starlite Posted March 28, 2008 Posted March 28, 2008 I know it is one of the most important things in a relationship. My ex and I got back together and one of our issues is being able to communicate properly. We are both stubborn, and I tend to be right, really...But I need to learn to put that aside. Last night we were having a great night. Made dinner, watched a movie, very cuddly...then he wanted to go in the bedroom. Well, I have a cat who likes to eat whatever is out so I had to quickly clean up and get the stuff off the table etc...and while I was doing this I called in the bedroom and asked for help, kinda joking, I thought he was actually in the bathroom. Then 2 minutes later I was done, I had to pee and I saw him laying in bed. He had just his boxers on so I said "where's your pants" but cutely... So, I came out of the bathroom without my pants and got on the bed and I could feel the tension already. He said "So, you want me to come help you clean..." and I was thinking he was being sarcastic so I was like "Yeah, lets go" DUH! MY PANTS WERE OFF!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Well, yeah....I KILLED THE MOOD he said. I wound up feeling like crap, he told me he wants excitement and I shouldnt have picked up (I didnt do the dishes or anything, just picked up quick) and this turned into a huge fight...me crying and us asking whether or not we should have ever gotten back together. Advice???? We need to communicate better. I just get defensive when he gets like that!
witabix Posted March 28, 2008 Posted March 28, 2008 I know it is one of the most important things in a relationship. My ex and I got back together and one of our issues is being able to communicate properly. We are both stubborn, and I tend to be right, really...But I need to learn to put that aside. That is a major point. I do not think you need to "put it aside" I would ask you to look closely at why you feel you are always right. Have you never made a mistake, or had a bad idea, taken a wrong turn? If you are always right then you have made the right decision to get back together with this person, surely thats the logic of your position? Can you see what I am getting at here, not you BTW. If you are infallible then there is no need for you to ask anyone anything, yet you do. So your infallibility is disproved. Talk to him about what is bothering you, explain that you have a cat that eats leftovers, put the cat out at night, close the kitchen door, there are many ways to skin a cat as the saying goes.
DanielMadr Posted March 28, 2008 Posted March 28, 2008 1. Kill the cat 2. Sarcasm and irony doesnt go well with arousal 3. When you want to efectively communicate with him about sex, well you know, men have a special throat microphone you can speak to, so they can hear you loud and clear.
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