rynj Posted March 27, 2008 Posted March 27, 2008 So me and this guy were dating for 4 months... he asked me out a month and a half ago, I said "yes"but told him that I couldn't because at the time I still had ties with my ex boyfriend (lease issues on the apartment and I still had some feelings for him). We still saw each other everyday and still did the same things, kiss, cuddle, etc. Last week I asked him to be my boyfriend and he said that he couldn't and only saw me as a friend (even though we were still kissing, holding hands, having sex). He was really into me before and I know its my fault I had him, but I just didn't think it was right for me to be official with him until all my ties from the past were gone, but I knew all along I eventually wanted to be with this guy. So yesterday I asked him to come over to my place. I lied and told him that I needed help with something. I made pasta and breadsticks. I set up a table, had wine. I also bought 18 candles and 2 dozen flowers... the first dozen I scattered all over the room and on the floor. I put the candles all over the room and I lit them up, I told my sister in law to light the candles while i went to go pick him up. ( were both 20 years old). The other dozen flowers I gave to him and had a balloon that said "kiss me." I also bought him a card that said "My game has been off without you" and it had a picture of a little boy losing a baseball game (I also wrote how much he meant to me and that "some people are worth giving another shot"). So I went to pick him up and when he got to my room he was very surprised. At first he didn't know how to react, I kissed him and he seemed hesitant at first but eventually loosened up. While we were both standing up I played "Until the end of time" by Beyonce and Justin (when we took a trip to San Fransisco they kept playing that song) and I told him to dance with me, we did and we hugged and he hugged me tight and I was crying. After we had dinner (he really liked the pasta that i made haha) he said "youre gonna make me cry" and I gave him the flowers and the card. After dinner I told him to come sit next to me and we just laid on the floor and we were hugging and he was kissing me. he said that "I am having mixed emotions right now and I dont know what to say... I need time." So before we left I asked him to dance with me again, but he said he had to go... but to my surprise he played the CD again and we danced again and he held me really tight and kissed me. When the song ended he had to go, so I took him home. On our way home I turned on the radia and the song "Love like this was playing" and after that "With you" by chris brown played haha. In the car he held my hand and kissed it. When i dropped him off I told him "All the balls are in your court"... I asked if I should call him and he said "i'll call you." Well he called me that night just to say thank you and he said that he needed time. I asked him that's fine with me but that if he doesn't call within a certain amount of time i'm assuming he's not interested. I didn't give him a set time because I feel if he were to call it should come naturally not forced. But to myself I'm giving him 2 weeks and if he doesn't call then im just gonna move on. So what do you guys think? How much time should I give him? Thanks in advance! __________________
Porn Man Posted March 27, 2008 Posted March 27, 2008 That is a very good question and unfortunately I don't have an answer to that. I saw that you mentioned that even though you two aren't official that you are still having sex. You may want to hold off on the sex until you have an answer, otherwise he may only be using you for sex and may never want to be official with you.
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