BlueHaiku Posted March 30, 2008 Posted March 30, 2008 Your question begs another question: What is "rebound" anyway?
carhill Posted March 30, 2008 Posted March 30, 2008 A relationship where one party (or both, yikes) still has an emotional attachment to or unfinished business with their ex.... well, that's my definition anyway...
Author sylvanas Posted March 30, 2008 Author Posted March 30, 2008 A rebound relationship would be a messy, emotional second relationship that occurs right after breaking up with someone and usually doesn't last after the "rebounder" heals from the first break up. People usually do this as a way to get over the first person and relieve some of their saddness. But I would *think* this would mainly apply to someone whose been hurt by just being dumped, not so much the dumper.
carhill Posted March 30, 2008 Posted March 30, 2008 IMO, if the dumper has detached prior to dumping, and is clear emotionally, the new partner has a good chance of not being a rebound.
Author sylvanas Posted March 30, 2008 Author Posted March 30, 2008 nvm. you answered my question before I could post it. lol
mortensorchid Posted March 30, 2008 Posted March 30, 2008 My old boyfriend broke up with me 2 years ago. Immediatly afterwards he said he was going to get another girlfriend. This was when we were about to go overseas. I was so hurt by this that I screamed my head off and cried like a two year old and embarrassed him in the middle of a busy airport in New Jersey. I felt I was entitled. But, he was true to his word. Less that a year later, he did, in fact, get another girlfriend, and married her. It is now 2 years later. All the mutual friends we had cut him out of their lives and sided with me (no encouragement from me, I assure you). And his marriage ended after a few months of living hell. He's really alone now. It was fueled by a sense of competition to show me that even though he might not have been as attractive, smart, etc. as the next guy, he can still get another woman before I could get another boyfriend. He can sit there in his misery, having jumped into his situation way too quickly. Give yourself a year or so to heal, then you'll be ready again.
underpants Posted March 30, 2008 Posted March 30, 2008 Transitional relationships are plagued with uncertainty, comparison, doubt and mixed feelings. Best not to go there.
Trialbyfire Posted March 30, 2008 Posted March 30, 2008 Do people still rebound if they've dumped their partner for you? This is normally the exit affair or bridge relationship, which in essence, is the rebound.
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