themessenger Posted March 29, 2008 Posted March 29, 2008 Sometimes I find myself doing things for girls or being there for them all the time. I hang when ever they ask me too. I know this is murder for a relationship in the long run because it makes me seem needy or not in demand. The problem is I get this feeling that if i do in fact put myself first, she will figure at some point well "he doesn't care i'll find somebody else" or "there are plenty of guys like that in my life already what do i need him for? I'll just go back to my ex" can somebody help me with this?
carhill Posted March 29, 2008 Posted March 29, 2008 If you are mindful of your needs and live your own life, you'll attract the right woman for you, as opposed to being attracted to and servicing others. The others aren't right for you. Make sense? Self respect breeds respect from others.
SoStupid Posted March 30, 2008 Posted March 30, 2008 If you are mindful of your needs and live your own life, you'll attract the right woman for you, as opposed to being attracted to and servicing others. The others aren't right for you. Make sense? Self respect breeds respect from others. Very well said. Be yourself and make yourself happy! She will come along.. Good things come to people who wait..
Author themessenger Posted March 30, 2008 Author Posted March 30, 2008 Well, by that theory, wouldn't that mean that by her attacting me.. that I'm the right guy for her?
Lizzie60 Posted March 30, 2008 Posted March 30, 2008 Sometimes I find myself doing things for girls or being there for them all the time. I hang when ever they ask me too. I know this is murder for a relationship in the long run because it makes me seem needy or not in demand. The problem is I get this feeling that if i do in fact put myself first, she will figure at some point well "he doesn't care i'll find somebody else" or "there are plenty of guys like that in my life already what do i need him for? I'll just go back to my ex" can somebody help me with this? OOohhh.. I would need 2-3 guys like you.. Seriously.. you probably come out as being too available.. not in demand, whatever... you're too nice.. hahaha... be a little more independant..
Author themessenger Posted March 30, 2008 Author Posted March 30, 2008 I know what your saying but when a girl complains about all the jerks in the past it makes me feel like I'm in a postion where i need to play a certain role. Then the say if you act like them i'll drop u imediatly. Its always awsome when they awear up and down that they wouldn't go back to them and they do. thats awsome!
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