sydney2008 Posted March 28, 2008 Posted March 28, 2008 Hi, I heard through the grapevine that my ex boyfriend (we were together 7 years) is getting married. We broke up about four years ago, and I'm now happily married. There is no feeling there or regret or anything, and our breakup was a long time coming so it wasn't like it was a devastating surprise or anything to get over. We had our share of problems, including him cheating on me, but I admit I stayed too long out of comfort rather than love, put little effort in, and treated him badly. I have not talked to him since our breakup, because I was angry about the cheating, needed time...he sent me an email congratulating me on my marriage, but I didn't feel ready to email him back. I know this has to be something I decide on my own, but I'm just looking for some advice. I've been feeling like I want to send him an email saying congrats, glad you're happy type thing. But would that be weird now? I feel like it is a nice gesture to make, especially since we had 7 years together, but maybe it's just better to let things alone. Any advice appreciated.
a4a Posted March 28, 2008 Posted March 28, 2008 If he wanted to hear from you he would have initiated contact. Leave it alone. What is the goal of contacting him? Drama? Is your congratulations really going to make his day? unlikely.
Lizzie60 Posted March 28, 2008 Posted March 28, 2008 Hum... if it was me.. I know I wouldn't bother unless contact was kept.. otherwise.. do not bother.. leave it..
reliance Posted March 29, 2008 Posted March 29, 2008 Leave him alone. He is part of your history now. You have someone new and so does he. I don't think there is any point in sending your congratulations. Just let him be.
compassion42 Posted March 29, 2008 Posted March 29, 2008 As long as your intentions are what you say they are(congrats,glad you're happy) and you truly mean this....you should go for it and send a simple email saying just that.
Curmudgeon Posted March 29, 2008 Posted March 29, 2008 As long as your intentions are what you say they are(congrats,glad you're happy) and you truly mean this....you should go for it and send a simple email saying just that. If I was your husband and discovered that not only were you keeping up with a former significant other and his life but were thinking about initiating communications with him, we'd have a real problem. The only time that's acceptable, in my book, is when there are children involved
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