amythan Posted March 28, 2008 Posted March 28, 2008 Hi, back to the dating world and a little bit confused .. I met this guy during a party weekend and we finished the night having sex. It was very good and i never felt that great after my break up. Not because of the new guy but because i was feeling so over my ex ! We keep in touch by email - not massively but every week sending news and flirting a bit. He said it would be awesome to visit you one weekend and i agreed. He was insisting to keep in touch and speak soon ... ... Last saturday i had an accident and broke some ribs, got an operation and all the stuff .. On monday I sent him an email explaining in a funny way my disaster and saying it would be great to spend some time together (no nursing time, when i get recovered !!) and ... ... I got NO answer ! What should i think ? Has he changed his mind ? Well, I do not care that much about him but I am confused. Is he sending the message 'i do not give a s*** about u but if i have some free time i will contact you to make tourism and have sex' ???
Kamille Posted March 28, 2008 Posted March 28, 2008 so the timeline is: you met at a party and ended up having sex you two emailed back and forth a few times you got in an accident you email him Monday He hasn't replied. Well, I think this one would go in my 'mystery' drawer. So many things could explain his behaviour that I'm not sure what analysing the possibilities will acheive. And hey, congrats on getting over the ex!
Lovegod Posted March 28, 2008 Posted March 28, 2008 Maybe send him one more message, something a bit on the humorous side about him being busy and see what happens. If you get no answer a second time, it's time to move on.
NuTuDating Posted March 28, 2008 Posted March 28, 2008 Hi, back to the dating world and a little bit confused .. I met this guy during a party weekend and we finished the night having sex. It was very good and i never felt that great after my break up. Not because of the new guy but because i was feeling so over my ex ! We keep in touch by email - not massively but every week sending news and flirting a bit. He said it would be awesome to visit you one weekend and i agreed. He was insisting to keep in touch and speak soon ... ... Last saturday i had an accident and broke some ribs, got an operation and all the stuff .. On monday I sent him an email explaining in a funny way my disaster and saying it would be great to spend some time together (no nursing time, when i get recovered !!) and ... ... I got NO answer ! What should i think ? Has he changed his mind ? Well, I do not care that much about him but I am confused. Is he sending the message 'i do not give a s*** about u but if i have some free time i will contact you to make tourism and have sex' ??? One night stand. Move on.
zicke Posted March 28, 2008 Posted March 28, 2008 Well, first night sex sometimes becomes more, but rarely. Men SAY all the time that they respect women who have sex upon initial meeting, however, it is the rare man that actually means it. Double standard and all. If I were in your position, I would not contact him again. And not only that, if he did contact me after a week or so, I would ignore it, and perhaps return the contact a week or so later. But most likely, I wouldn't call or text him back ever after I had just revealed I was in an accident and he couldn't even muster enough energy or respect to reply back. Men tell you who they are when you first meet them. He just told you. Imagine a drama filled relationship of you always wondering if he was ever going to return your call, or return an email, or acknowledge you were in a horrible accident. He just saved you that. Thank him.
Author amythan Posted March 28, 2008 Author Posted March 28, 2008 On a side note ... I got an email from my ex saying I hope u r not in too much pain sweetie and for the first time ... I do not care at all !! Email back and forth laughing about how i am such a disaster and me asking him for gossip to keep me entertained. Now i know one day we can be kind of friends but i am soooo over him ! The other guy ... perhaps i will send him another message but next week. Not really feeling like fighting too much, if he is interested he knows where i am ...
zicke Posted March 28, 2008 Posted March 28, 2008 On a side note ... The other guy ... perhaps i will send him another message but next week. Not really feeling like fighting too much, if he is interested he knows where i am ... Your quote said it all---he knows where you are! Leave him be. Contact at your own risk..just sayin!
xpaperxcutx Posted March 28, 2008 Posted March 28, 2008 I think you should take the guy as a rebound even though it was just a one- night stand. Glad you got over your ex though.
Author amythan Posted March 28, 2008 Author Posted March 28, 2008 You are right - he is just a rebound guy and I do not even want a relationship right now, just casual. Anyway you convinced me ... I am not contacting him. There could be countless reasons for him not responding yet but overthink about them does not deserve my time. Just time will say if he is interested or has an excuse. I guess next time i will try a more traditional approach to dating instead the one night stand thing
zicke Posted March 28, 2008 Posted March 28, 2008 I think you should take the guy as a rebound even though it was just a one- night stand. Glad you got over your ex though. Ok, papercut? The guy hasn't returned her contact for almost a week--there is no rebound! LOL. And, do not call again! Dignity!
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