chill chic Posted March 30, 2008 Posted March 30, 2008 I'm trying to figure this guy out. We have been friends for about a month, we just started messing around, but we had an understanding from both of us that we are single and not looking for a relationship right now. But we talk everyday, he even has told me that he has stomach issues that he has problems with and always confides in me when he's feeling bad. Which I'm sure he wouldn't disclose to just any girl. Whenever I’m feeling sick he helps me out too. I've had an f buddy before & he wasn't as NEAR emotional or seemingly attached as this guy is. So that's what's odd and now wondering if he really likes me but won't admit it. Yesterday I could tell he got jealous because I was talking about 1 of his friends, then he seemed like he was attacking me questions, but he said he wasn't because it's not like we're dating he said. BUT whenever I mention any guy just as a friend he seems to get quiet or jealous-like, & he says he doesn't like to share (sexually) which I wasn't even talking about. So what's his deal???
Star Gazer Posted March 30, 2008 Posted March 30, 2008 Simple. Men are territorial. You've started this relationship as a "F buddy," and unfortunately, that's where you're going to stay. You told him you don't want a relationship, and he told you the same thing. Don't over think this and start to believe he wants a relationship, because he doesn't. This dude wants to *mark* you as exclusively his, while being able to do whatever (and whomever) he wants.
BlueEyedGirl Posted March 30, 2008 Posted March 30, 2008 I'm trying to figure this guy out. We have been friends for about a month, we just started messing around, but we had an understanding from both of us that we are single and not looking for a relationship right now. But we talk everyday, he even has told me that he has stomach issues that he has problems with and always confides in me when he's feeling bad. Which I'm sure he wouldn't disclose to just any girl. Whenever I’m feeling sick he helps me out too. I've had an f buddy before & he wasn't as NEAR emotional or seemingly attached as this guy is. So that's what's odd and now wondering if he really likes me but won't admit it. Yesterday I could tell he got jealous because I was talking about 1 of his friends, then he seemed like he was attacking me questions, but he said he wasn't because it's not like we're dating he said. BUT whenever I mention any guy just as a friend he seems to get quiet or jealous-like, & he says he doesn't like to share (sexually) which I wasn't even talking about. So what's his deal??? The bolded part is all that matters and it cancels everything else out. The thing is you should NEVER agree on a F$ck buddy realtionship when you clearly want more. As for getting jelous, SG is right men are very territorial - even when you are not sleeping with them. I have had married men with whom I had light friendship/flirting situations with get jelous if I so much as talk to or mention another guy. Does that mean that they were crazy about me? Hell NO.
TheFonz Posted March 30, 2008 Posted March 30, 2008 Don't listen to the naysayers. Isn't it possible you might change your mind and want to be exclusive? Heck, I don't know maybe you were just saying you just wanted to be FB's but didn't really mean it or weren't sure. Maybe you're both playing the same game? Point is saying you're only going to be FB doesn't make it turn out to be so anymore than saying you're going to BF/GF makes exclusitivity and LTR really so. Sounds like there's a good chance he is leaning to wanting it to be more. There's also a possibility he's just being territorial, but you mentioned things that suggest more than that. There's not enough info provided, but I'm thinking there's probably something to your gut feeling.
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