There is a woman I work with that I may like too much.

[SpacePilot]

I have never been on a site like this before, so sorry if everything about me shouts newbie.

 

There is a woman I work with that drives me absolutely mad crazy with desire. I haven't done anything irrational like getting jealous or anything. We are always friendly with each other, I am pretty sure she is involved but I need to figure out something else to do other than think about her every moment she is away.

 

I am kind of a hermit, don't go to bars and stuff very often and getting trashed is pretty rare but it does happen. I guess I am saying that I feel like this is only a "proximity infatuation" but I love her eyes and tats and everything.

 

I think it's worse that I put more meaning into things like her looking at me while twirling her hair. Always staring into my eyes for a moment before rushing out of the door. Always telling me how the shift is going or how she is feeling about the day.

 

One day she brushed up against me and I feel like electric shocks are exploding in my head every time I see her now. I almost feel like I look forward to days where I come into work (we actually share the very same desk and swap before and after each shift) and see her sitting there. She always smiles at me!

 

I can't help but notice a few obvious things about her, tattoo gallery body, shape that is desire in itself, creamy beautiful skin and vicious black hair with light green eyes. Dresses cool too. The problem is that I like all of these things, I like them very much and she possesses them all, even person-to-person kindness and mildly quiet with subtle humor.

 

I can hardly sleep, can hardly eat or dream without this person being present in my mind at all times. I checked out a couple OCD references before coming here to ask other people what to do of course, but I have no violent afflictions, nor want to create any problems with boyfriends work or what have you. I am kind of a quiet person so I don't like noise and problems.

 

I am so confused. I know I should just leave things be and let it go but I refuse. I know nothing about this stuff. I feel like a total freak, I hate it.

Edited March 27, 2008 by SpacePilot

[PuppyDogEyes]

All right, here's something to think about before you entertain these thoughts in your mind any longer - the possibility of a sexual harrassment lawsuit.

 

One day she brushed up against me and I feel like electric shocks are exploding in my head every time I see her now.

 

Possibly an accident, no more?

 

She always smiles at me!

 

That's what friendly coworkers do.

 

I am kind of a quiet person so I don't like noise and problems.

 

You're asking for plenty of noise and problems if you get involved in an office romance, I assure you.

 

I am pretty sure she is involved

 

All the more reason to stay away.

 

Really, I can't tell you what to do, of course, but this situation just smells to high heaven. I wouldn't do it. I wouldn't even go there.

 

Let's say that it does happen, just for the sake of argument. Would you be able to handle working with her if you two had a fight the previous night? Would you be able to control your feelings at work? Would you be able to keep a clear head at all times?

 

There's a reason that people say "don't **** where you eat"....

[Ofleg7]

Although a touch obssessive, infatuation is relatively normal

 

Do you talk to her much? Are you friendly with her? If not, I suggest engaging her in a conversation and finding a bit out about her. You may discover that she's not who you think she is, or you may make a very good friend. Try your hardest to supress your feelings though, do you know the saying "don't s*** on your own doorstep" ?

[SpacePilot]

I do talk to her everyday, and it is difficult for me to look at her sometimes. I already thought to myself, "don't crap where you eat" but things we have in common are fairly obvious because we have no only talked about our passion for gaming (thats the kind of company we work for also) but little things here and there we want/get from life in general.

 

I made some joke yesterday because I'd left some Gumby vids sitting there, about LSD and could not help but be attracted to her more when I saw her giggle. You are correct though, I should talk to her more and maybe we will become good friends.

 

"Try your hardest to supress your feelings"

 

I have been pretty good at keeping to myself and have considered that I may be looking deeper into all of those little things than someone normally would.

 

I have never had dreams or thoughts the way I did last night after posting this (which by the way, thanks for the quick replies, damn!) topic though; about having baby girls and this woman kissing my face, all kinds of wackiness. This really made me feel like a bizarre weirdo last night.

 

Maybe I should just let it all go and invite the two of them (this woman and her man) over for burgers or something and just hang out. I bet this pinching feeling in my back and shoulders would go away if I knew she was solidly a friend and nothing else.

 

As far as the dating a co-worker feeling is, I don't typically let arguments get so out of hand that I carry over the anger into the next day. Not that it hasn't happened, but for me it is pretty rare as I am generally pretty passive.

 

Getting a response has already lifted a great weight off of my shoulders. I just might be able to go into work here in a few hours and be a normal dude again. Maybe this person is just naturally cute and sweet, and I should leave it like that at all costs.

[SpacePilot]

Now I just feel ten times worse. Cya I think this is my last post, sorry if I disturbed your forums

[Ofleg7]

lol oh dear