ketostix Posted March 27, 2008 Posted March 27, 2008 I put this in the rant section but I'm not sure if it's a personal rant or where should it go. I was just thinking about taking a few hours of my time and going to the bar and try to pick up a hot younger girl. And I got so upset and frustrated thinking about what I'll always invariably see happen. All the jerks, players, frat guys and douchebags are going to swarm all the hot girls and then at the end of the night take the girls home. This makes me so mad ! I'm a good guy. I believe treating a woman the way she wants to be treated. Honestly I do I want to have sex with some of these hot girls bad. But I'm not wanting just sex, and if these girls want to get with a guy then it wouldn't be wrong or pervy for me to be the one to want to do it. Maybe I should not act so nice, I don't know. I'm just getting a little frustrated. Does anyone here ever see what I'm saying when they go out or feel this way too? Does anyone have anything they can say that would make me not feel so bad? Am I being too nice or what?
Dagger Kockburn Posted March 27, 2008 Posted March 27, 2008 I put this in the rant section but I'm not sure if it's a personal rant or where should it go. I was just thinking about taking a few hours of my time and going to the bar and try to pick up a hot younger girl. And I got so upset and frustrated thinking about what I'll always invariably see happen. All the jerks, players, frat guys and douchebags are going to swarm all the hot girls and then at the end of the night take the girls home. This makes me so mad ! I'm a good guy. I believe treating a woman the way she wants to be treated. Honestly I do I want to have sex with some of these hot girls bad. But I'm not wanting just sex, and if these girls want to get with a guy then it wouldn't be wrong or pervy for me to be the one to want to do it. Maybe I should not act so nice, I don't know. I'm just getting a little frustrated. Does anyone here ever see what I'm saying when they go out or feel this way too? Does anyone have anything they can say that would make me not feel so bad? Am I being too nice or what? Man, this is exactly the same frustration I am dealing with. I mean, I feel so average. It's as if I am just spinning my wheels trying to meet and attract the opposite sex. I will sit there at the bar/club, and hope that these women will eventually see how big a douchebag these other guys are. However, they just end up going home with those very same d-bags. What is a guy to do?
Author ketostix Posted March 27, 2008 Author Posted March 27, 2008 Man, this is exactly the same frustration I am dealing with. I mean, I feel so average. It's as if I am just spinning my wheels trying to meet and attract the opposite sex. I will sit there at the bar/club, and hope that these women will eventually see how big a douchebag these other guys are. However, they just end up going home with those very same d-bags. What is a guy to do? Yes this is exactly what I keep seeing. So I know I probably need to be more active and approach the girls more. But these other guys try to bully and intimidate and I'm a pretty well built guy, but there's like all their buddies there. I think being nice makes the guys think I might be a pushover too. The reason I don't go hog wild and act aggressive is not jut because of the othr guys in the way, but I don't want the girls to think I'm being creepy and want just sex. I don't get it though sometimes with these young college girls if I act nice they sometimes make feel like I'm being more creepy then the douchebags who really are pervy. I don't get it, aren't I being friendly enough or what?
Lishy Posted March 28, 2008 Posted March 28, 2008 (edited) Stay nice hon - It is always the best way Players win in the short term, this is true, but the nice guy will have the happier life Good luck x Edited March 28, 2008 by Lishy
JamesM Posted March 28, 2008 Posted March 28, 2008 Be a macho man and take em by storm! Or doesn't that philosophy truly work?
HeavenScent Posted March 31, 2008 Posted March 31, 2008 If you're good looking, you'd get all the girls. On the serious side, just be yourself.... and I don't mean like JP. Players are just that = they don't last. Real women want real men. Simple as that.
vivrantflo Posted March 31, 2008 Posted March 31, 2008 It's all about confidents gents...women can smell it a mile away.. even in packed clubs!! I know im cute...hell... I look GQ even in my PJ's.. Women can sense my confidence and it gets them every time! Douchebags, players, jerks, and @ssholes all score the chicks.... and what do they all have in common?? Confidence!!
D-Lish Posted March 31, 2008 Posted March 31, 2008 A smart woman can tell the difference between a douche bag and a confident male. A confident guy who has the balls to approach me can win me over regardless of whether he's super hot or not. Confidence is sexy- arrogance is not. I met a guy a couple weeks ago. He made eye contact with me and came over with his pool cue and asked me to take his shot for him while he went to the bathroom. He wasn't the most attractive guy in the bar- but he had "something about him".... that something was charm and balls. He wasn't rude, he wasn't a jerk... he didn't come on too strong. He didn't make lewd comments or invite me to go home with him- he just saw what he wanted and came after it. I respected that. A super hot guy flexing his muscles and calling me babe while he looks over my shoulder to see if the girls behind me are hot won't get anywhere with me- he'll see my back as I walk away.
Woggle Posted March 31, 2008 Posted March 31, 2008 You should chbange your enviroment. Clubs are filled with idiots these days for the most part so if you want a good partner whether you are a man or a woman they are not the place to go.
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