fovea Posted March 28, 2008 Posted March 28, 2008 Hello everyone. I am new to this site. I really need some advice. I hope I don't bore you all with this story. I just need to get this off my chest because I feel like I'm falling into a depression, but this should be the happiest time of my life. Let me start off by saying a little bit about myself. I am currently a medical student and I have one month of school left in my second year of medical school. I don't have a lot of dating experience. I am not the most social person in the world but I am kind, thoughtful, and respectful of everyone. So I met an amazing, funny, and beautiful girl at med school last year. She was also a med student. When we started dating last November, I immediately knew that she was the woman who I wanted as my wife. And, I told her that one day I could see myself marrying her. Our semester ended in November for three weeks. I asked her if she wanted to meet my family during the third week of our break, she said "yes". I was so ecstatic. Turns out that the her mother suddenly passed away two days before she was supposed to come and see me. I immediately got a plane to ticket to see her, and I drove four hours to the airport in conditions that I should not have been driving in that day. I just felt that I had to be there with her to comfort her in any way that I could. My sister warned me that she may lash out at me, but I need to take it. So I was ready for that. After the first or second day with her she started flipping out on me. Flipping out on me because she wanted me to tell her dad how much I loved her, and she was the women that I wanted to be with. I told her that I had not even thought about talking to her dad because I there to comfort her and it felt weird because their family was grieving. Well she went ballistic and told me that I didn't love her. She told me that I was a nice man, but she didn't think I was the one for her and that I should leave. My heart was so unbelievably broken because I had just come out there to comfort her. The next day she tells me that she'll give me another chance. This same scenario went on day after day for like two weeks. I was barraged with daily insults and made to feel like garbage in front of her friends and family. To keep a long story short I proposed to her the week after she buried her mother. I loved this girl more than anything so I said why not. I figured we would probably do it in a year. At this point we had been dating for two months. So we get back to school and I start talking about when I think we should get married. I told her we should wait a year and she flips out. She demanded that we get married in July. I said, OK. Even though I agreed to everything she ever wanted she continued to insult me and make me feel like a piece of crap. Every time she loses her temper I can't defend myself because she says it's just a phase that she is going through. I believe her and try to stick by her side by she continues to break me down every day with her mouth. If I don't say something to her I'm bad and if I do say something to her I'm still a bad man. To make this story a little more interesting, she was diagnosed with breast cancer less than a month ago. Well she asked me we could get married before her surgery. So I said, "I need to think about it". Well, she totally flipped again. I told her that we are in the last month of medical school and if we do it I would like it to be something quick. So we agree to get married in April. Turns out that its going to be a huge wedding, which I really didn't agree to. Well we are getting married next week, and just yesterday she told me that she hated me because I didn't want a honeymoon while we were finishing medical school. I am so stressed about not passing medical school because we had to have this huge wedding. I know my fiance is going through a difficult time, and I'm trying to be patient and supportive. But her temper and insults are breaking me down to the point where I don't feel like myself at all. It is very stressful because I try telling her how her actions make me feel, but she tells me to put those feelings away because they are nothing compared to what she is dealing with. I'm just trying to weather this storm and hoping that she doesn't always treat me like this.
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