alexalynn Posted March 29, 2008 Posted March 29, 2008 First off, what would you say "Taking a break" really means? a couple days ago "my boyfriend" told me he was fighting with his dad and brother , he was really stressed out and he told me that he wanted to be with me but he wasnt really sure if he wanted to be in a relationship at the time or if he wanted to be single then he told me that he would talk about it with me the next day, he never said anything about it so i thought it was just b/c he was stressed. well today he called me and said that he might be moving in with his mom b/c him and his dad are fighting really bad and its getting worse then he told me hes just really messed up right now and then he told me again that he wants to be with me but he kinda wants to take a break to see what happens b/c everything is just getting to him. he said he just really dont want to hurt me then he asked me what we should do i told him it was up to him and he told me we should take a break for about 2 weeks to see he asked me if we could still talk and he said he wants to be with me. do you think its all just stress related?
Food4Thought Posted March 29, 2008 Posted March 29, 2008 Hello Alexalynn. It appears that your "boyfriend" is having a tough go at home. By the way it sounds, it's likely that there is a lot of stress on the homefront for him as well as others in the household. If this is indeed the case as he says, i imagine stress and confusion would cloud his judgement in several decisions that he's making in a variety of areas of his life. Whether or not this is the case, concerning you, it sounds to me like he is confused about his feelings. Not that he doesn't care, just that he's on again/off again with the idea of you two being together. If there is trouble at home and it's likely he might be relocating, this could contribute to his uncertainty as to commiting himself to a relationship at this time. With all of the previously mentioned, if I may suggest, for the time being, to stay patient. Be a friend for now. Try not to get caught up in fretting over whether you two are going to be together or not. If you project that behavior towards him, it will likely cause him to retreat from you and add to any stress that he claims to be bearing now. It might be more important to just step back a little and give him some space to decide how deeply he feels about you while he's coping with his current environment(s). Stay in contact of course. And hang out when/if you can; but, give him the opportunity to come to you on the matter of a romantic relationship. He really may just want and need a friend (buddy) right now - to know that someone cares about him. This way, no matter what the outcome of the potential "romantic relationship" is, you're showing him what he means to you and what you're worth. And that is what is most important, IMHO. I hope this gives some perspective......hang in there
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