sungrl Posted March 27, 2008 Posted March 27, 2008 My b/f of 3 years wants a break. I am not suprised because we have been through a lot of fights, arguments and i think it has finally taken a toll on him. I told him things will get better, it is worth a try. He told me he doesn't know if he believes it will get better. He says honestly how he feels it is up in the air which is unfair to me and he knows it. He says he is skeptical that things will get better but this is what i am telling him so he is trying to take this into considersation. He said he just wants time to breathe and be his own company for awhile. He said he misses talking to me but it isnt fully enough to make things better I said how is a week or two without seeing one another going to change your mind in all honesty? He said just give me some time to miss you. He also told me i dont have to NOT call him and that i still can. But i dont think I will. I will give him his space and no contact. He said he knows the things he likes about me and what he doesnt want to lose but right now it seems the negative is outweighing it. He also says this is why he wants time because maybe its just frustration and he just needs a little space. I asked if we are still exclusive and he said he isn't looking to do anything and this is more about being his own company. He said i don't know what you are looking to do and he got a little defensive saying it sounds like you are looking for answer so you can make other plans. I told him i am not looking to make other plans at all, its the last thing on my mind. I said it is hard not knowing. He told me---well isn't it better to just take some space rather than say "ok, thats it, its over" And i said I hope you feel better and i hope you believe me and see it as worth it Basically he told me he would try calling me or texting me before the week is over to say hi and maybe next week we can see what happens. I know i should act like its over and prepare myself for the worst. But its really hard when someone puts this tiny piece of hope in you. I'm hoping he is doing this maybe to show he is serious about wanting things to change but he told me if he had to decide tonight it would no.
LucreziaBorgia Posted March 27, 2008 Posted March 27, 2008 People don't take breaks to figure out if they love someone. They take breaks to figure out why they don't. You may want to consider your options for a future without him. It sounds like he is not wanting to make things better. It sounds more like he is wanting to let you down easy while he takes him time finishing his emotional breakup from you. When he reaches that point and he is comfortable with letting you go, he will.
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