guy.lepage Posted March 28, 2008 Posted March 28, 2008 Some of you may have seen my posts about my GF's possible affair. Our relationship is still in limbo and I have no clue what's going to happen. Meanwhile, I try not to think about it too much and get drunk as often as I can (not the real solution I know). I went to a party yesterday. Many of my friends were there, including my GF's very best friend (Claudia). At some point I had to much to drink and went to one of the bedrooms to take a nap. When I woke up, Claudia was sitting next to me and was rubbing my thigh, very close to my crotch. I was too weak/drunk to tell her to stop and now I feel terrible. I want to fix things up with my girlfriend but this feeling of excitement is something I haven't felt in ages. Please help!
Kiss Dont Miss Posted March 28, 2008 Posted March 28, 2008 People feel more arousal after sleep, it's proven. That's why many people like having sex in the morning. So your feeling of excitement is ok. I actually can't get - why does her best friend was rubbing you? It's strange. It's really strange. Maybe she likes you? Or maybe she wants to do something that will put you and your GF apart? P. S. Try to keep away from the bottle. It's no good. First of all, for you yourself, and then for your (ex) GF.
Author guy.lepage Posted March 28, 2008 Author Posted March 28, 2008 I guess my predicament comes from my anger against my GF for possibly seeing somebody else - and my own excitement from my contact with her best friend. And the fact that Claudia is her best friend makes it less appropriate - and more exciting... I feel so lonely I almost wish I had sex with her. Combine this with the fear that Claudia might tell my GF that I had an erection in front of her and I could be in one big mess...
Damagedgoods Posted March 28, 2008 Posted March 28, 2008 hey long time lurker first time poster. guy.lepage your lack of insecurity in yourself and lack of experience with women is what broiled down to this predicament. When you accuse someone of cheating without basis or evidance, it is the begining to the end. You crossed that line and now she has to defend herself against this accusation. The fact that she is vemously denies this even though your gut instinct tells you otherwise, is a telltelling sign that something might be wrong in your relationship (either you don't have enough confidence in the relationship always fearing that she would leave you for a bigger better deal or she has in fact cheated on you, or even both). As for her friend Claudia, it was perfectly normal to get erection when another woman is rubbing you down there, don't feel ashamed about it (although drinking alcohol in order to pass out to forget the pain is never a good solution). I don't believe you need to fear Claudia telling your g/f about this because no girl will tell her best girlfriend about doing this to her b/f unless she was in on it (which in this case you would know that you g/f is trying to sabotage your relationship in order to turn the tables on you and focus on the cheating attention to you rather then her).
BlueHaiku Posted March 28, 2008 Posted March 28, 2008 You're not going to be making intelligent and correct decisions if you're drinking heavily. Try to stop that if you can and work through the pain and insecurity. Only then will you be able to tell what you really want.
Author guy.lepage Posted March 28, 2008 Author Posted March 28, 2008 Thanks guys. I must admit that my experience with serious relationships is limited to my current girlfriend. I had plenty of not so serious girlfriends as a teenager but eventually got steady. In all the time I spent with my GF, I never even once had any doubts about her. This is the real obstacle that I am facing and I must say I feel like a wall of brick just hit me. I realize I shouldn't drink that much. Right now all I can think of is tonight's party and the sight of Claudia touching me. That won't solve my problem but the pain is otherwise so unbearable that I can't think of anything else. Having some sexual thoughts for a new woman makes me feel like a young man again.
BetrayedMM Posted March 28, 2008 Posted March 28, 2008 Well, if you're sleeping and someone's rubbing sensitive areas, no wonder you woke up with morning wood! Nothing to feel guilty about, it wasn't your decision. You're supposed to feel bad about a natural biological function? Pfffttt. Just indicates you're healthy, nothing more. Just try to stay away from this 'friend' of your GF. She sounds like trouble. And, if a man were to pull that stunt, he would be accused of attempted rape. Something to think about.
Damagedgoods Posted March 28, 2008 Posted March 28, 2008 I realize I shouldn't drink that much. Right now all I can think of is tonight's party and the sight of Claudia touching me. That won't solve my problem but the pain is otherwise so unbearable that I can't think of anything else. Having some sexual thoughts for a new woman makes me feel like a young man again. Have you ever thought that maybe this girl is not right for you?! ever thought about doing the complete opposite of what you think you should be doing and actually doing what it feels right?! ever thought about what being free is really about??! It sounds to me like you are a slave to the master and that is your woman. Just think about this scenerio: Telling your girlfriend that you are walking away and ending this relationship. While hooking up with Claudia for a night of passionate sex and without obligations?! doesn't that sound better then being afraid all your life!?
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