Noos Posted March 30, 2008 Posted March 30, 2008 There's a guy friend who I know really likes me and I really like him but he has told me he's too busy for a relationship which usually means "I'm not interested enough to pursue a relationship with you." He did, in fact, pursue me for ages and when i finally gave in, he backed off. it was like he lost interest when he realised he could finally get what he wanted. My sister reckons all is not lost. She reckons that when some guys find "the one" they run a mile and are scared of dating if they think they don't have enough time to really devote to it. She says they are scared of messing up their chance with their dream girl and make excuse to avoid dating in order to avoid their fear of failure. Does this sound even remotely probable??
BlueEyedGirl Posted March 30, 2008 Posted March 30, 2008 Ah while anything is possible I would give this about 0.0001% chance of being true.
Cherry Blossom 35 Posted March 30, 2008 Posted March 30, 2008 I know that guy. That has happened to me many times. I think it is all about the pursuit, and really has nothing to do with who you are as a person. Move on! You deserve better.
Balthazar Posted March 30, 2008 Posted March 30, 2008 Not have time for a chick I am interested in? Not a chance. This guy is not interested, move on
FormerNiceGuy Posted March 30, 2008 Posted March 30, 2008 There's a guy friend who I know really likes me and I really like him but he has told me he's too busy for a relationship which usually means "I'm not interested enough to pursue a relationship with you." He did, in fact, pursue me for ages and when i finally gave in, he backed off. it was like he lost interest when he realised he could finally get what he wanted. My sister reckons all is not lost. She reckons that when some guys find "the one" they run a mile and are scared of dating if they think they don't have enough time to really devote to it. She says they are scared of messing up their chance with their dream girl and make excuse to avoid dating in order to avoid their fear of failure. Does this sound even remotely probable?? He wisened up. That's what happens when you play too hard to get. Guys get wise and realize that there are other women who will actually give them the time of day.
TheSilentType Posted March 30, 2008 Posted March 30, 2008 He pursued you, and you didn't give him the time of day. Now when you are free, he's not going to give you the time of day. He made the right choice. Don't play with people like this next time.
FormerNiceGuy Posted March 30, 2008 Posted March 30, 2008 He pursued you, and you didn't give him the time of day. Now when you are free, he's not going to give you the time of day. He made the right choice. Don't play with people like this next time. exactly. on the dot.
Author Noos Posted April 1, 2008 Author Posted April 1, 2008 Why are you assuming I played hard to get? Far out, guys make dumb assumptions.
DanielMadr Posted April 1, 2008 Posted April 1, 2008 Why are you assuming I played hard to get? Far out, guys make dumb assumptions. He did, in fact, pursue me for ages and when i finally gave in You wrote that or did not?
shanny Posted April 1, 2008 Posted April 1, 2008 Sadly, I agree that it was probably all about the chase for him. But I disagree with the others that said you got what you deserve to letting him chase you so long. I had this happen once too, where a guy was chasing me, and at first I wasn't into him, but as I got to know him I really started to like him. Nothing wrong with that. Why would you date a guy that you don't really like? People are making it sound like it's your responsibility to date anyone that chases you. Makes no sense to me!
Legend Posted April 1, 2008 Posted April 1, 2008 There's a guy friend who I know really likes me and I really like him but he has told me he's too busy for a relationship which usually means "I'm not interested enough to pursue a relationship with you." He did, in fact, pursue me for ages and when i finally gave in, he backed off. it was like he lost interest when he realised he could finally get what he wanted. My sister reckons all is not lost. She reckons that when some guys find "the one" they run a mile and are scared of dating if they think they don't have enough time to really devote to it. She says they are scared of messing up their chance with their dream girl and make excuse to avoid dating in order to avoid their fear of failure. Does this sound even remotely probable?? You put him in the friend zone too long, he lost interest.
Author Noos Posted April 1, 2008 Author Posted April 1, 2008 The reason I didn't date him at first was because we worked together in a small firm of five people. Now we don't, so it made trying to date okay. That's not playing hard to get. You shouldn't date people you work with because if it goes wrong, it's horrible.
Chinook Posted April 1, 2008 Posted April 1, 2008 He's a hunter. Simple as that really. Thrill of the chase and now it's done, he's not interested.
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