Un****ing Believable!

[LoserAtLove]

So if your keeping up with the soap opera that is my life. Here is the latest. The Ex left me a vm with priority. So in it she is going on and on about going to the cops about the key logger I told her I installed. Then she is being asked whether or not she wants to press charges. She thinks that i still want to monitor her stuff. WTF!!! I told her when I mentioned the key logger that I did not want to monitor anything. I gave her instructions. I also requested that after she remove it that she change her passwords because I don't want access to anything.

 

I feel like she is doing this to be spiteful because when she contacted me on tuesday expressing that she missed me and wanted to meet with me. I didn't and I was very cold to her. What does she expect. She dates a 19 year old while we where dating. Screws him. Hell even tells me she was with him two days earlier. And Im supposed to be like yes!!! I want you back, lets go out to eat. Keep screwing him on the side?!!? **** NOOOOOO!! This will definitly speed up my coping period. Going to the damn cops about something I told her about. Then this bitch has the nerve to mention shady things I have done in the past against me. SHE HAS NO IDEA WHAT I AM CAPABLE OF IF PUSHED!!! I'm sooooo heated!!!! She tells me this in a vm and shuts off her phone. Saying that she was tired from going out for drinks with her GF.

 

I left a message saying that she has removed the keylogger. If not she can clear out her pc. But again so that we where clear. I WANT NOTHING TO DO WITH YOU AT ALL!!!. NO CALLS. NO TEXTS. NO VM. She is DEAD TO ME!

[Prosecco]

Don't respond. If you like, go to the police yourself. Say what you did, that you've given instructions to remove, and are now worried that she might be trying to blackmail you or something. A person who is serious about going to the police should not be in contact with you.

 

Obviously - if you do go - you are extremely apologetic, you'll help them out anyway you can - you just want to move on with your life and get past your shameful episode.

 

Unless you've got some fairly serious criminal record, particualrly relating to computers, the absolute worse case scenario is you'll get a telling off in court. More likely you'll get a telling off in the police station, and no harm done at all.

 

Either way - she'd lose any hold you have on you. But you shouldn't contact her or respond to her messages or even answer the phone.

 

But - on the: Oh My God are you a psycho side - WHY would you do anything as disrespectful and disgusting as install a key logger on someone's computer? Yes - it COULD constitute a criminal offence, as she could argue you wanted to steal bank and credit card details etc. Not only that, but it's a ridiculous breach of trust, and generally unpleasant behaviour. If someone did that to me... I seriously would consider pressing charges, and would do it before they could do what I'm advising you. She has bloody good reason to be utterly furious with you.

 

Btw - "SHE HAS NO IDEA WHAT I AM CAPABLE OF IF PUSHED!!!"

You need help. Seriously.

[LoserAtLove]

I spoke to her. And she is not pressing charges. You're right Prosecco it was something crazy to do. I just had to know for sure if my intuition was right about her and the other guy. I would never do anything harmful. I made the comment about doing something if I was pushed because I was angry. Put in a helpless position.

 

About the help part.....your absolutely right.

[Prosecco]

She can still change her mind about pressing charges. But - seriously - go to anger management classes or arrange to see a therapist.

 

And - seriously - learn for the future if you truly doubt someone enough to stoop to sticking a key logger on their computer - you should have broken up with them long ago.

 

She's not pressing charges - good. Now cut all contact with her.

[macon]

Prosecco is absolutely right - you clearly have some serious issues you need to deal with - take their advice.