roghornio Posted March 28, 2008 Posted March 28, 2008 Hello. Basically i split up with a girl couple of months ago, although we were in contact pretty much for this whole two months as she had given me, what i thought were signs she was still interested. I also ended up invited to her party , ended up staying the night.. you work out what happened! Recently we were again in contact, i had txtd to say i missed doing stuff with her amd then she replied saying she missed doing stuff with me too, i also asked if she was seeing someone new and she said no... So - taking all this as a positvie thing - I asked her out to go have dinner and she said shed love to but just as friends... so i said oops, i picked up the worng end of the stick , dont think we should meet up, have a nice life kind of thing. i think i miss having someone with me , rather than missing her if that makes sense - though she was brilliant ... thing is it's my birthday soon, and i asked her to come (she said yes)... i've not spoke with her for a week now, and im thinking is this worth her coming out for my party? i'm not sure how i would handle the situatuion if i was drunK? should i keep on with the no contact!? I'm still confused that she wants to be friends! i respect her decision, but i dont know wether to try again, or accept it all and be friends... i would still like to be her friend if nothing else can work out.
sedona Posted March 28, 2008 Posted March 28, 2008 If you're not sure of how you feel about her, but she's sure that she just wants to be friends, then maybe you go NC for a while until you can truly be friends with her without having hidden agenda. It sounds like you're doing well -- why risk ruining your emotional stability by having her around you?
wareagle Posted March 28, 2008 Posted March 28, 2008 Yea nc is the way to go if you still have mixed emotions about how you feel.
Classy Lady Posted March 28, 2008 Posted March 28, 2008 Dont do it, this is what will happen...you're inviting her with hope...she'll be sweet & nice at first, after a couple of drinks you'll try for more. She will then remind you she had made it very clear she only wanted a friendship, you'll feel devistated after the rejection, and that will make you have a miserable time afterwards. Keep it at NC for a while, once you feel your ready for a friendship & nothing but....then contact for friendship. Trust me I learned the hard way!!!! It's your Birthday....take it as a new year, new begining....Just have fun! Happy Birthday!
Author roghornio Posted March 31, 2008 Author Posted March 31, 2008 Good advice guys. Well I stupidly got quite drunk and sent a text that maybe I shouldn’t have, although her reply was not negative in the slightest… the next night Ended up another 3 or 4 texts back and forwards which got quite flirty – and cause I was out again and little drunk I mentioned how lovely she was… again – no negativity just more texts back and forward with her saying we should meet up soon… so still confused! Not sure if I should bring her or not on my party – but yeah, I would feel a little stupid if I got drunk and made a move only to get rejected… but you have to be in it to win it don’t you…
Author roghornio Posted April 1, 2008 Author Posted April 1, 2008 Well i asked her to come... I'll let you guys know what happens.
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