tonyeltiger Posted March 28, 2008 Posted March 28, 2008 I think that I have problems being too physical with anyone, be it hand holding, kissing, etc., until I know that someone wants to be in a relationship with me. I don't know. It's like I feel that if you do any of that stuff, you are in a relationship. And if you are not, it's just a physical thing, and I am not interested in just one. That being said, how long do all of you guys/gals wait before having a talk with someone you are interested in if you want to be in a relationship? For example, I have been on 3 dates with this girl, would really like to step things up (I did finally work up the nerve to put my arm around her in the theater!), but don't want to seem like I am pushy or anything....I just don't really feel comfortable getting more physical with someone until I know that they are interested in doing so. I suppose that is mostly the fear of rejection or them thinking that I am moving too fast, but I don't see anything wrong with the way I feel. We are both seniors in College, so I feel like it is kind of childish to not begin getting somewhat physical soon (i.e kissing). I suppose most will just say "well, kiss her then!", but I also wonder if I should kind of talk to her about how we feel about each other first...I don't know, maybe all of this stuff confuses me. Help me out, I'm new to getting back in this whole "dating thing"! PS: After re-reading this post, it does seem that I should just kiss her. Telling her that I really like her or feel like starting a relationship with her would probably seem much more strange than just kissing her lol. I just like the girl and am confused! Btw, wth is a relationship anyways? Do you always have to say "ok, I like you, do you like me? ok. lets be exclusive."? I wish I would have dated all through college instead of being with my HS sweetheart....now I don't know how people do this!!!! arrggghhh!
DanielMadr Posted March 28, 2008 Posted March 28, 2008 Dont think so much. Be at ease, relaxed and more fun. She wont appreciate dating a nervous bag of bones. Let your fears go. Rejection my azz. At least you tried. Look, be a gentleman, make slow moves nothing pushy either with your hands or words. There is nothing wrong on a kiss. If she wont like it, she will let you know. Enjoy it with all your body-cells, dont let your brain (that scared part) ruin it for both of you. Even more - you have to be brave for her too (girls are 10 times more scared than you). Shut up about relationship. She will let you know. Just dont behave like it is a fling. But please dont behave like she is your future wife. You dont know her. And it will make her under pressure. Light and Fun. Responsible but fun. I repeat. Dont talk about your feelings, let actions speak. When she starts to nag that she wants to hear some sweet words, grin and tell her some when she doesnt expect it.
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