why would he even mention to say anything about the relationship not working out? If he cares anything about you, he wouldn't come right out and say that to your face. He could've been more supportive.
DanielMadr Posted March 30, 2008 Posted March 30, 2008 Miracle! I would suggest re-testing to be sure. Dr. House would probaly force you to admit that quickie on the public toilets with tall, dark stranger.
carhill Posted March 30, 2008 Posted March 30, 2008 And why would he even mention to say anything about the relationship not working out? If he cares anything about you, he wouldn't come right out and say that to your face. He could've been more supportive Just another guy having sex with no emotions invested and/or no empathy or caring for his partner. The mind boggles. Personally, I hope you get good news and dump his @ss. Sorry to be blunt...
Melvll Posted March 30, 2008 Posted March 30, 2008 yes it is possible for him to not get it. If he has a very strong ammune System his body can fight it back...
NeanderthalSSoldier Posted March 30, 2008 Posted March 30, 2008 Miracle! I would suggest re-testing to be sure. Dr. House would probaly force you to admit that quickie on the public toilets with tall, dark stranger. My take as well. She didn't get it from slipping on a banana peel. Me thinks she doesn't want to come clean about her inner slvt running wild for a few minutes. Get retested together to remove all doubt. But I'll go out on a limb and say that she has some excuse NOT to go and have it done. Admit it and move on.
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