pr-girl Posted March 28, 2008 Posted March 28, 2008 I'm finding myself listening to my ex's music today. His words, his voice, his instruments. Why am I torturing myself with this? Hearing his voice makes me miss him even more. Am I being self-destructive or do I just really love and miss this man?
carhill Posted March 29, 2008 Posted March 29, 2008 No harm in admitting and grieving your loss. Beats denying it and circling the drain without meaningful direction. Someday, you'll listen and smile and remember the gift of the time you had. It's a process
Author pr-girl Posted March 29, 2008 Author Posted March 29, 2008 No harm in admitting and grieving your loss. Beats denying it and circling the drain without meaningful direction. Someday, you'll listen and smile and remember the gift of the time you had. It's a process Carhill- I've seen your posts on other posts of mine and others. You always seem to have great advice. May I ask how old you are?
sedgwick Posted March 29, 2008 Posted March 29, 2008 Ouch...mine was a musician too, and I can't even listen to the GENRE of music he plays anymore (which is too bad, because I do like it.) 8 months since the breakup now and I'd still cry if I heard his music.
carhill Posted March 29, 2008 Posted March 29, 2008 (edited) May I ask how old you are? 49 in 39 days Never thought all those painful experiences with women over the last few decades would teach me so much Seriously, though your ex is still alive and well, I was applying my own grief process that I went through caring for my mother, who has dementia. She's still alive, but our relationship is essentially gone, due to her illness. A different dynamic from yours, but I can empathize. The disease process taught me that there is nuance to each minute of each day and we who are alive are blessed to experience them, even when there is loss. That's my wish for you. Your ex left something special for you, his music. It's a gift Edited March 29, 2008 by carhill
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